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Liz Lemon.
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Ella
Been on 3 dates with this guy within past 3.5 weeks. Great conversation. Good vibes. Clear connection. He hasn’t made any moves whatsoever. No kiss yet, no hand holding nothing really. I didn’t mind at first but it’s getting to me thinking hes not actually attracted to me (yet we have been on 3 dates??). He even said to me that our first date went so incredibly well and that he really feels comfortable around me. I got in my head last night during our third date because things weren’t really planned for the time slot between dinner and before the movie we saw. So we just walked and talked some more. It was sometimes hard to read him, I was really trying to make sure everything was right and I think it might’ve came off like that. He still said he enjoyed him self and had a lot of fun. I enjoyed myself too! I did plan this 3rd outing so the ball in his court for after the holiday and whatnot I feel like to plan something if he wants. I really do like him and enjoy spending time with him and have made that clear and he said yes he does too but actions speak louder than words! Only time will tell.
Liz Lemon
I didn’t kiss my boyfriend until the 3rd date, and the kiss was initiated by me. I was in a similar situation where we had great dates and a really good vibe with a great connection, super comfortable, etc. But he wouldn’t kiss me. I finally wound up doing it and he was so relieved and happy. Turns out he was a bit nervous (even though he was initiating dates and I was enthusiastically accepting), thought I was slightly out of his league, didn’t want to cross the line or offend me, etc. And now we’ve been together over a year and a half.
Of course that’s just my situation. It totally depends on your personal situation, vibe, & body language whether it’s the right thing to do. It certainly worked out in my case. The thing to remember is that men are human too, and have insecurities and hang ups as much as anyone. He might really like you and just be nervous about making a move physically. And especially nowadays in the current environment, I think sometimes men (at least some men) are very careful about not wanting to cross lines or offend women by making physical advances.
Let him initiate the next date and like you said, only time will tell. See how it goes. But if the opportunity presents itself (as it did in my case), and it seems right (as it did in my case), don’t be shy about initiating a kiss. That’s my advice :-)
Liz Lemon
Also, look at it this way. If you initiate a kiss after several dates and he reacts strangely, or says he’s not attracted to you (I don’t see why he’d be taking you on dates if he wasn’t, but whatever)– at least you’ll know, and can move on to other guys who DO want to kiss you!
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