Nothing ever happens

Well. time will tell as I ALWAYS SAY !

Roll on 8 weeks for Getrmany ! STILL a lifetime away. yet.. it gives him time to miss me and for me to househunt. Off to look at a church later, but BET I will be outbid again… divine intervention is needed here ! It’s a stunningly beautiful church.

Maria – haven’t received it yet … will keep a look out. Also I believe in the get back on the horse fast again when you fall off. As these bad dates too are a learning experience for me. I check to see then if there were any red flags that I could have missed. I am so inexperienced in dating and the only way to gain experience is to date right? No amount of books can teach you how to date and how to stand firm and how to pick up red flags and how to keep your hormones in check ;)

Also my weakness is tall guys and the “sick” guy is 6.3″ (swoon) hahahaha. The Sunday guy was 5.9″ …. taller than me but not as tall as I like them but def has the 75% trait requirement that I require of guys.

Vi – besides yoga guy any other eye candy??

Serena – any more acupuncture appointments? Any eye candy anywhere??

Harley – What are you going to do with a church??

Tipperary is a real place? It’s not just in the movies? Cool.

There’s a place called Cork too, right? I always have dreamed of living in Ireland, but then you wrote that all Irish men are idiots. Ha.

Ann, have been meaning to ask U … what hpmd to golf guy??? U guys still dating??

Ann, the guy I just posted about is Irish, lol :) They’re not ALL idiots… :P

There’s also a place called Limerick, and Balnaslow.

Okay, I just replied – said “I’m totally up for that – pin me down with a day when you know your schedule”.

Was that okay?!

Hahahahahaa

@Sherri…Golf Guy….hahahaha.

Nope. We had that big “event” weekend, that was fun, but I don’t know, it just felt forced or something. Then we saw each other a couple of times after that, talked and texted and honestly, he is more into golf and his work. It was a mutual ghosting. It’s actually quite an accomplishment for me, because normally I would be doing hand stands, trying to keep his interest up. I just didn’t. He is generally a nice guy though, but, I don’t know, it started to feel like work. I of course am still trying to rid myself of Gambler Guy. I have given myself a drop dead date of Halloween, and I’ve mostly accomplished it. I have retreated on the on-line stuff. There is one guy that I have been dating though, he seems really nice, interested in me, and I him. Keeps asking how he could be so lucky. I’ve become really wary though, so time will tell. I’m trying to get off the whirlwind and just regroup. What’s weird about this guy….Let’s call him Normal Guy, he asks a ton of questions. He is very interested in learning about me. That is new for me. He also talks about the future a lot, and what he wants to do with me this winter. Like I said, we shall see. With my luck, I’ll eventually see some kind of addiction…I’m an Addict Magnet. :)

I’m happy to hear not all Irishmen are idiots :) ….. And, Vi, agree with Sherri, give him a couple available times.

Seriously though, I’ve taken the posts about The Secret to heart. I am trying to think positive thoughts, be centered. I think there is something to how we attract what we are thinking about.

Helloo All !

Celeste.. forget the ex. .SHE HAS the issue. TOTAL NUT JOB. Just grit your teeth and be supetr cool. START posting places you and J WON’T be, but pretenf you ARE going to.. will give her the runaround !!! ooh.. I’m evil ! She THINKS she wants him back. but she don’t ! YOU. would have MORE of a problem if HE was going FOR HER !.. HE@S NOT. Be cool and secure.

Ann.. great about golf guy.. yuoare learning. NEW guy is a slow warm up.. THAT ID GREAT ! Play it by ear and see how it goes.

Vi…go out with him!!!!! He’s warming up to a proper date i think. I knnow this forum says WHEn a guys wants you HE MAKES IT CLEAR.. but sometimes I think there are grey areas/mixed signals… super shy guys, WE don’t pick up on their hinnst, so knock them down, they too afraid to try again,guys with money probs/marriage probs.

Sherri.. good luck with new prospects.

Red. .keep baking ! Forget the other guy !

Maria.. yep Cavan close to home. Off to see a house tonight, only ONE in my price range, but I HAVE thought about what VI says…. maybe I AM NOT meant to get a house here !

Serena, hope you not too busy at work,and health is ok.

I KEEP getting eyed up by guys these days.. great for my ego ! But.. I stil think of Frank !

Maria, the thing is though that I’ve been getting a lot of attention from men for quite a while now… but the reason I started the topic was because “nothing ever happened” as a result of all this attention. The Irish guy was actually one of the people I had in mind when I was writing the topic – as I had a slate of men at that time asking me out but not following through. I came to the conclusion that I was being too eager…

Interestingly, when he asked me out again last night, I slotted into the exact same worrying mind frame. “What will I say? I always say the wrong thing.” etc. Before guys talk to me I project a magnetic aura, but once they talk to me I resort back to my old default position of “I’m not good enough”. I need to learn to maintain an attitude of:

1) I am amazing and loveable, and men want to discover and love me.
2) There are an Abundance of good men out there.

I find when I maintain that attitude I become a magnet… but then I let it slip away. Working on it!

Harley, I agree some men are shy… but I’m not interested in any guy now who doesn’t chase me and follow through regularly. They will keep doing that in the relationship, and it’s not good enough.

Vi, maintaining the attitude of no 1 and 2 sounds like a really good idea.

A few days ago you said (re the kind of relationship you want) “I’m his queen”. I think you need to apply that approach now, don’t wait till you’re in a relationship:

– BE the Queen, Diva, Goddess, Prize (or Minx for that matter),

– LIVE with the attitude that you’re amazing and lovable,

– if a guy shows interest, ALWAYS assume that he is interested/like you etc.

Perhaps you should take on an alter ego and fake it till you make it… practise does make perfect…

Re shyness, I think there are different kinds of shyness… and in most cases a shy guy is most compatible with a shy girl. I know I’m definitely not compatible with shy guys… but that doesn’t mean that there’s something wrong with them or with me…

Harley, I think you are meant to find a house in Ireland, I’m not sure if it will happen now or “later” though. As for Frank, by Christmas you will know…

It’s also a matter of what turns you on… some girls like confidence and others find shyness super cute… but like you said, too opposite will never work…

Personally I need a man that gets me and that’s easier if we are alike.

There will always be a natural “opposites attract” in a relationship between a man and a woman though, since we are natural opposites. I prefer to call that completing each other though…

Hmm… that IS puzzling… confident in life but not in bed…

And you are absolutely right… in a situation like that a confident girl like you can bring him out of his shell.

It will be very interesting to hear what will happen when you go to Germany and (hopefully) meet him.

Which house in Cavan is it? What address?