Nothing ever happens

LOL Maria ;) Actually, I was cycling home from a film event on Tuesday night, and a guy started to follow me, asking for my number. It wasn’t scary (I told him he was being creepy and to get lost), but I’m just having bizarre experiences at the moment. Different ones to usual (like going on a date with a gay man, lol :D)

No news on the house yet, but I have a strong feeling that things are about to change for the better in many areas of my life.

YOU sound like you have a fun day planned! Delighted that you’re connecting with a man you like – you deserve it :)

Sherri, I’m going to sound like broken record on this, but personally, part of my screening process includes how keen the guy is to meet. Vague suggestions or a lack of initiation NEVER bode well, nor do cancellations. I know it’s hard to be that cut and dry when you’re in the situation, but look what just happened with me? Guy was very vague about when we were going to meet… turns out to be gay!

I also don’t believe you know someone until you actually meet in person and have at least three dates. Of course, you still don’t know someone after three dates, but date one both people are usually exaggerations of themselves, and during date two and three you find out how accurate that facade was. About a year ago I went on a date with a great guy. Totally hit it off with him, really liked him. He took me out for dinner on date two. He turned up stoned, paranoid, told me he had a criminal record (as a violent offender) and wasn’t allowed to leave the country, and then got mad at me when I wouldn’t go home with him that night. So, yeah.

All I would have done differently in your case was that I would have lost interest after the first cancellation. I think for the first dating period there should be a one-strike policy. lol.

With phone guy we had once made tentative plans but I had told him that I would let him know and when I could meet, he had a head cold and so we did not end up meeting. I let that go as I did not see it as cancelling as I let him know last minute anyway. With the other time, he said he had to cancel as a last minute client meeting came up and since he is building his business I understand if that meeting is a priority. I usually treat people like how I would like to be treated and I have cancelled dates last minute if something came up with my kids. I have even stopped a making out session midway with FWB when I had to rush for something with my daughter. He was nice enough to go to the mall till I was done so we could continue LOL.

Maria – what you said totally made sense about him being in the “difficult” (and arrogant) category. Its good that I am “practice dating” and not really in a mind of actively looking for a relationship. I wonder if I would take things personally if I were …..

Since the settlement has come thru I now have to inform my lawyer and wait nervously for his bill. Sigh.

Harley – Congratulations on the house.

Vi – So awesome u meeting a gay guy. Now even gays cant stay away from you ;)

Maria – with hot guy …. hmmm I think u will look hotter. Don’t be surprised if he starts sweating ;)

I am thinking of starting a thread discussing when a girl is being “understanding” and when she is being taken advantage of. As I have been thinking about this a lot lately and would like other’s input.

Thanks Sherri <3… not sure if it’s possible to top his hotness though… (but I will try of course)… Regardless… I’m just gonna relax, play my favorite game and have fun…

Vi, your words “sounds like you have a fun day planned” made me think… we did plan the day but said nothing about the night. I guess we both took for granted that we’ll spend it together, but neither of us wanted to say it out loud… which is great cause it adds even more heat and tension to the equation…

Celeste, it’s gonna be 20° and sunny tomorrow. My sweater is kind of warm and fally though, so I’ll be fine even if the weather fails.

Pinups… I LOVE pinups. Dita Von Teese rules… if your body looks anything like hers, you should totally celebrate every day of the week…

Hey girls <3. I had a fabulous weekend (he soo did not stand a chance). I hope yours were great as well…

Harley, I think it’s good to shock our system once in awhile (with alcohol, sex or something else) (not drugs)… to give it a solid blow… and then regain balance… sometimes we look at the world a little bit differently afterwards…

Vi, Serena, Sherri, Celeste etc, updates please…

And happy new week to all of you !!!

I totally agree… of course we have to try… to throw ourselves into the air/the unknown…

That’s what moves us forward (regardless of if we made the right or wrong decision)…

That’s what makes our lives interesting, exciting, vibrant, pulsing and alive…

And also probably, for a part, I wanted to go to London/I felt in love for London, because I felt in love for a guy there.

Lol. Maybe…

Or maybe it s meant for you! The only solution is to live it, act on it and see.

Good Morning Ladies!!!!

Harley – Congrats on ur new house. What do you plan to do with it when going to Germany? Rent it? Any news on the job transfer front??

Maria – You go girl!!!! I knew he wouldn’t stand a chance …. poor guy .. I doubt he knew what hit him ;)

Celeste – How’s the car?

Tams – Totally missed you … how are you?

Vi – How are all the guys who r chasing you? Keep them sweating … good workout ;)

Serena – How and where are you?

Had a great weekend with my FWNBs. Met one FWNB on Friday and saw the movie Maze Runner with him. I actually liked it and would like to watch the sequel. Met another FWNB on Saturday and we went to play pool. I don’t know much about the game so he was teaching me and was really patient even when I was screwing up the shots. It was a fun, no hassle, no stress, enjoyable evening. Sunday had a nice workout (I really needed it). Went thru my entire closet and put away the summer stuff and removed the winter stuff and purged some of the stuff. I felt quite accomplished after that LOL. And then in the evening spent it with my TV watching “Nurse Jackie”. I really like her gumption. On the whole it was a good weekend.

Today most probably I may meet P (don’t know yet … its a tentative plan). I don’t think I am going to have sex with him but may be cuddles and kisses …. that’s fine. Lets see how the evening pans out :) . No plans yet for the rest of the week so if any of you ladies planning to come to Toronto … lets meet up ;)

I sent a “flirt” to a guy on POF.. BIG step for me ! I still like Frank… but reality is.. he’s not returning my affections !

Oh and Maria.. I got a lot more meat on me tham Dita.. that waist of hets wow!
Hard to type on my phone. I’ll update all tomorrow re; work drama.

Ha.. POF guy.. he’s 43, 5ft 11, works as an industrial engineer, seeking a relationship, separated with kids. That all I can remember. i “just” sent a flirt.. he may never reply ! He caught my eye. fair hair/brown, good looking. His name is 150shades or something. I can’t remember. Dublin area. I was going to wait till I came back form germany but then I thought “what the feck “.

It’s Frank’s birthday today, I will wait till later or till I get home tonight to wish him a Happy birthday. That’s ALL I’m saying.. “happy birthday” on his FB timeline.

WOOHOO Celeste.. it’s ALL action. Car is great, nman is great, job is great, one kid out of 2 is great.. you’re doing pretty well !

I spent a really nice evening with my kids and then took the older one for her swimming lessons. After that I went to P’s place. I had carried my tablet with me as I was not able to do something on it and couldn’t figure it out. He is in IT and showed me what to do. We just saw a movie which we did not finish as he wanted to have an early night but had told this to me before I came. So the moment it hit 9:30, I left after giving him a hug. It was like meeting a platonic friend. There was just hugging in a platonic way when watching the movie. I actually was feeling a bit weird about this. I had decided I did not want to be an FWB and we had spoken of not having sex before we met yesterday so that’s why the “platonic vibe”. I guess this guy goes into my FWNB list. I am going to give him some space for now as I think its my ego that’s a bit bruised. I think that though I mentioned to him that I did not want to have sex, I was not expecting a platonic vibe and my ego got bruised that he was so easily able to get over me. Especially till the beginning of Sep he was asking me if we could date again. I need some space from him to placate my bruised ego. Do you girls think I am shallow and vain??

On another note, another one of my FWNBs actually asked me if I wanted to start dating him and I said no as I like what we have and don’t want to change the dynamics. To which he accepted it and said he treasures my friendship.

WOOHOO ! Well done Celeste… just hold it all together for tomorrow now.

For some reason I could not timeline Frank a happy birthday, so I sent a message a while ago. AS expected.. he did not reply. My life… comical as it is, a US mate of Frank’s and mine posted a bottle of Guinness on FB,i posted that he had to taste the real stuff, he said is that an invitation to Ireland, i said yes,he said next yr he would be coming to Germany, i said i could meet him there… he said he’d still like to come to Ireland and could Frank and Michel come too. I said OF COURSE… I had already invited them weeks ago.. which I had, before I got with Frank.

HOW do I DO it !!!!!

anyway… am gonna do my best to forget Frank.