Nothing ever happens

I met my husband when I was 17….we had our first child when I was 21 while we were engaged, and we married 2 years after that. Basically I went from my father’s house and rules into a serious relationship with the bf, so I never really experienced too much unfettered freedom. He even ended up going to college close to me, and we spent all our free time together. After he graduated, I still had two more years to go, but ended up getting pregnant before heading back up for my senior year at college, so I was the “quiet pregnant chick” who lived in the upstairs corner room at my sorority house. I’d come down for classes, food, and the endless snacks that I HAD to have!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol That’s it.

But when I first got separated, well, I inadvertently ended up on a shagging spree b/c I had no idea what the Hell I was doing as far as proper dating, and jumped into bed on too many first dates. :-/ I shudder to think about it now, but I can’t go back and change it.

Think of yourself as wonderfully unique, and only a truly special man gets to experience ALL of you and ALL aspects of your wonderfullness. :-D

All guys and women are different I know women in their 50’s that cant seem to be responsible and want to still act like a teenager. And I know guys in their early 20’s who don’t want to play the field they enjoy the calm “family” life. So it really depends on the person and their maturity level.

Yup…. Mel sums it up well. It’s all about finding the right peg for the right hole .. no perverted puns intended ! A guy who is compatible with you. Mike at 54.. immature, Frank at 43.. waaay mature. And yes.. I have REALLY come into myself in my 40’s. Much happier, confident, secure, know what I want or as Celeste said.. at least what I don’t want.

Cleo, that sounds serious “too many guys trying to finger you while you dance”. You shouldn’t LET THEM do that to you – it really is up to you to give out signals that that is NOT OK…

Ha.. Cleo’s comment. Bloody hell/well.. soo true here. I can’t get out for a night without some guy coming up and hitting on me, or trying to touch. And you wonder why I go around hitting guys in the balls !

Even when I’m at the bar , reading a paper, minding my own business……….. some guy has to start ! AnD of course… it’s NEVER a drop dead hunk………. ALWAYS a foul looking/smelling skunk !

Mel.. I must try to remember that. better than the kicking. it’s just.. I hate being groped and it’s a reflex reaction… I really must stop it !

DEADLY ! I love that one ! MMN………… no undearwear………. don’t start me thinking !

I’m gonna have to wear one of those “granny” underwear contraption thing-ees, that SUCK my stomach in. Briget Jones won’t get a look in !

Fiesty ! That;s the irish bit.

Well I do play big girl ball, I will kick your ass first and ask questions later if you try to touch me. I literally slammed a guys head off the bar once.
I never got in any trouble, the bouncers were my body guards anyway so.
But I shouldn’t have to get violent for someone to realize that this IS MY BODY NOT THIERS DONT TOUCH. So I quit going out.

Hmm… guys do hit on me, but very cautiously… as for touching/grouping (without me being OK with it), it doesn’t happen. Probably because I have friends (both male and female) around me most of the time (and I send out “don’t even try” signals as well).

A while ago a guy just walked up and kissed me (on the mouth) though… he said “I’ve wanted to do that all night”… I didn’t hit him… why? cause it didn’t feel as if he was invading my space… it felt cute, bold and totally OK (I had been looking at and flirting with, but not talked to him earlier that night)…

I actually did the same thing when I met my ex. I met him in a club, we talked and flirted all night, I was super attracted to him but knew nothing was gonna happen since he had seroius ex problems… yet… I wanted him to know for sure how I felt… so when the club was about to close and we we’re going home, I grabbed his shirt… and kissed him right on the mouth (I kissed him, smiled, said “bye”, turned and started to walk away) and it “worked”… 3 seconds later he said “wait”, asked for my phone, typed in his number and said “this is my home number in NY, CALL ME when you get there” (this was in December and I had told him that I was going to NY in June next year)…

I did go to NY and I did call him and we ended up in a 9 months long relationship after that…

OMG Cleo.. ewww. I have had a few ass grabbers in my day, but nothing like that. I did have a man kiss out of nowhere a couple of years back at a concert. He was gone so fast I had no time to react.

Harls.. I am laughing at your smelly man comment, but really how can you blame them for hitting on you?? :)

Quiet weekend here.. mom and dad coming to visit. Love to see them, but it is hard to see my mom since her stroke. She has given up trying to work on her speech and it makes me sad to see her fade away.

J and I will be going out Saturday afternoon for a bit and I am cooking for the whole crew Sunday afternoon.

Wow.. feel like I should not have complained. So upset. Dad just called. They were driving down to visit and he thinks Mom had another stroke. They are at hospital in CT getting her checked out. Sick to my stomach. Already called crying to J and best GF. She is only 67 and seem so old and frail. Waiting to hear is horrible.