Nothing ever happens

Well I’m single again:-( didn’t even see that one coming.

Thanks for that Maria. I SOOO hope you are right. In my text to him and Ralf. I teased them about soccer…said when I was coming back…hope to meet them all fir drinks and can they find a good Halloween party and can we do something the next day so I see something of their beautiful countryside a d don’t just spend my visit in pubs. So…we’ll see. I am trying not to get my hopes up but boy is he Sexy !!

Glad all is going well with you.

Mel
OMG.. WTF?

What the HELL! Mel,,,,,,what happened? Hugs sweetie…..ugh

so basically what happened was a girl that he had a crush on for 10 years got a hold of him out of the blue 3 days ago and I guess she admitted to liking him too so he felt that he needed the opportunity to explore that he told me how sorry he was and that he didn’t want to hurt me but felt that he needed to be upfront and tell me I told him find go do what you want but you’re no longer with me he started to cry and say that he doesn’t want to lose me in his life that he loves and cares for me deeply but doesn’t know if he’s ready for that kind of strong commitment. he said he was sad about throwing away our relationship but he just doesn’t know what to do he asked if we could still keep our plans I told him no.it was a very emotional conversation I did not over react or raise my voice in any way I simply told him that isn’t that is something he has to do then he should do it and if I truly had made him happy this wouldn’t be happening. I know he’s going to continue to try to contact me he has made it very clear that he wants to stay in my life I just don’t know what to do right now.

Unbelievable. It’s great that he told you what was going on in his head, but still. Jesus H. Christ. Damn damn damn. Completely out of left field…….

Good for you for telling him what you thought though. But again….DAMN DAMN DAMN.

oh no he didn’t put our relationship on hold I told him if that’s what he wants he’s not having me to end of story not going to happen I also told him one of three things are going to happen he’s going to meet up with her and have a casual fling and see what happens or you going to meet up with her and realizes that he missesf*** out of me or he’s going to meet up with her have a fling and move on he said most likely it’ll be option two but I told him too bad you made your choice and choices have consequences. That’s when he started to cry and telling me how sorry he is for screwing this up. it obviously was a really long conversation too much to continue to type it word for word but it just does I know he feels bad and he has a lot of thinking to do I also know is I will most likely hear from him todayI just don’t know what I will say back.

Wow. This is the guy that went out of his way to see you the other day, just for lunch.

I think he got scared. This is not someone who can be truly committed to you, he will always have one foot out the door. You would never, never feel secure with him. You need NC. Oh, MY, sweetie. It’s going to be rough. We here all know how strong you are. Hugs….Hugs….ugh.

Ugghh Mel,
So sorry. This sucks. Wow.. do not know what to say. A crush is understandable, we have all had them, but to throw away a good thing for a maybe.
I am heartbroken for you.

J pursued 2 VERY attractive younger women – early 40’s – before dating me and it seems that they liked the attention, but did not reciprocate his feelings. I have had a few weak and insecure moments over the past year when I have worried about this exact thing happening in my relationship with either of these girls.. yuck. I know you are strong, but know that my heart is going out to you.

He is a very honest person so I have no reason not to believe anything he ever says. He doesn’t know what to think as of last night he hasn’t agreed to meet her he just didn’t know what would happen if he did meet her, he knows that they aren’t compatible as a relationship he told me that.
My dad hasn’t really said anything except his loss.
Like I said I will just have to see what happens he knows what a catch I am he said that last night but he’s scared of commitment right now and that I’m a lifetime woman so I don’t know maybe he needs to see what life is now like without me to find out what he wants. I don’t think this really has to do with the other girl I think it’s more his feelings became strong and it scared him.

Yes.. i did think of your last point… it’s not the girl.. it’s him an committment. Well.. he either mans up or steps out. Yes.. I think he needs to miss you and the wee one… it could be a rough few months though. I don’t think a few weeks is enough to miss someone really. I’m glad you can trust him to be honest.. that’s a good sign.

I guess.. time apart so !

Hope all went well today with the wee one !

Mel- I am so sorry for that to have happened to you. What a crummy situation. This girl he hasn’t seen in ten years, WTF. You are such a nice person, and I would have been going all holy hell on his arse. If he does text you just tell him what you are telling us. I mean you guys have been in a long relationship, and he should have known that you were in it for the long haul because it seemed he was to. It just flipping disturbs me that he could do this.

Maria- HAHA Back burner guy knows I am in a relationship with his friend, so he is not keen to text me back LOL. I think when I am single he would. Also, last night we went to his father’s birthday dinner together and his father invited me to go to Thanksgiving with them in North Carolina, to bad I always go to see my grandma for thanksgiving, but it was a nice gesture.

Harley- THAT DAMN GERMAN. FRANK NEEDS TO GET HIS ARSE IN PLACE. Or his clothes taken off and handcuffed to the bed and left there for weeks ;)