Nothing ever happens

Hoping to go out after out dinner tonight tonight.. Blues band playing and we are good for a few adult beverages once we have a food base :)

Mel, you sound so strong and maybe that comes from you setting the boundaries rather than vice versa. I was crushed when R broke it off with me.

Maria -enjoy the weekend.. agree early on that it is good to let him take the lead.

Ann – nothing wrong with normal. I was in the land of crazy for so long that i almost mistook normal for boring. I kept waiting for the other shoe to drop… hasn’t happened yet!
J is funny and goofy but calm and stable.
When we put up his xmas tree last year he was shocked when I told him that the process was good for 3-4 arguments when I was married.

Harls .. too bad the dog walker smokes.. I do not think I could get past that myself. I climb up in J’s neck all the time since he smells so good. He says I am like his cat lol.

Enjoy all of you ladies.. if any indication of how my weekends go. will catch up on Monday!

And yes Mel stay strong through this, you sound like such a strong woman. I myself am not that strong, and I envy you.

Lol Mel.. “She is not the woman you are looking for…”

Hey, Harley. I just posted in the “Complicated Situation/Mixed Signals” forum… and I’m suddenly feeling embarrassed. :/

@Harley, I haven’t had contact with Gambler Guy in weeks…its all good.

@Maria and Celestial, Normal for me is no addictions. Haaa He’s really cool. He lived in the Caribbean for many years selling real estate. Had a deli too, in Jamaica. He has a Christmas Tree farm now, and travels with his regular job…which is the bad part. So much travel. He is a good communicator, very secure and confident, really very manly. Sexy as hell. He keeps acting like I am the best part of his life though, and that is soooooo weird. There are amber flags though, the longest relationship he’s had only lasted 6 years, he doesn’t have kids……

Time will tell.

Oh that I am too… shame my German does not think so. daft fecker !
I replied.

I don’t know if there’s something in the water or what, but one of my best friends broke it off with yet ANOTHER guy Wednesday night. I just found out yesterday. Since she started seeing him this summer, we haven’t had a lot of communication going, as all her free time was spent with him….which has ALWAYS been her issue with me she’s been involved in. There is NO pacing at all. She jumps right in, and spends about 5 days a week with the guys, right from the beginning.

I didn’t ask her for details, as she apparently spent the day crying. :( Apparently she had a strong suspicion that he had spent time with another woman the night before, and she broke it off. I don’t know if they were actually bf/gf, if they had the exclusivity talk, or any ‘I love you’s’ had been exchanged, so whether this guy actually committed an “offense” is not a fact I know right now.

Aside from that, this builds on what I was saying the other day, where on paper everything APPEARS to be okay, where you’re spending time together, etc etc, but you just don’t know what’s really going on. Without knowing what the parameters of their relationship though, I can only speculate.

I feel badly for her just the same though. She is the sweetest, most loving, and positive person I have EVER met…and yet, her radar for picking men is awful. She doesn’t screen anyone…..she jumps right in and makes them her world.

So I don’t know. What’s ‘better’? A relationship where you see each other all the time, but there’s possibly not much of an emotional attachment by one or both of you, or a relationship where you barely see each other, but ‘know’ where you stand? (Basing that on the assumption that you have no reason to believe the other person is being less than forthright?)

This stuff gives me a headache…and just fuels my resolve to just go with the flow with my situation. If it works, great. If not, much like Mel, I’ll be fine.

Absolutely, Harls. I agree with you, and am the same way.

Mmmn…interesting with new guy Ann. Could be a flag. ..could not be. Explore and find out.

Your ex hubby. …HOLD IT RIGHT THERE ! You are already starting to feel guilty and back in wifey mode and ALLOWING his family to pull a guilt trip on you. I suggest you tell them Quite Firmly…He is NOT your responsibility anymore. You are going to have to cut v this guy lose Ann. I know he’s your ex…but you can’t start doing stuff for them . I know his parents ate your kids grandparents ts but this is all so NOT your Mess to sort out.nip it in the bud now.

I agree with Harley!

Mel, hmm… he didn’t break up with you, but he told you he wanted to figure out what he feels for another girl. That IS a (silent) break up IMO, since VERY few girls in their right mind would respond with “oh yes, you go ahead, I’ll be right here waiting for you if it doesn’t work out with her”…

…and I remember the time when we could post music links in here… I LOVED that… I’m the kind of person that has a soundtrack to everything I do in my life…

Celeste, I’m all for letting my man lead, chase and win me… I just combine it with showing interest, teasing him and making him want/chase me more…

…and I totally agree about smokers… yuk…

Ann, normal guy seems like a catch, so stop trying to find wrongs lol… just enjoy the ride and see where it might lead… plus, there’s not that much difference between a 6, a 10 or for that matter a 16 years long relationship…

…and like Harl said, your ex is NOT your mess to sort out… make that very clear to his family…

Cleo, delete all fuck texts from other guys than your bf… cause those WILL NOT build a solid trustful relationship… regardless of if he sees them or not…

Gibson is good too. Living her life to the max.