Nothing ever happens

Maria. ..hope you alive and just busy.
Celeste…keep up with the jobs.

no fancy able men unfortunately….but seeing as I appear to fall in love in Germany, I think I can survive without meeting a stranger on a train.oooh…I sent a friend request off to the young Italian stallion that was romeo ing and juliet ing me from the balcony. Francesco something or other. he’s only 32 but eye candy. and…it’s a small world. He works as a trolley dolly..air steward…With Ryanair. Our airline and is friends with a guy that is married to my nieces mate…In my home town. Unreal. I’ll get his full name so you can all Google him on fb. and.. he’s a jazz player too !

I had a date last night but he had to work late and called me and apologised. He said he may be late or we can reschedule. I told him reschedule but did not really provide him with a date. I just want to see if he will keep in touch before that. This is NOT the 38 year old.

No word from the 38 year old at all. But I really wasn’t expecting any. I am thinking that if he does not message me by Monday, I will send a “How’s ur weekend messasge”. If he does reply to me, I was thinking of asking him if he wanted to hang out by going to a movie or something on Tuesday. As we are not really “dating” right now ….. IDK though. Thoughts ladies?? Maria, I really need u on this :(

If he doesn’t reply to my message then I know where I stand and he is off my roster till he actually asks me out on a date for REAL and willing to keep in touch outside of the meet up group :) Sigh. Why cant I stop thinking of kissing him :(

I have been messaging one guy on okc but I’m not really that into him. We both have the kids this weekend so lets see if he asks me out next weekend. The guy who went for his brother who was dying has been keeping in touch with me constantly. He is still in Alberta as his brother’s wife is disputing the will and he is the executor and wants it to be fair for the brother’s son who is her step son. He said he may be back in December or January. But he is fun for now for messaging online. Not doing that much though. I have found I have outgrown that craze of messaging.

My FWNBs are complaining that I have not met them in sometime as I have been so busy and free time I had in the last week I had given to FWB and 38 year old. So need to make time for them too. Oh boy life is busy and I am loving it!!!! :D

He hasn’t responded to my facebook messages, so I will just give him space, because it just happened last night, and he probably doesn’t want to answer right now, since he is busy with work.

Okay he told me don’t worry about anything deary everything is fine, he just has a shit ton of work to do, since this lady messed it up and he has to get these commercials out by Friday.

And Harley make the best of your last night, you vixen. Have you gotten any potential suitors yet?

Harley 38 yr old never cancelled on me. It was the other guy. Whenever 38 yr old has said we will meet he has.

Actually he said just give me time deary everything is fine. I take that as he is stressed at work like I said that woman fucked up everything, so he has to work from 9 to 9 this week, so he just wants me to give him time this week to finish all his commercials. That’s how I am taking it at least, since he didn’t ask for space or anything lol. I was like I have fallen for you and I don’t want us to break up over my mistake last night, and he responded that. So, am I in the clear?

And Buttercup YAY I am so happy for you!

Hey all. heading to airport in an hour or so
should make it out of here alive ! yep.

glad I got closure but like you Maria..wonder how long it will take me to find the next decent guy. no suitors here. One guy who is a drunk ..ok friend. He fancies me..but me not him
he talk about coming to Ireland..hod I hope not. I made loads of new friends though. had a snog with francesco last night and he felt my number up.hes now friends with me on fb.page.hes too young for me though. The local guys are offering to save money to buy me a plane ticket back for new year…ha ha ha. ..but I think we a know I will not be back for a while.

Sherri, I think yes, send him a short “How was your weekend?”-text, but (since you want to be more than friends with him) leave the actual initiating up to him… a little encouraging (“let me know if you want to hang out or catch a movie some day”) won’t hurt though… (then step back of course)…

Harl, all in all your trip to Germany sounds like a full blast. I wouldn’t be surprised if you go back for New Years… Francesco sounds yummy… the only snog action I get these days are the disgustingly wet kisses of a certain miniature dog… sigh… Adele’s “Someone like you” is on repeat in my head… boo hoo hoo… (lol I’m kidding) (about the boo hoo hoo) (sadly not about the rest)…

This thread is the longest here !! 46 pages, I am interested to know what has been happening. Can anyone please summarise it for me? I will really appreciate as I am very curious now. Thanks!

Thanks for catching me up Harley. I am from London as well. Working within banking sector. I am researching lot on love, passion, relationships.

My problems:
1. My husband. Married for over ten years. I have stopped loving him for no reason. He goes on business trips for months and I do not feel like talking to him or returning his missed calls or answer every time. I do not do anything special for him
2. He loves me, finds me attractive, compliments me but not interested in sex anymore. And because I do not love him or want him, I do not feel like doing anything about it. This makes us go okay by each day. I do feel a gap.
3. I tend to have crush on other men. To my dismay, two of them have reciprocated, but I when I told them I am married and they both backed off. I do not wear any wedding ring and I do not talk about him or family. By the way I talk they conclude that I am single mother or something.

I am petite and although I am in my early 30s, I can look mid- twenties, depends on my clothes and makeup. I am generally not okay with sharing my problems or things that I go through with anyone. Even if I cannot resolve my own issues, but now that I have written all the above, I am going to post it, but I feel exposed!!

I am hoping some of you will understand me although I do not expect everyone to. Thanks.

Everything is going okay. We both are nice to each other, I suppose. We do not expect anything in terms of ‘relationship’ , whatever I am giving him, he seems okay with it. I do not want anything from him. It hurts, I have so much love to give but no one to give to. I want to have sex so many times and for so long, don’t know with who :))

I cannot walk away because of uncertainty, finances, very hectic schedule, kids, our families get along so well each other. All religious, against divorce. It’s complicated, with our marriage its not just two of us, many will be affected, we have a small community. These other two men I talked about. They did not just back off, there was a lot heartache when we had to ‘not think’ about each other, since the feeling was mutual. With one of them, I got into his bed, despite confessing everything and him knowing, he just took me to his place for coffee and then I stooped him from kissing me and I said to him, its wrong for me to have any kind of relationship with you. I should leave my husband first and he said I should. And I told him I will. And then we will be back here again but until then STOP. Then I did not do anything, I think I just said it without meaning it, to make him feel okay in that moment and after a few months, we were back in his bed again and as he took my stockings off, I thought about my husband! again! this time how him and I made out for the first time and how crazy we were for each other ten years back and thought I should better go fix my marriage and that I am not the cheater type. I must not ruin it. I flew from there, and never looked back. So much so that when he called me hysterically I said to him that I think very low of him and I know his bad intentions of wanting to have sex with a married woman. Told him to buzz off. I was really rude and I was really hurting for many months. But I knew it will get better. I did not do anything about fixing anything, since nothing looked broken. You cannot BEG for passion and you cannot bring it back with DISCUSSIONS.

I am not thinking about moving out because I once loved my husband very passionately, this was when he was crazy for me. He has become cold loving husband and I have become just a wife. It can happen again. It happens with mostly everyone. And people say we look good together. So be it. I cannot cheat and I cannot go through another marriage.

I also read somewhere, that we can love many , we can have many soulmates too but we cannot marry each one of them. It’s okay to fall in love, and if it feels right then believe me it is okay to have sex with your lover, but as long as you know that you are doing it with just one person(for safety sake) and this whole marriage (which is man made) and infidelity is debatable. You should just be careful that no one gets to use you or abuse you, because dealing with after effects is painful on your soul.

Kat – have you guys considered couples counselling? It could may be help you guys heal ur relationship and give you both what you want. U don’t need to go to anyone in ur community. As u live in London I am sure there are therapists out there that your community will not know about. May be something to research about …..

Kat, you have 2 options:

– Stay in your marriage and try to fix it.

– Walk away and create a better life for yourself.

An open relationship could be an option, but not when you have children (and live under the same roof as your husband).

Ask yourself what you want to do and do that (as long as it’s not cheating you want to do).

Sherri, I think it’s a good idea to wait till the weekend. It says that you’re interested but laid back/in no hurry.

I don’t think you came off as materialistic, after all he told you he owns his house… it’s just polite to say that that’s a good thing IMO… I think you came off as “positive” (unless you said it like 30 times, but you didn’t did you?) (lol)

I give people compliments “all the time” about expensive, nice things they have (and also about inexpensive things/things that cost nothing, like things they do or are good at) and it has honestly never crossed my mind that anyone would consider me materialistic for it…