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Well. …Lots of hugs, kisses and cuddles to all of us….because we are SO worth it.

B I wish I lived near you, I could totally do with some healing. Physical healing as well right? My back and hands are really troubling me :(

Hi….everyone sounds pretty even keel at the moment! That is great…and Buttercup….. Holy Crap, I am happy for you.

My dad is still in the hospital, one day at a time.

As far as the texting thing goes, Normal Guy sent me a pencil sketch of me, he used a photo of me and found some software program that just morphed it into a sketch. I should put it on my FB. He said he spent 2 hours going through all of the photos he had until he found one that captured my essence. He is so damn cool. I am making myself be careful though.

Gambler Guy texted me today, wanting to go with me to see Motley Crue. ???? Ugh. I responded immediately, “nope”…. and that was all. He didn’t reply.

Anyone heard from Mel?

I had an awesome time last night with my mom’s group. We have known each other since 3 years now. We will be meeting in Dec to have a little Christmas brunch and exchange gifts with the kiddies :)

Hi ladies..
BC.. so great about the new guy and Sherri.. funny when we have not expectations and good stuff comes along.
I think Me had a date last might.. hmmm.. good for her!

Well big news!!!!! Got job offer and accepted.
The poor people I interviewed with, I grilled them. I was so gun shy after the lies I was told at this place. I talked to customers and got references too. Have a really good feeling about them and the role. Owner asked me to pick out my own laptop and ordered it “just in case” I can start Monday as my current place does not typically let propel work out their 2 week notice.

J still struggling. I am trying to help him market the property he needs to sell. He fired the last realtor. Poor man is so bet up, but he told me this morning how much he appreciates my support.
My biggest concern now is I wonder how long he can go like he is. Not sleeping, depressed, looking for a side job and getting no responses. All assets other than house, car are gone.
Bankruptcy is not even an option until he sells property as he will lose all leverage to pay off other bills with the proceeds.
I feel so for him and try to be upbeat, but his situation is dire and I feel like I am offering platitudes. Sorry girls.. just venting.

Guys are worse texters once the relationship is longer I have noticed. When in the honeymoon phase it is like constant banter. But, I am not a huge texter myself. I just usually do it to make plans.

How much do you guys think texting weighs in to the relationship? Have you noticed it decreases once you are in a lengthy committed relationship?

Cleo,
I put very little weight in texting… now lol Yes, I think it becomes less frequent as you are together longer. I do not hover over the phone anymore, although I like it when he does text just to check . I initiate about 20% of the time.
He is pretty regular.. will text 1-2x a day on days we do not see each other or talk.. more if big things going on.

Harls.. he is trying to sell a commercial property, so tougher and he already has dropped the price. I know all will work out for him, just hard to see him this way.. so not his nature, but this is a heavy weight.. not just the $, but potentially losing a livelihood and business he built for over 20 years. He is a fighter though, so today he was working out in the cold trying to spruce the place up before a developer visit.

Ann.. hoping your dad gets stronger. How lovely that he sent you a pic. I remember early on.. J took one of my pics from dating profile and used it as his phone wallpaper. I saw it by accident and he blushed. new love :)

Thank you everybody for your kind words.

Celeste, material things mean nothing, but guys don’t see it like that. If he spent 20 years living his life, enjoying it, growing, etc…. no one can ever take that away from him. If the business closes, it doesn’t mean those years were for naught. It could be that the business closing means a new door will be opening soon.

That said, financial difficulties are the worst. I’ve lived it, and going through it is life altering. Keep being positive and keep reminding him that life is all about how we spend our precious time in the moment…the past and future just don’t matter here in the present.

B.. yes you are lucky. He is gorgeous.

I am having a quiet weekend. Took a day and a half off work with flu. Was meant to go partying in Dublin tonight but not feeling up to it.

I messaged a few guys on POf……. will see if I get anything back. My heart still not iin it.. but I gotta put myself out there and try.

I left my son’s friend to the bus tonight. The bus drove past without stopping so friend is staying with us another night. Whilst at stop, son and friend got talking to another teen. I had to give the teen a ride/lift to the next village. he was off his head drunk and pot no doubt. He offered me gas money and had perfect manners. His name is Sam. He’s living in a bed and breakfast/hostel and going to college. He’s been in foster care since 11. He’s the second oldest of 5 and his mum is a heroin addict. He barely sees her or his siblings but has bought them all Xmas presents. His mum is trying to get off the heroin but drinks too much. A nice kid. I told him to give us a shout/call for Xmas and not be on his own.

Sometimes………..we don’t know how lucky we are !

Google the Sainsbury’s advert for Xmas.. It will make you all cry. It’s in honour of World War 1 and how to remember and share at Xmas. Really sad but nice. Of course……… more memories of Germany I did not need !

Happy Weekend all !

Hope everyone has a good weekend. Everybody get well!

And, you are correct Harley, most of us are blessed in our lives, it can be such a scary world.

Normal Guy has pulled back the last few days. I’m mirroring him, and in all honesty, I’ve been really busy with my dad and such. Normally I would be freaking out because he was gushing and so over the moon with me for several days about a week ago. Maybe he freaked out a bit, and is regrouping? It’s been almost 4 months since I’ve known him. This group has helped me so much.

Yes it was! We still are in daily contact, he is traveling a lot, but we talk on the phone usually once a day when he is, and when he’s not traveling we’ve been doing fun things………. and I think I’ve been really warm and happy…I think it is the freak out stage. I didn’t know about that before this forum.

I love ghost documentaries… and I totally agree people from the most troubled backgrounds can grow up to be lovely people… and no one should ever be judged or punished for their parents sins…

Sherri, I’m sure there are healers where you live… if pain is your main issue, then acupuncture is probably more effective though…

Ann, that’s so cute of him to morph your pic… no doubt he’s totally falling for you…

Celeste, congrats on your new job… I’m happy for you… J seems like a really strong person… the kind that never gives up… I’m sure that will pay off… and that better things will come for him too…

Cleo, I actually love texting… as a fun little complement to talking on the phone and spending time together… I love riddles… and the fact that one or a few words can say/mean soo much… and in that area texting is great…

I’m having a girls night out tonight… I’m still in “no one compares to O”-mode… but I guess it doesn’t hurt to check out the market… my priority is to have fun with my gfs though…

So.. Ok. Hopefully I have a 50 yr policeman Luke ringing me after 4pm tomorrow. No kids, never married. HMMM. He seems nice and had messaged me before but I never answered. Some other dude wants to meet me too but I don’t know how to tell him feck off nicely ! OHHH………… what am I getting myself into ?????