Nothing ever happens

Online dating gets easier with practice Harley. I’ve done 12 online dates in total (over 4 yrs, so not many really) and every time I drive there I ask myself ‘why am I putting myself through this’

However, every date as gone ok, except one, where I made an excuse to leave after an hour and a half! I struggled to sit with him that long!! I’ve never had problems making conversation though. Some of the guys wanted to meet again and I didn’t. Other’s I’d like to have seen again and they weren’t interested.

The best person I met on Pof was my singer friend. My first ever online date. His too. And a beautiful friendship followed as u know.

A few went on to be friends, 2 I had 3 month flings with, and then lastly fuk face.

I dont dislike doing it. Just cant be bothered to fish through the losers right now!

So p and I broke up this morning after I spent the night with him last night. Well he broke up with me this afternoon. I am crying because I actually fell for him, but I realize he was way to controlling, I always had doubts after his cheating, and honestly I have nothing to worry about now. So I am trying to stay positive. Even though I’ll miss him.

But, on the other hand, I am hanging with a guy tomorrow who I have so much more in common with, and going to dinner this week with two guys Nate and Shawn who are incredibly nice and warned me about P.

And he tried to control me and make me someone I was not. We were complete opposites, so it is probably best for me. And Monday I am hanging out with Tyler, he is hot, but not boyfriend material. He admitted to me he isn’t looking for a girlfriend, but hey he is hot and can just be a friend ;)

Sorry to hear that Cleo, but onwards and upwards to better things x

Hello darlings!

My girls night out was fun as expected… I didn’t meet any new interesting talents (as Harl would put it) though… it was more the opposite actually… guy friends who had taken a step back because of O are now stepping back…

…and… I also met O’s brother… who told me “My brother really REALLY likes you, you know that right!?” I said “Yes, I know that… and I really really like him too”. To that he said “You’re both FOOLS”. Sigh (and lol).

I feel I’m soo far from meeting someone new it’s ridiculous… I’m totally OK with it though… to be honest I don’t want to meet someone right now… or, well, let’s just say that for me to give a guy a chance right now, he’d have to be pretty darn special…

Harl, great to hear that you’re disciplining the cop… don’t go too Gestapo on him though… I’m kidding, I fully trust that you will take all the right actions…

B, updates on reunion guy please, and Cleo updates on all your prospects please. (I too vote for back burner Nate)…

Sherri, Ann, Celeste I am of course looking forward to your updates as well…

Great news Maria…….. I feel the same about Frank.. But I KNOW I have to move on. you stand a chance with O, I don’t with F.

Re Gestapo……… STOP reminding me of Germany. ha ha ah ! Yea.. I’l see ifguuy rings later.

Sherri.. friendzoned.. but that;s ok. IF. you’d really liked him.. you would NOT have fallen asleep !

Everyone else………. hope you are having a ball.

Nothing more to update on reunion guy yet. But, I’m seeing him tonight. :-) haven’t seen him since Tuesday and its felt like ages!!

The other guy I liked (for 15yrs, unhappy relationship, family friend, u know the one), he got in contact yesterday. Just to ask how I am really, said he dreamt he’d bought a motorbike and taken me out on it. He still claims he’s desperately miserable but has still not ended it.

Haven’t left the house since wed, as I’ve been ill so looking forward to getting out tonight. I’ve still been motivated to clean my house all the time. THIS IS NOT LIKE ME!!! Think I may have a touch of ocd! I seem to be constantly wanting to clean away the filth, even though there is no filth as I’m cleaning every day. Wonder if its to do with the break up. Mentally getting filth away from me!!

As for fuk face, heard no more. BUT I CANT GET HIM OUT OF MY HEAD AND ITS DRIVING ME MAD!!!!!

He’s always there. He just creeps in at any time. I miss him like crazy, yet I never want to set eyes on him again.

Oh well, cuppa tea, bath and date night. I’m sure spending some time with reunion guy will set my mind straight again. Not seen him for 5 days so negative thoughts have crept in regarding f.f. I’ll probably balance out again later.

Oh yeah.. forgot them B.. thanks.. yep.. too sexual. Hope he don’t ring later. I don’t think he will. I KNOW Frank’s behaviour has been shite, but whilst he chased me to get me into bed…………it showed me how awesome chemistry/attraction IS, and how everything flows easily………. he did old fashioned courtship, not this new wave sexual crap!…….. so he’s set the yardstick TOO high in THAT aspect……… that I WANT that level of attraction/chemistry again/old fashioned dating.

LIFE SUCKS. I am CERTAINLY NOT READY to jump in the sack again !

You are just trying to keep busy to forget D. KEEP AT IT. Singer dude will sort himself out eventually. Glad you feeling a bit better. I still feel crap with cold and weepy weekend. My hormones are fucked right now !

Just from past experience Harly he sounds like he is wanting some sex on your first meet up. But, you know you can always detour that, so if you are open to going out there on a date I would do it, and then you can laugh about it at the end if he was a total sex fiend. And, yeah it is so hard to get over these guys. I am not over Preston yet, but I have to get myself out there this week to take my mind off of him. Or, I will just keep thinking about him and not being able to totally function.

And, he texted me telling me he will be calling me and texting me in the future saying he misses me, and I was just like don’t do it. Guys…

Yup. ..Preston’ s had enough chances. Both guys are asses. We WILL do better. no…I don’t think I’ll bother with thus Luke guy.

From my experience all the decent guys I met online never brought sex up in conversations before meeting. And not even at the meeting!

Men just after sex tend to bring the subject up very early! One guy I used to chat to (never met, never would) actually told me he was wanking over my profile pic and then sent me a photo of his ejaculation!!!!! Never messaged him again!!!

So now P wants me back after a day of being broke up. He said he will work on his own drinking and not pressure me to do it and that we can work on ourselves together, since he said he has a lot to work on himsef. Idk… uhg I love him seriously. It is just so hard.

Harley, I agree this copper guy sounds dodgy as hell.

But I do think you have to let go of this “standard” Frank has set. I mean in the end, he came on fast and heavy and passionate at the start, but where did that go? Sometimes guys who take it calm, slow, easy and are just less passionate because they’re more cautious are safer bets long term. Think about it…