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November 17, 2014 at 8:35 am #375385Harley
Ohh..I’m NOT thinking about HOW Frank acted to me,that he was a GREAT guy.. he wasn’t, he’s a dead duck in the water.. flash in the pan as you say. It’s HOW I reacted to HIM. I want a guy again that I feel easy/comfortable with, one I’m attracted to, feel chemistry, LIKE I did with Frank.
I just can’t go for a guy that seems “ok/nice”. Maybe I AM missing out on lots..but it’s just not me.
November 17, 2014 at 9:55 am #375408SherriThis was the weekend spent with my FWNBs with a splash of FWB and 38 year old. LOL
Cleo – please do not go back. It doesn’t look like he has taken any responsibility for his cheating and even if he swears up and down that he wont do it again, I wouldn’t trust him.
Re 38 year old – I would love for him to date me but that is not happening so I am kind of going with the flow on that. He anyway has got stuff to sort thru so not really chasing him. I fell asleep on his shoulder because it was so comfortable besides it being late. Before I left, I kissed him on the cheek saying “that’s for luck” as he had a race that morning.
Last year’s Oct guy contacted me again just to find out how I was. I just replied to the point. We will see if he wants to go to that restaurant.
My hands have been killing me all weekend. I tried acupuncture but it didn’t help. I have found a healer but he is so busy that its not possible at all to get an appointment. he has waiting lists going on. :S
I really enjoyed catching up with all 3 of my FWNBs. The work on my basement has started. I hope it gets done soon and well.
November 17, 2014 at 10:04 am #375411HarleySherri……… Oct guy ?? What’s the story with him ?? I wonder is he just passing time or more ?? WOULD you entertain him again ???
Glad to hear you had a fun weekend. I DO think you have been friendzoned. Sorry to hear about your hands.. I have no solution.
Yes CLEO.. no going back.
November 17, 2014 at 10:16 am #375415SherriOct guy – He sometimes messages say once or twice a month and we just say hi or something. He has asked me out to lunch at a restaurant that I had taken him to when we were dating. And he asked me out to that restaurant again. He said hopefully before Christmas …. lets see. I do not intend to date him again at all. Our future plans are too different. But I don’t mind him keeping touch as he is a nice guy and since I am over him I don’t see the problem.
38 year old – yeah I do think I am friendzoned though sometimes he does give me mixed signals. But I def don’t want to date him even if he asks till he has sorted out his life with his kid’s mom after the daughter is born. Expected due date early Jan and then give it a month for him to bond to the child. So if he wants to date, I will accept in Feb. But I don’t mind hanging out with him as he is fun. I don’t know how I come across to him. But I am out of crazyville so it doesn’t really matter if he asks me out or not. I’m glad it is not awkward at the meet up group. I also think he doesn’t really know how to act around me bec of my ethnicity. As in he doesn’t know if holding my hand etc. would be acceptable to me or not and since he doesn’t want any romantic stuff till the baby is born, he is playing it safe.
The Alberta guy – If you remember a guy had asked me out and then had to cancel since he had to go to his brother’s deathbed in Alberta. He has been keeping in touch with me. He says when he is back which will be in Jan 2015 if I am still avbl, he would like to meet me. So lets see.
Right now I so want a gay bf. I think every girl should have a gay bf. Sigh :D
November 17, 2014 at 10:20 am #375416HarleyARE YOU CRAZY…………..gay BF.. WHY ?????
None of your guys sound promising right now…………… good job you are happy with friends.
November 17, 2014 at 10:40 am #375419SherriI meant gay best friend not boy friend LOL ….. Sorry linguistic error RFOL
November 17, 2014 at 11:42 am #375428CleoSherri- sounds like you have a lot of suitors heeey! And time will tell if 38-year-old is only a friend. And yes I have so many gay guy friends, when Preston broke up with me Saturday I was hashing it all out to my gay guy friend who just broke up with his boyfriend. They are magic lol.
Harley- The thing is I feel the same way as you did with Frank about P. It just drives me to crazytown. Like I am so comfortable around him, and we have the chemistry. He finally opened up to me and told me why he broke up with me, and the reasons were correct, and I have to work on that aspect of myself while he works on his to. AKA the drinking. He said he isn’t going to be drinking as much anymore either, as not to pressure me to drink. But after ONE day why would he be coming back lol. He sent a text saying babe, and I go why would you text me when you know it will just upset me, and then we talked, and he was like I want to give this another chance. And I said he has to communicate better, since he should have told me these things before it ended up with us breaking up.
IT is a rollercoaster, I just can’t get him out of my head. I canceled all the dates I had this week, so I can just reflect on myself and things, since I am not in any mode to entertain other guys at the moment.
November 17, 2014 at 11:43 am #375429CleoI am still laughing Harley at that one guy coming on so sexually strong to you, and how you turned that down LOL!
November 17, 2014 at 12:38 pm #375442mariaHarl, to be honest, what the cop said (that your profile sounded sexual), I think it was both sleazy and rude. I would have told him straight out “OK, that’s RUDE, what is the POINT of that comment???”…
Sherri, if the pain in your hands is caused by osteoarthritis… then there are a lot of natural supplements that you can try…
November 17, 2014 at 1:09 pm #375452HarleyYeah guys I know… BACK to the drawing board ! I just have not replied to his text.. hope that not too rude. In the past I would have given a guy like this a chance.. but ya know .. I’m NOT settling. SSOOOOO many Frogs ! WHY can’t Miss Piggy find her Kermit.
Cleo.. I think you and P need some SERIOUS time apart. A few days or even weeks won’t do it. BOTH of you may need easily up till Xmas here to prove you are changing. Well done on pointing out to him that he needs to communicate better.
I am ok. Just getting on with things.What else do you do. HATING all the reminders of Germany with it being the 100 years anniversary of WW1. I WOULD pick the wrong year to fall for a German. ha ha ha. Still. It will get better. The party season is coming up !
November 17, 2014 at 4:01 pm #375543celesteannvChecking in Ladies.
such a great weekend. J thanked me again for my support and relieving the stress. So distracted though.
Plus I am super hormonal and just miss the cuddles when I go home.
Think crappy weather and lack of daylight playing a factor too.
Old job refused notice so started new job today. Lovely people. Lots of empty time while computer, email, etc. gets going.
new adventures begin.November 18, 2014 at 9:54 am #375733SherriHi Ladies,
My access to the outside world from my door is completely closed :( I hope the work finishes fast. I am using my upstairs neighbours door right now. At the same time for god knows what reason, I am missing 4 of my very good friends in India. I mean I am missing physically being with them chatting and joking with them. Is this just the winter blues?? I have so much stuff to do but all I want to do when I get home is watch TV nothing else. There is mending, researching, cleaning, cooking. I just want to do NOTHING. Sigh …. I think I am homesick for my friends (not my parents).
November 18, 2014 at 10:10 am #375739amyc“I just can’t go for a guy that seems “ok/nice”. Maybe I AM missing out on lots..but it’s just not me.”
Haha Harley, totally agree with this. The thought fills me with dread, more than my current ‘situation’!!
November 18, 2014 at 10:15 am #375741HarleyWayheh Celeste …good to hear all good.
Sherri…I hope it is Winter blues. tell your landlord to hurry up and fix things.
Amyc. ..Welcome on board….yep…I do not envy you the fetish !! I think I prefer my problem right now !!
Cleo….are you alive and behaving ????
Everyone else…..hello !
November 18, 2014 at 11:57 am #375785CleoYes I am still alive love and behaving. Haven’t taken a sip of alcohol. Hanging with Preston tonight I will let you know how that goes. Otherwise I am just trying to better myself, so I will not be like my mother.
November 18, 2014 at 12:02 pm #375789CleoAnd I too do not like just the plain ordinary man that any of us could have. He has to have that spark, that chemistry, that good in bed ;) lol. And, has to be a little eye pleasing, but I prefer a good personality over the hottest guy in the world, but still he has to be my type.
November 18, 2014 at 12:10 pm #375790HarleyCleo…it’s a good job we are not mother and daughter or the same age. else I’d be trying g to steal your man ! We think AWFUL alike.
so much… …for thinking time with P.
Please. ….let’s NOT have another breakup tonight !!!
November 18, 2014 at 12:15 pm #375793SherriHarley, I think she needs to burn her fingers with P again and again and again to get some sense knocked into her.
Cleo – I hope the topic of him cheating on you is brought up by you tonight. DO NOT skirt around the issue as then he would think his behaviour was acceptable. Even if he dumps you again after that…. so be it. YOU SO DESERVE WAY BETTER THAN HIM!!!!
November 18, 2014 at 12:18 pm #375795HarleyOh yep Sherri….there’s no talking sense.the wee darling will get burnt to a cinder and we’ll pick up the pieces . but…that’s the way the cookie crumbles sometimes.
We still love you Cleo. good luck tonight.
November 18, 2014 at 1:20 pm #375827CleoYes I do need some sense knocked in my head. He cheated in August, so that I have already talked about with him. This time around it is just our drinking problems. But, yes I am just naive right now. I know. He is my first love, and it is just so hard to take him completely out of my life. He has dealt with me being crazy sloppy drunk on so many occasions, and we both have to work on different aspects of our life, which we both said.
He’s like a drug i’m addicted to, and it sucks. I honestly need to wake up, but I can’t for some reason.
November 18, 2014 at 2:26 pm #375849HarleyOh well, darling, you will wake up in your own time. We’ll pick you up and carry you.
Are you SURE there isn’t some thick arsed stubborn Irishness in your genes somewhere ??? LOL !
November 18, 2014 at 3:28 pm #375871CleoMy dad’s side is actually Irish LOL
November 18, 2014 at 3:38 pm #375874HarleyI KNEW IT !
Tell P to Pog mo thon so.. po ugg muh hone……. kiss my ass
November 18, 2014 at 7:46 pm #375957SherriI went to the doc today for my hands again. He has given me a requisition for xray. I also asked him for the HPV vaccine. So much talk in the forum about HPV hot me scared n paranoid so decided it best to take the vaccine. Its given in 3 doses.
I don’t have a door today n sleeping with a plastic sheet over my door frame. Have asked ex to keep kids till this gets sorted out. Don’t want them getting sick.
November 19, 2014 at 3:42 am #376045HarleyHope you get some clarity on the hands Sherri and good meds. hugs.
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