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November 27, 2014 at 9:14 am #378861Sherri
So just the tree is up with my little helpers helping me with it yesterday. Today is the 2nd stage … hanging the lights :)
I was up and at Old Navy today before 7 am after having dropped off my 3 year old at daycare. My 7 year old was with me. I needed winter jackets. I bought 1 winter and 1 fall jacket for less than $100 for both including tax. That’s a pretty good deal and a great way to start the day :D
November 27, 2014 at 9:51 am #378867Harley
pof guy still chatting. says he will phone later. We’ve agreed to meet up but I told him upfront I’m not sure what I want. .so maybe we will just be mates. of course he sees me as a challenge. he’s a professional piano player part time. blues…jazz…classical. Raven…you’d love him. What IS it with me and professionals these days ..kickboxing…piano… my oh my !
November 27, 2014 at 10:21 am #378876Sherri
Btw forgot to mention that had a nice time with M yesterday. We talked and kissed …. yummy :)
November 27, 2014 at 2:17 pm #378919Harley
54 yr old rang.He’s very nice. I ended up crying down the phone at him over my German…………. GREAT start to a new man ! Said he’ll ring later. He was off to play his gig. Promised him I would not cry later. He’ll……….. think me a right mentaler ( mentally insane person). He’s convinced I’ll fall in love with him ! ha ! I’ll be fine.. in time.
Glad to hear you having fun Sherri.
November 27, 2014 at 2:21 pm #378921Raven
Hugs Harley!
November 27, 2014 at 2:46 pm #378929Harley
WELL……….. if he don’t run NOW……… he never will. ha ha ha.
He…….sees me as a challenge !
November 27, 2014 at 2:58 pm #378932Yams
Aww Harley! The German isn’t worth it!
Yknow what’s really scary? The fact that girls can build an entire relationship up in their heads and then when things end in reality, they’re grieving more for what they lost in their heads than what they ACTUALLY lost.
It’s not unique to you Harley, although a bit more extreme here I guess. I myself realise that part of the reason I went off to the States expecting to see my guy and spend all my time with him and expecting him to want the same is because the relationship was a lot further along in my head than it was in reality hahahaha
November 27, 2014 at 3:04 pm #378933Harley
OOOH Yeah.. Totally agree with you yams………. ALL in my head. I listened to shite words ! Ah well.. on to better things now and NO more whinging down the phone.
WOMEN !
November 27, 2014 at 4:16 pm #378960buttercup
Women! Yeah, we’re great aren’t we :-)
Well, you all know my drama from the other post! What a day eh!
I do feel sorry for him, but combined with a touch of smugness too!
I called my friend, and she laughed at the things I said to him. She reckons he must wonder what the hell happened to me coz I tell him like it is now!
He asked how it was going with new man. I said wonderful, and preceded to tell him how I now steer clear of online dating as the sites are full of fuk ups and players. He asked which one I thought he was. I said both, and chucked in, ‘but credit to you D, coz u played your game well and certainly fooled me for while, but dont worry coz I’m sure you’ll soon charm another woman’
He also said he did love me and he hopes I knew that. I said nah, you dont hurt women you love and respect. I was just an option till someone you thought was better came along.
Told him to cuddle his dog if he’s lonely!
Anyway, new man is calling. Catch u all in a bit :-)
November 27, 2014 at 4:20 pm #378963Harley
WOOHOO BC…………. good on YOU. BET IT FELT GREAT !
November 27, 2014 at 7:13 pm #378990buttercup
It did actually!
This contact with him today, and the contact from 3 weeks ago, do u know, its allowed me to get everything off my chest.
Everything that has gone around my head, the anger, the stuff you write in the middle of the night to get it out of your head, but you never get the chance to say because you’re NC, well, I’ve been able to now say it all.
And its been good to get it out. To actually get it out to him. To actually tell him how I look at him now, how he’s made me feel, of what I’ve learnt since he left me, that he thought he was something special and could do better. And do u know what, he wont get better than me! I know I’m a good woman, my self esteem is way higher than it was with him, he will struggle to find better, I tolerated a lot, but I know I’m a good decent, lovable woman. The amount of friends that love me and supported me through this proves that. (the day after he left I had 7 separate visits from friends who were worried about me. Who does he have? No one. Not one friend. Well,,,,, the dog I suppose!
I feel liberated to be honest!
November 28, 2014 at 12:31 am #379004Harley
That’s great news BC. my gut talked for over an hour but we’re just friends only. We are looking for different things. I’m not over Frank but have hopefully cried it all out. I made a new friend. so…it’s all good.
November 28, 2014 at 1:41 am #379015buttercup
I made some great guy friends online. My singer friend, and look how fantastic that turned out!
Someone will catch your attention soon!
Just dont get sucked into one of these fantasy relationships that so many of us fall for!
But, I think you got your head screwed on ;-) xx
November 28, 2014 at 3:38 am #379025maria
Friday Friday… god, that song is AWFUL… and yet it has like a billion views… UNbelievable…
Ann, I’m glad to hear about the scan and sorry to hear he’s not getting better… Hugs to both of you…
Sherri, I’m sorry to hear about your colleague… Hugs to you too…
Online dating… I think I’ll go for a short, positive and confident sounding title (and profile)… and I’ll probably be a passive observer of the game in the beginning…
Harl, it sounds like you’re having fun talking to this guy (minus the crying), and that’s positive… one day it will be fun PLUS love…
Buttercup, seriously I feel liberated when hearing what you told your ex, which means I can only imagine how YOU must feel…
Talking about WOMEN… is it just me, or are there FAR more attractive women than men on the dating sites… I find myself checking out the women instead of the men… “Oh, she’s cute, I’d def send her a wink if I were a guy”, “She looks cool, I’d like to be friends with her”, “She should do her hair differently” etc. etc. etc. I’m NOT doing this RIGHT am I??? Sigh… Regardless… HAPPY Friday and weekend everyone!!!
November 28, 2014 at 4:56 am #379032buttercup
You’re not wrong Maria! I reckon 90% of guys that messaged me online were old, fat and bald!
Not that I’m that shallow but I’m not quite ready to date a pensioner yet!
November 28, 2014 at 8:31 am #379051Ann
Hello to all. Thank you everybody for your kind words.
Online dating is basically awful in my opinion. And, Maria, lol, I too have looked at women’s profiles on those sites and wanted to contact them for friendship. Some of the women look like so much fun.
I think Normal Guy is fading away. I thought long and hard about it over the past day or so, and the reality is I don’t want a long distance relationship, and that is what it would be. I think he has been a life saver for me though, because he showed me what a good guy acts like. I have a taste of it now. We’ll see what happens, but the last few days have been eye opening for me. Some of the posts here recently have been incredibly helpful to me. I feel like I am really understanding my power now, as Stefanie says…feminine power.
Anyway, I’m at work for the day, dog ass tired. But its a Friday. :)
November 28, 2014 at 8:48 am #379053buttercup
Sorry to hear he’s fading out on you Ann. But sounds like you’re already accepting it. LDR’S are hard as it is, so its probably for the best, before you get too invested x
November 28, 2014 at 8:50 am #379054Sherri
Seriously ladies!!!!
I LOVE LOVE LOVE online dating :D
I looking forward to this dance that I have to go on Saturday with two of my meet up groups. Nothing really planned for Sunday yet … lets see :)
Friday I so want to go to this comedy club. Lets see if M pulls thru as something has come up where he has to take a friend somewhere but he is trying to see if he can figure something out. He is quite sweet and I know he is not just talk and works quite hard. But right now I am just keeping him around because he is fun. He needs to seriously step up if he wants me to invest in him.
Alberta guy messaged me and said hopefully the situation will be resolved before Christmas …. hmm lets see.
37 year old messages a bit. Long time not take a drive in his car. I think I am missing his car more ;)
November 28, 2014 at 1:02 pm #379096Harley
I’m good today. crying did me the world of good. Glad to hear everyone, give or take is good.
Yep Ann, agree with you.. LDR guy too hard work. The guy last night showed me how a guy SHOULD behave when chasing you, so like you, I am thankful for that. Hope daddy improves soon. He sent a pic…………I would not have fancied him. But he is fun and a distraction. I’m sure we will keep in touch here and there.
Saw dog walker dude this morn………….but I can’t handle the smoking. deal breaker !
And yep…………I get every ugly cretin going eyeing me up on the dating site !
November 28, 2014 at 1:52 pm #379118Cleo
Harley you have me laughing so hard with you saying you have picked up every perv on the dating sites. That is what seems to happen to me. I get so sick of trying to flush out the pervs I can’t even find a normal nice guy on there. I have actually never met up with someone off of online dating though, but I don’t see any harm with it at all. And a good cry always helps. I was crying on the phone to this random guy I met like two weeks prior after my most recent break up for a day. Haha ugly cretin. I am a moderator on okcupid, so sometimes I just log in there and look at all the profiles reported and delete their sorry arses off of okcupid lol. I also wish we had a damn speed up time remote where we could just get over someone instantly. It would be so much easier!
Bc that is great what you did. I love it, and I am glad you put him in his place!
Sherri sounds like you are keeping busy with many dates and time with your children. I am glad everything is going well!
I am just enjoying being at my grandmas with family. I have no cellphone, since I broke it two nights before we left, so that has also been nice. No need to look at or check my phone every 2 minutes. I just log into Facebook when I feel like it and chat on there. It’s nice getting a break from St. Louis. It has made me feel so much better, and I am not blowing up anyone’s phone or having to make plans with people. I feel my independent self again, and now P is acting needy, since I’ve been busy this week with family, and won’t be home till late tomorrow night.
November 28, 2014 at 1:53 pm #379120Cleo
Maria is O in a different location atm for work?
November 28, 2014 at 2:00 pm #379123Harley
Great news Cleo. Glad to hear you keeping well.
The guy who fitted my windows in my last house always fancies me.. but I don’t him. 50,, fat and bald. I THINK he just messaged me on pof !!! He has a Harley……….BIG SIGH…………but alas, that STILL doesn’t make me see past the beer belly ! It’s near as big as kardashian’s ass !
Oh GOD/SANTA…………..please , please,please give me another good looking guy, but INTO me this time !
November 28, 2014 at 2:04 pm #379128Cleo
HAHAHA as big as a kardashian’s ass omg!! I spit out my coffee. And, Harley there will be plenty of guys that are good looking, since you are good looking! And, yeah I am glad you know where you stand in life, and don’t go for people that aren’t your type just to fill a void like some girls do. He sounds really good looking lol. You should join okcupid Harley! We can collect all the pervs and get them kicked off.
November 28, 2014 at 2:12 pm #379130Harley
Ah…………..I’m thinking of starting a harem… keeping them in a dungeon on a chain………. to use at will to do housework… and housework ONLY !
One of my German mates just tagged me, Frank AN Mike( and others)in a fb post..URGH ! Still………. it’s a good reminder of what silly men missed out on me.
Yea……………I need another stud muffin ( good looking dude with a 6 pack ).ONLY…………..beer bellies in Ireland…………Guinness too fattening !
November 28, 2014 at 2:13 pm #379131Harley
AND YES…………it IS the window man !
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