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I totally agree with Serena and Harley – Vi, you are STRONG and you have a lot of willpower too, and that’s a GREAT combination…

So sorry Sherri. I have to say, just like Vi you’re super strong too. Like Harl said, new date already… and LOL to “the least he could do was provide me with sex till the time my pack was done” – that’s the spirit (joking about it already), you go girl.

Serena, I basically eat the Atkin’s diet, but with more carbs than recommended, cause I don’t eat it to lose weight, I eat it because (IMO) it’s healthy.

I work out 3 hours a week on a vibration plate (it’s mainly used by people with injuries, but can be used for normal workouts too). It doesn’t make you lose weight or build muscle mass in any way, it just strengthens, tones and tightens your whole body.

I do other stuff too, like dancing, tennis, skiing etc, but only sporadically and for fun.

If I’d want to lose weight I’d cut down on the carbs and start doing something fat burning (walking, running, cycling or simular).

If I’d want to build muscles, I’d eat more protein and lift weights…

Feel free to ask if you have more questions…

On the me being strong front… oh girls.. thanks. I think everyone is strong, in their own way though. Co-dependent people are actually very strong, because they live through such terrible pain all the time. But people who have too much self respect to be treated badly are also strong. I know it sounds strange, but even suicide requires an extreme amount of strength.

Sometimes I get scared that my life is not moving forward; and that makes me think that all this self-awareness is pointless. But when I’m in good frames of mind, I can see how my life is developing; and I AM learning… albeit slowly ;)

In other news… I met S. today. He was at the yoga studio at the same time as me. We chatted for about 20 mins, then I made myself scarce. I found him boring actually… still talking about the exact same stuff he was talking about when we were together. (He asked me if I’d gotten his text and I cut him off). Not really sure how I feel about it right now.

Thanks Harley <3

But.. oh, I feel so sick right now. I just stalked him on FB. He has a new girlfriend! I know I shouldn’t care but.. I feel sick.

Kind of shows what a true he is though… still contacting me; asking me to meet him… touching my arm tenderly in the studio today. When he has a gf. Ugh. I wish I never had to see him again.

Do you know what’s weird? We’re not friends on FB, and I never found his page before today (I looked.. many times :P)

I actually think the Universe was protecting me from finding out.. I don’t think I could have coped with it before today.

You what the worst thing is… I just did another really i-depth stalk (I know, I know) – I stalked his gf, mother and brother… and I discovered that he’s been going out with her since we broke up! WTF? He’s been contacting me relentlessly every since we broke up… and the whole time he had a gf?

I’m actually mad at myself that I wasted so much time (a year!!!) on some guy that was such a rat. Talk about terrible judgement.

These days when I run into Mr. Mad Cow, I kind of wretch with WTF was I thinking!

The guy had to cancel as a last min client meeting came up. At least this guy has some kind of career. He wanted to meet after but I said rain check. Today I went for physio n the physio guy told me I look very vibrant n happy. I guess that’s how I look when I’m pissed. So beware if I look happy actually I’m quite pissed.

On another note, we were dating for 2.5 months (slept together for 1.5 months). Do U think I would have a grieving process to go thru??

Also I remember talking to him about a week ago that if we ever broke up, we could still continue being friends and he said yes for sure. Again I think it was my 6th sense rearing its head. And then he didn’t even have the balls to meet and break up or even break up on the phone.

Hi Vi.. I think I DO get blinded by attraction. THEN.. when the honeymoon period is over.. I see the REAL person. DID you and S date often enough to get past honeymoon stage ??? Yes.. we are blinded by desperation.. I am.. I married my ex hubby due to it.. was sick of being a single mother on my own.

I think we ALL look at ex’s and think WTF…. pass the sick bucket. I ALSO think we are all gettting an AWFUL lot better at spotting RED FLAGS !

I think this guy is a MASTER at being a right piece of work and you COULD never HAVE SEEN through it all. I think you beating yourself up a bit too much here. Look.. how you had THE SENSE NOT to go back to him.. you could have been leading a double life( the other woman) at this stage.

A MASSIVE bullet well dodged as the American say !

How’s the book going Harley? x

Book slightly disappointed.. as in a lot of taking ages to get to the point I thought. And.. a lot like the stuff I read on other posts/from authors/Eric/Sabrina.Some very good salient points and tips though.

I do think I assess men too quick, see ONLY the good and trust too easy, give the benefit of the doubt. So.. I will monitor that trait inme and try to reel it in.

I DID… lean back and take my time with German, saw red flags.. but STILL trusted… that’s the auld romantic in me ! I HAVE learned.. am not anywhere near as hurt as i was with Mike… considering , technically I have gone for 2 men, the 1st time in 7 yrs.. and somewhat been rejected by both ( I know it’s them.. not me!).. I AM GRAND. just DANDY.

But yes.. I will read book over and over again. Thnaks a million for it.

I totally agree you (anyone) should choose a diet that fits them/that makes them feel good.

I do agree with a lot of what Ray Peat says (but not all).

You said “low carb diets can be very estrogenic”, and I wonder HOW… cause IMO a low carb/high fat diet balances your hormones…

(Also, if you check out just one of the hormones I was talking about earlier, let it be melatonin) (a deficiency of melatonin almost always results in high estrogen, and low melatonin almost always means low progesterone).

As for your ex and you not letting go of him – sometimes it’s right to act on your feelings, and sometimes it’s not. Sometimes we need to tell ourselves that what we are doing/what we are feeling, is wrong, ridiculous and a waste of time and emotions – and simply snap out of it. I think it’s time for you to do that right now… just be DETERMIND to NOT LET HIM or what he did or what he does AFFECT YOU anymore.

Hi girls <3

I’m absolutely shattered after two hours sleep and a full day teaching yoga :P Don’t have the brainpower to write much now.. only that I love you guys! Really appreciate all your wisdom and advice… and I love how this thread is just a few of us chatting about what’s going on with us. Please keep sharing.

On that note – Sherri, you don’t need to “butt out” <3 I was just like “WTF – is she ignoring me?!” ;) How are you doing today?

More from me tomorrow. Lots of love and a hug <3

Well. I’m alive and well. Presume you all are ! busy , busy househunting.

All else.. boring ! Been looking at dating site but no one taking my interest.

I have to behave for a few months now and get money back in the bank.. so no gallivanting off to strange countries I think. BOOHOOHOO !

Hi Vi.. lots of love.

I know it’s hard to see the pics.. but it’s shock therapy alright. God knows if it will last with her, but it doesn’t matter.

Rejection is hard to take and you are not coping well with it.. I do. thank god. I just TRUST that even though I can’t see it NOW.. the guy wasn’t right for me.

I CAN see now, M wasn’t for me, but Frank.. It was soo magical, I’m NOT there ..yet.. but I AM TRUSTING, he was either NOT for me, or it will work out in time.. the ” go with the flow attitude”

LOGICALLY… I think you know, S not for you.. it’s emotionally you are not coping well. Would you go to the doctor and talk, or try some counselling ???

OH>> I FEEL FOR YOU ! If only we had a magic pill to make us get over them, without all this heartache.