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Lane.
Hope Gilbert
I have been dating a man for a few months. He is 62 and a widower I am 59 and a widow. He was married for 40 years and his wife passed suddenly from cancer in Sept 2017. My spouse passed in Jan 2019 after a long illness. He told me just the other day he feels guilty about our relationship he ask me to be patient with him. is there anything I can do for him or leave him be? Should I text him or not? Or just be silent?
Tallspicy
Just be silent and open yourself up to other men and dating. By all means be patient, but do not be an emotional doormat. Is he going to counseling? I was asked to be patient, I would want to know what specific steps he is taking to sort himself out.
Raven
This man is grieving & will continue to grieve for at least the next 7/8 years…
Of course he will need companionship.
I would be a friend & still see other men…
Lane
He’s not ready and its OK, we all have our own ‘timelines’ when we feel ready to let go and move on with another. They say it takes about 1 year for every 5 years, so he has about four more to go lol.
I think the two of you share a common experience and better off just friends for the time being. Nothing wrong with two people becoming friends over a shared experience but I would not expect any romance to blossom from it and best to date others if that’s what you are truly seeking.
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