On my period and he cancelled our date

It all depends on how much this bothers you. I’ve never had an issue with the men I have dated having a problem with me being on my period. There are just certain things that are not going to happen sexually with me being on my period. I however have a couple of friends who are in long term relationships with their men and they will not touch them when they are on their period (weird) but everyone is different. So if it bothers you that much you certainly don’t have to put up with it. It’s up to you. I would ask him as long as it’s not in an angry way if you being on your period bothers him, that way you know for the future. Depending on his answer you decide what you want to do.

Ester,
How do you know for sure that he cancelled because of that?
Why did you feel inclined to share that in the first place?

I’m just coming at an different angle with this one. Do you think all he sees you as is a casual sex partner? You mentioned you are dating him and have other activities outside of sex I would see no reason to bring that up.

and you may still have your period tomorrow…did you tell him which day you are on?

Do not ask him if that is he reason he is canceling. You are looking for reassurance and it is a turn off. You are making an assumption and if you ask him that he will think it is accusatory.

Stop worrying. As long as he reschedules and follows through then things should be good. Don’t let your own insecurities ruin this. I think you’re being too sensitive.

I just got it yesterday, the day I was planning on seeing him. I said I have my period and in a bit of pain, so would rather take it easy and watch a movie instead of tennis if that’s ok with him. So he cancelled cuz he all of a sudden forgot about his interview and could he see me tomorrow for cinema. Sure I was happy to do that. Now he says he wants to see me later on in the week, rather than say tomorrow. Every time we have been on a date we have had sex.

I think you have not clearly told him what you want in a relationship and your actions have told him something else, that you are ok with how things are.. I think you need to tell him you are NOT OK with what is going on and then cut ties with him.

Sounds like your underlying insecurity is the fact that you’re unsure how he feels and are worried he’s only interested in sex, hence why he canceled the date.

If you worry about a guy using you for sex, you really shouldn’t be sleeping with him until you are in a committed relationship. Otherwise, accept that it is a possibility that this may be just sex.

But I think things are fine. You are being sensitive and creating problems that don’t exist. See if follows through with the rescheduled date

I don’t think it necessarily means that all he wants is sex, it could just mean that he gets weirded out by it. So again don’t sound angry like saying “ok is that your decision” sounds a little harsh. Just say something along the lines of hey this wouldn’t have anything to do with me being on my period would it? Or you can wait till next month and see if he has the same reaction to you being on your period.

How long have you been together? How did he react the first time? Honestly I wouldn’t get miffed if a guy wanted to move it to a time–some guys and gals are cool with it, some aren’t so I wouldn’t go making a mountain out of a molehill.

We’ve been seeing each other since the beginning of this year, but it was casual and I wasn’t expecting anything because I moved away for some time. I’m back now since August and we are both looking for something more serious.

Lane, you wouldn’t get upset if he moved the date because of your period, or in general ?

I wouldn’t ask him why he cancelled – way too insecure and needy sounding. Just leave it alone. See what happens next – let him make the next move. Have patience and pull yourself together – work on yourself esteem. There are a lot of videos online about being the prize – you really need to get yourself in that mindset. You need to have confidence in yourself – that is what is attractive to men.

If you think he’s in this for a relationship, then the next time you guys have a quiet moment together ask him what he’s looking for. And listen to what he says. Then tell him what you are looking for. If they are the same thing, then move forward.