On social media but doesnt text me…

Stop looking at his Twitter

What Sun said…

“this whole texting in a relationship thing is so frustrating and worrisome im going crazy over it.”

Yes, you are MAKING YOURSELF crazy over it and your boyfriend is going to pick up on it and run fast as hell because even though you claimed to not need to hear from him x,y,z times a day, it sounds like you actually DO need to. It is super clingy and unattractive. Beware.

I don’t think it’s fair to say that she’s wrong for being concerned that her partner is not communicating with her to the capacity that she desires. Calling women crazy for having expectations that meet our needs is something that needs to stop. If he was able to text her before, he’s still able to do it. If he isn’t, he’s making a choice not to. What she does with that information is up to her. I hope that if this person does not respond or continues not to meet her needs that she will find something that is more on her wavelength. It feels crappy to be ignored, especially by someone that seemed to like you and have a significant level of interest in you. I hope things work out OP.

My boyfriend and I are medical students so I understand that sometimes we have no time to properly text each other every single day. we rarely contact each other (usually it will be just once a week) because he is seriously bad at texting and i can see that because when he is studying but texting me at the same time, he will reply me after 1 hour for every text message, but fortunately i can understand his situation. however, there is something i just could not understand until now. sometimes, when he texted me first and i replied him after about half an hour (as i was studying at that time and did not realize his text), he did not reply me back for 2 hours but can be on twitter tweeting about things, instead of replying me. why did he do that? i dont want to ask him about this because i know we ll be arguing about stupid things and i dont want to seem needy or clingy. can you please explain to me why he did that? thank you in advance :)

thank you so much for the reply, Ali. i really appreciate your reply as i just could not think of any logical reasons behind it all this while. i never ask him about this before and i m glad i did not because as you said, if i get mad at him, he wont feel good about it.

I have the exact same problem. He’ll go for hours not texting me back, yet he’s constantly on Instagram. It’ll be a lot less stressful if they just sent a simple text. These days a lot of guys get distracted with social media. Us girls do worry about if they’re secretly speaking to someone else over social media. Girls look at these things, and weigh out all the possible reasons why he hasn’t even considered looking at your message. When he’s at varsity, i understand that he’s busy, he’ll get home and a few hours will pass by, and still i wont get a reply. We aren’t needy or clingy for wanting to know why they find Social media more interesting than replying to their girlfriends.

Gah… Put your phone down & go outside!!

Amen Anon!!! Wish more people understood this simple concept and relationships would be a whole lot smoother!

I googled this question and it led me here. Yes every scenarios are different. Like mine my bf and I barely text each other since we moved in together. But now he doesn’t text at all but I see him active on social media. After confronting about it he said he hates texting and with his new business it is constant texting. But thinking about if he really loves me he would at least text once. But after a long night from work I come he always ask me how my day was and wants to talk about stuff. Stuff that he could have text me but prefers to hear it face to face. It was bothering me a lot but after speaking with him it doesn’t matter much now if he doesn’t.

Let me tell you something, just because a man doesn’t respond to you right away even when he is on social media doesn’t mean he is any less interested in you. Unlike guys, girls sit and overanalyze things just because they can. When I was talking to this one guy(we had yet to be official which had made me nervous because I had automatically assumed he had been talking to another girl) I realized he hadn’t responded to me in over two hours but his little snap map thing told me he had been on his phone only 2 minutes ago. I was going crazy over it, immediately jumping to the thought that he all of a sudden isn’t interested in me. My friends would hear it from me and I would constantly hear from them to calm down and to stop overanalyzing. It’s an automatic response that girls do but guys don’t understand how it makes us feel. I don’t think he’s doing it to hurt you or having lost any interest in you, I think he may just have either not seen the notification or just didn’t want to respond right away. Just relax and try not to make yourself crazy over it. yes sometimes the man does lose interest but majority of the time that isn’t the reason they stopped replying and haven’t replied in a few hours even if they are on their phone. Don’t be so quick to jump to conclusions and realize that he’s most likely not losing interest but instead just scrolling through social media and relaxing.