Only see boyfriend every two weeks

Amber, he is a boyfriend in name only if you are only seeing him twice a month! I think that you know that him not integrating you into his life, introducing you to people he cares about and not MAKING TIME to see you means — he is not that into you! He could have two other girlfriends with all the time he has (Regardless of how busy work or social events are)

That’s why you wrote this post. You know something is not as it should be.

Do not be afraid to express to him that you want more time and to feel more a part of his life. If he gets pissed or scared or distances himself — you will have your answer. Be calm when speaking to him, but make a decision if you are going to continue to put up with this if he shuts you down. You deserve to be a real girlfriend

Hi-if he is so busy that he can only meet up every two weeks-you are not his priority. He is over-filling his time with things that do not include being with you. You should not be planning/asking to go on dates. It should come from him or be a mutual plan at this point. At 5 months people usually know if they are in love or getting there and planning to hang around for a good long while. Because you see each other so infrequently ,there has been no chance to really bond,know each other. Whether this is deliberate on his part or a by-product of the “busy”-really matters not. The bottom line is,it is not progressing.
I would stop contacting him first and stop all date planning. If he tails off even more ,then,that will be your answer and you can just drift apart. If he steps it up and seems to put more effort in,then you could say” Do you picture us spending more time together going forward and meeting each other’s fsmilies’?” See what he says-if he starts to tell he has no time,is not ready for that-let him go,as he can’t be the guy you want. I hope this helps.

I’ve met some of his friends and a cousin in passing. On our dates we usually will do some sort of activity and/or a meal. I’ve spoken with him that it bothers me we don’t spend more time together and he agreed but that was 2 months ago and nothing has changed. I mentioned recently to him that I’m struggling with the amount we see each other and that I need at least one night and week. He said he’ll think it over and get back to me with a solution on how we can make that work with our schedules. I’m wondering if there is anything else I should do or say at this point.

You know he isn’t your BF don’t you?

Girlfriend – Fiancee – Wife

Titles are worthless if you don’t receive the actions that go with the title.

Drop him like a hot potato.

Never agree to “exclusive” unless you know the terms!

Its so damn hard dating today where neither the men or women seem to know what the heck their doing. It used to be so darned simple but this generation almost seems to be floating around with all these terms that have no meaning. Either your a GF, Fiance or Wife…if a man can’t give you any of those titles then RUN.

Honestly I wou;d tel; him “I will not be exclusive unless I’m your GF and I see progress, if not, then I will not agree to be your FWB” (which you appear to be). Take the exclusive off the table and start dating again…that’s taking your POWER back, not subrogated (enslaved) to a man who can’t fit you into his life! Set him straight or get off his hamster wheel going nowhere.

I’ve been dating a man for three months. We see each other every two weeks. He states he has business to handle on the weekends we aren’t together. He does own a business. We usually spend our weekends together at his place. He said he wants to see me for the rest of his life. I want to know if seeing him every two weeks is normal? We live 1 hour apart. I want to see him every week. Is that asking too much?

Funny, my so called boyfriend sees me every other weekend and on occasion 1 night during the week. He owns his own business and claims he is working on his work truck on the weekends. We spend our time at his place. I have met his mother and sibling. We spent the last holiday together 3 days. He has not yet met my son. He said it was too much pressure. He wants us to be exclusive. He said he can do this (being together) for the rest of our lives. I want to see him more often. Every other weekend is not enough. He does text and call during our busy work weeks. I feel I’m falling in love with this man. He is 11 years my senior.

What is the best thing to do to shake him up?

He hasn’t changed in 2 months…

How to shake him up?
– You can’t kick a dead horse…

If a guy is totally into a woman and see a future with her, he would make time for her in his busy schedule. Obviously not as much as when he is less busy, but he will definitely make it clear that he wants you and wouldn’t want you to move on to someone else. Sounds to me like he’s not fussed either way. I agree with the others, by 5 months you should have met at least some of his friends…if not family, at least friends. This is your opportunity to figure out if you’re putting up with it much longer or end it. But again in agreement with the others, your gut is telling you something’s up. Always follow your gut. Good luck

I just broke it off with a man due to the same situation, after the first 3 months he moved in with his ex and her husband, understandable because he needed a roof over his head but that is when it all went downhill. He didnt want to hang out, I was lucky if once every 3 weeks, he went from being okay with our phone calls and texts to absolutely hating my calls and texts saying I was too demanding and needy for simply wanting to talk to him when we couldn’t be face to face.

I saw my basic relationship needs were not being met and it was only getting worse after I expressed how I felt to him. Another 2 months passed I broke it off as friendly as I could. He took all his life problems and blamed me that I would never understand his life.

I asked so many people if it is normal in a relationship for one to avoid the other or for one to want to talk and text in place of not being able to see each other in between. His attitude with the break up got to the point where he even blamed my child for being too high strung which is why he never wanted to see me because his son didnt like high strung kids.

I can admit my reaction to his blaming me for his life issues and my daughter for being a normal happy loving child was out of line but that hurt me to be attacked when I was only expressing why I felt it was time to break things off.

I have 1 co worker, 3 family members and 4 friends saying I made a diffucult but very adult decision and that there will be someone out there that will value and appreciate the time I want to invest into a relationship and would want the same.

Lesson learned, if your needs are not being met, it is okay to loose a person.

I have been seeing my boyfriend for 11 months. He works part time mainly at nights finishing at 9 pm. He only invites me to his place one night a week, usually on a Friday night, or when he has a weekend off I will stay for 2 nights. I feel like at the stage in our relationship we should be spending more than 1 night a week together, but the few times I have tried to express this he says ‘ I have a job’, I believe though that if you are really into someone you will make the time for them and I can’t understand why we can’t spend time during the week together. I love him so much, but during the long absences I wonder why he does not make more time for me in his life. I do get upset with him because of this and he says ‘ I carry you in my heart wherever I go’. I am 41 & he is 54. I am so confused, he texts me every day, but rarely calls. I am at a stage where I am wanting to live with him. That is my main issue, even though he finishes work at 9 why I can’t I go over to his place and be waiting when he comes home, I don’t understand why he won’t give me a key, only a few times he has suggested I drive over to his place at 9.30 or later when is home, but this is just too late. When we are together it is wonderful, but I want more. He keeps telling me he loves me and we are in a relationship when I get upset with him and vocalise my need for wanting to spend more time together, I don’t think it is unreasonable almost a year into a relationship. I don’t know what I should do, Your advice is appreciated.