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    Marc

    I am feeling as if my girl is not interested in me anymore. We have been together for some months now and I thought things were ok. I have a 2 year old child. I have him on some weekends. I work during the week and so does she. I only am able to spend time with her when I don’t have me child. So we spend about a couple times a month with each other. She is understanding the best that she can. There are so many events I missing out with her because I have my child. She sometimes knows it’s a weekend I will have him and she just cancels the plans and stays in at home by herself or she goes on a solo date. When we are together on my free weekends she is at my house and we just chill. She stays the night and leaves early afternoon the next day. So I think we spend maybe 24 hours together. I can see that it gets to her that I can’t do much with her. I’ve missed out on so so much. She spends alot of time alone. When I have my child she doesn’t call she lets me reach out to her and I’m appreciative of it. I feel bad now that I see that when we do spend the time together, I don’t take it seriously. We watch tv on the couch and chill. We don’t go anywhere, next day she is dropped back home early afternoon. Now I noticed how down she sounds with me on the phone. She not talkative. She goes to do things alone now. I guess I just need to know how can I capitalize on our limited time. I did use to stop by during the week but I’ve stopped it slipped my mind.

    #940763 Reply
    Raven

    Well Marc, How can stopping by & seeing your GF ‘slip’ your mind?

    Why aren’t you taking her seriously & out on dates when you do have time together?

    I’d dump your lazy @ss!

    #940766 Reply
    Tallspicy

    Ok, you both sound pretty miserable, but that is easy to change… go out and do something, arrange to see her during the week. However her doing things by herself or alone is not all on you… doesn’t she have some friends? You are not responsible for her lack of life, but you can influence and improve the life you have together by paying attention and doing literally any thing other than staying home.

    #940775 Reply
    Ewa

    I don’t understand? she is your gf so why isn’t she spending time with you and your child? why don’t you do things together?

    #940776 Reply
    Nat

    It’s okay if you’re not ready to introduce your child to her and can’t spend time at the same time. But when you do have her, you can’t be on the couch Marc. You have to put thoughts into it. Plan something romantic or anything that gets you out the house and connecting, so the wait can be worth it. During the week try to meet up after work whenever possible even for an hour or two. Also you need to tell her that you are aware of the situation and you will improve on things. She probably feels last on your list and unimportant and this is going to kill your relationship.

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