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So I went on a few dates with this guy last June/July. We ended things in July and never really spoke about it again. We have a lot of mutuals so I see him at least once a week or so, but it was always barely a “hi” or MAYBE small talk at the most. About two/three weeks ago he re-followed me on instagram and began trying to talk to me more in person when we did see each other. my friends have started to notice and think it’s questionable, but what do you think? is he trying to work his way back in?
Raven
Why did you two end things?
S
Hi Raven! We ended things because we felt like we had rushed in really quickly and we didn’t know if we were on the same page! there was no bad blood, just awkwardness after the fact – so that’s why we hadn’t really spoken!
Maddie
Rushing and not being sure if you’re on the same page sounds like there were major communication issues and incompatibility as a result (you did stop going on dates, after all). Those communication issues may have been because he wasn’t ready for a relationship.
This can go one of two ways. Most likely, he wants to be friends because you share so many mutual people and see each other around, so it’s less awkward if you’re friends. Less likely, he’s feeling more ready to pursue something with someone. I’d strongly suggest assuming he just wants to be friends unless he outright states otherwise AND both tells you why it would be different this time around (how has he changed / matured in the last several months? why wouldn’t he just flake out again?) and puts in the effort to back it up. But that’s totally irrelevant unless and until it actually happens. So for now all you need to do is decide if friendship is something you want too or if you’d rather just be acquaintances in passing.
zoe
Another girl probably did not work out for him
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Maddie,
thanks for your advice!! We did have a conversation pretty shortly after ending things in which I communicated that I was not wanting to be friends but was okay being acquaintances (using that same terminology directly to him) so maybe he’s just thinking that I would have changed my mind on that by now! thanks for reiterating what I was already thinking!!
Zoe,
you’re probably not wrong!!! he did start seeing someone else about a month after me and they dated for a few weeks. probably just a bored guy looking to fill time!!
I appreciate everyone’s input. He’s a kind guy, but I’m looking for something serious with someone who is ready, so back to the drawing board! :)
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