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Jennifer
A guy I was dating a little bit ended things with me around 2 months ago. It was sort a very brief “relationship” that terminated with him needing some time for himself. It ended through text and we have not been in contact since.
I have not been able to forget him, and it has borthered me we never met and talked. Therefore I was thinking to get a clean slade for 2020, to tell him about my feelings….
It is completely disastrous to do so? I ofc want to keep my pride and self esteem as high as posible
Previous respons to my situation has helped a lot, I was just thinking that maybe one last shot before the new year and then I hopefully finally can be put to arrestRaven
What would you have talked about, said?
K
Verbally vomiting on a guy you dated for 8 weeks isn’t a way to keep your pride and self esteem high.
“I need time to myself” delivered via text is the mark of a major coward and a lame excuse for a break up. Nothing you say is going to matter to him or and will likely be used as a joke to pass around and make his friends laugh. Just write this off to a learning experience and drop it.
If you really have something to get off your chest, write it down and tear it up or burn it. That’s how to go into 2020 with a clean slate.
Anon
Agree with K- I would go into the New Years deciding to look forward and not in the rear view mirror.
Anderson
“clean slade for 2020, to tell him about my feelings”
Funny typo. Slade means valley. Synonymous with ditch.Your subconscious is trying to help you ;) Follow its advice
relaxy taxi
It’s okay to catch feelings for someone.
You “let go” by working through it on your own.
Jennifer
@Raven, I guess I wanted to tell him that things ended to quickly and I would like to hang out with him again (writing this I can hear it sounds like I am already losing….). :(
I have really tried to work on myself and has learned so much this experience, I just cannot let go of him in my heart :(Susan Sovinski
Don’t do it. If there’s been no communication from him for two months you’re not going to get a good outcome when you contact him. He ended things so… I agree with the advice to move forward in the new year.
relaxy taxi
If you have feelings towards him I suggest you don’t.
This isn’t to suggest men don’t feel bummed when things don’t work out or that they don’t go through their own wading out process.
But when it comes to emotions, you as a female, have more to lose strictly from a biological standpoint.
alia
When you feel like writing an emotional vomit text to a guy who broke up with you over text with the world’s lamest text (read: this person is a coward), this is a clear sign you need to join some wellness group, start a new hobby, etc. Anything you wanted to do, now is the time.
Jennifer
Thanks everyone. I know this is so true.
I wouldn’t write text where I wrote it all out but would just ask if we could meet. But that might have the same consequences?glasses
Jennifer, your last response indicates you are missing the point.
The point is that there is nothing to be gained (for you) by contacting him via texting as a request to meet or as a vomit text — NOTHING is to be gained and you will end up getting rejected AGAIN.
If he wanted to be with you he would reach out and make the effort. He hasn’t done that so leave him alone and keep your pride intact. Go into the new year with your head held high.
Hind sight n all….
Oh dear keep it to yourself. He won’t care the only thing he will probably get from whatever you send is:
Cool, I can hit her up when I am in between women.
Have no regrets, learn from the experience, and go into 2020 completely letting it go.
Raven
What do you think would happen if he agreed to meet You?
What would you say?
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