Ran into the boyfriend's hookup

If you guys just ran into her randomly why were you hanging out with her?? And she showing her semi nude pics is not done when her ex is with his gf!

I think you can just tell ur bf that your not comfortable since it cms across that she may still be interested and its best to keep interactns to the minimum to avoid any awkwrd situations in the future.

This seems like it really triggered you, which is on you. Please consider digging deeper into why you are this upset over an unexpected run in that lasted only a little while with a man you trust. You can build it up and make it all dramatic or you can choose to deemphasize it.

She shouldn’t have shown semi-nude photos, especially as your server, that’s the main weird and immature part. But. The questions you are asking here aren’t actually about her, it’s the worry that you don’t think you’re enough to keep a guy around just by being you, and that not being enough will lead to you getting abandoned. I think it’s actually good that you dropped it with him, because it doesn’t sound like he did anything wrong, which means he’s not the one who can fix how you feel. You need to emotionally process it on your end. There may be reasons from earlier in your life that you compare yourself to others and gauge your value against the perceived worth of others — but that’s a trick of the anxious attachment wound. The actual thing to internalize is, you get to give yourself value. You get to remember that things didn’t work out with them for a reason, and now he’s with you, and that isn’t something that needs to be conditional on other women if he’s a good guy (and especially if he’s got a secure attachment style). Then it’s just about the relationship and compatibility and fit between the two of you, and that’s it.

Anxious attachment is kind of complicated and has a lot of layers that have nothing to do with your partner. A good partner can be consistent and a good boyfriend but can’t fix the fear for you because they aren’t causing it, the stuff causing it is in your past. And they shouldn’t fix it for you anyway because they’re not a trained therapist, so when romantic partners get involved in dealing with those issues, then the relationship begins to get icky and unbalanced. Have you thought about speaking to a professional to help? If you’re not up to that yet, Thais Gibson has some good free videos online that may be helpful in learning how to deal with anxious attachment fears. But in this case, I’d try to read more about managing your anxious triggers when you’re in a relationship and not taking them out on your partner if your partner really hasn’t done anything wrong, which you stated in your comment that he didn’t (he was attentive to you, held platonic boundaries with her, and talked it through with you after).