Reverse breakup?

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December 14, 2023 at 1:57 am #943238 Reply

Axl

Hi all, so I broke up with this girl in person about 6 months ago after it seemed she became slightly different and distant feeling. We talked often as friends for a couple of weeks and then I told her I didn’t want to hear from her because she started acting like she broke up with me… It was unusual and weird I thought. 5 months later she reappeared and messaged me on Facebook, basically saying she purposely changed and had been faking most of the affection for me during our 2.5-month fling. She said she almost broke up with me but was too afraid I’d argue and said she was a coward, so she purposely let me do it. I never yelled at her or laid a hand on her. My question is: has this ever happened to anyone or is it more a “saving face” gesture in front of a supposed new bf? Something else? Any input, experiences, or questions are welcome :) Thanks!

December 14, 2023 at 1:51 pm #943243 Reply

Maddie

Sometimes immature people do try to act badly enough to force the other person to end things so they don’t need to initiate the confrontation or feel guilt. Other times, people who were dumped can try to prop themselves up after rejection by lying to themselves and creating a story which they eventually believe that they were ending things first anyway. Helps them salvage a bruised ego, still very immature. For her to randomly come back after twice as much time passed as you even were seeing each other… that’s weird and has much more to do with her, whatever is going on in her life that she wants to feel better about, and her immaturity. I wouldn’t worry about it unless you disrespected or mistreated her or were shady while you were dating. If you weren’t, just write her off as a bad and incompatible match for you and move on.
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