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Geraldine
My bf (30m) invited me over to his place (25f) . I went to the bathroom and i noticed the garbage bag was new. I peek and Saw a blue wrapper wrap in a tissue papers. I took it and when i open it. It was a condom. There was two of them wrap in two different tissue papers. As if his trying to hide it and i confronted him about it and he told me … he use the condom to masturbate and not make a mess. It is believable but before i went to the bathroom. I had ask him if he masturbated and he told me no..
His answer didnt matched up bcus he said he did not masturbate. IS he cheating or it is possible he use the condom for mastubation. What baffles me is that he used two . And we always did bareback during sex.
He said it is going to expire and need to use it bcus he have so much of it. I look at the expiration and it expired on 2023-june.
Were almost three yrs into a relationship
He told me that
AngieBaby
I call BS on the whole thing.
Men as a general rule dislike condoms. I can’t imagine a man putting one on to masturbate, how weird would that feel! – just get a towel, no big deal. And he didn’t do it twice.
He’s tried to hide them in the trash and then lied about the expiration date thing, which is ridiculous as well. If you’ve been together almost 3 years and don’t use them, he shouldn’t have any around at all. The logical thing to do would be throw them away unused.
The thing is, liars are gonna keep lying and in fact he may try to turn this around on you. He isn’t going to admit cheating, most likely.
You might want to get tested for STDs, although at least he’s using condoms, it’s a lot less likely for you to catch something like herpes or HPV, both of which are easy to get and can be transmitted even if using condoms.
Me, I’d break up with him. I wouldn’t want to have sex with him again. But it’s your call if you want to look for other signs of cheating.
Mary
I think you already know the answer. Now you have to accept it…
Raven
He’s full of sh!t
M
Definitely, what everyone else said.
I’m sorry. Awful realisation to have. Better days lie ahead of you once you’ve left him and his garbage behind.
Be true to yourself. You deserve to be loved, respected and cherished! x
Gaia
I’m so sorry you are going through this. He’s lying. I was with my ex for 16 years. The last year we were together I found condoms in his truck. His “plausible” excuse was they were for just in case I decided to follow through with a threesome. It was BS but I wanted to hope he wasn’t cheating. His lies got progressively worse. Shortly after I found all the women he was talking to online and then the woman he was cheating on me with.
Walk away now. The trust in broken. You don’t use condoms together, yet you found 2 used ones. He’s lying.
mama
He’s lying and not very well by the way. He’s showing you who he is right now, so keep your eyes open and make a choice that is best for your well being, both physically and emotionally.
Sam
You went through his trash can???
Sounds like you were already having doubts about him… and the condoms just confirmed it.
Cassy
Sorry for that .. but I’ve never seen that men use condoms for masturbation
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