Says he needs space/ to focus on himself

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This is a blessing in disguise. You do not want to go down this path with this guy. If someone were to tell me they think they might be an alcoholic that means they already know they have a drinking problem. Addiction runs through both sides of my family and I’ve dated an addict so I can tell you you’re in for pain if you continue down this path.

Whether he’s citing his life right now or the fact that he doesn’t want a relationship, I feel like he’s being honest with you in that he doesn’t want to move forward. I get the impression from what you’ve written that he feels overwhelmed by you.

I personally think you should walk away and find someone who can give you what you want. This guy can’t.

Jules,
I appreciate your response. I did ask him if I was too much and he told me it was absolutely nothing to do with me and to not blame myself. He needs to focus on himself I guess. I just wonder if he’ll come back. It’s not like we ended on bad terms

Hi. Hey girl you need to know your value here. Why are you bothering with this loser ? he should be honoured to be in your company not mad at you for wanting to spend time with him. Leave him be and do your own thing and stop bothering about this guy that has nothing to offer. x

I tortured your name… Sorry!

We both decided we couldn’t just be friends

So a couple of days ago I called him and he said he needed space and to figure out his life because he’s 26 without a full time job, still living at home, and may be an alcoholic.

He needs to figure his life out and get his s**t together. It sounds like you are on a straight path. In no way is this meant to put this guy down but, you don’t want to have someone like this around. You’ll end up feeling dragged down by this guy.

I’d forget about him and find someone who has it a lot more put together.

I recently spent some time with somebody I’ve been talking to for a while. He had his son and family meet me and a few neighbors came by. His family loved me and were telling him a good womans hard to find… We had a really great weekend. I should mention that his wife left him in may after 15 yrs and divorce was final in July and she remarried 2 wks later.. so it’s all fresh wounds. After the weekend we spent we talked for a few days like normal then I didn’t hear from him for almost 2 days. I didn’t bug him and just waited for him to contact me. When he did yesterday, he apologized for not responding sooner and explained to me that he thought he was ready for a commitment and relationship but realized he needs to work on getting over some of the issues with his previous marriage of 15 yrs. I knew he was bitter about it all. He also said I was everything he wants and needs in a woman and really wants us to remain friends, but he doesn’t want to bring old baggage to a new relationship . I told him I completely understand and I wasn’t wanting to jump into a commitment right away anyway as I rather become best friends first and foremost. I told him i will be here for him if he needs to just talk or if he needs help on the farm or anything, because that’s what friends do. He kept telling me it hurt him to tell me all that and he just wasn’t ready. He is also everything I’ve been looking for in a man…I really hope it all works out in the end, but so hard to know how long it will take. I’m not going to sit around and wait, but it’s so hard not to text him good morning or just to keep him off my mind. Maybe once a week text wishing him a good week or was thinking about you, just saying hi….just don’t want to lose him or the chance to really see if it’s real??

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I found this article very relatable since I am going through the exact same thing. my boyfriend and I dated for almost 6 months. he’s in a process of getting divorced. we are from different countries but have managed to spend time with each other in our breaks. we had really clicked with each other. I know he’s the guy iv been looking 26 years for. more like a blessing really. anyway we decided to get legal done in June after his divorce in may. he’s an accountant bt profession and has his own company in a partnership. he tells me that this divorce has really drained him and he needs time to focus on his work and focus on fixing himself up financially because he feels that the reason why his ex left him was because he was not stable in life. he said he needs atleast 2-3 years. he said he feels guilty not being able to give me time and just told me the other day that he thinks I deserve someone better. the thing is I don’t think I need anybody else better then him. I mean one just knows when he/she has found their soulmate.. n i think iv found mine. I will be there for him and continue supporting his every step. I have faith in our love and believe that it will find its way somehow someday.

I’ve been hanging out with this guy for about 2 months now and we started off really into each other, and we were really driven to want to be with each other sexually. By the third date he mentioned that he wasn’t ready for a relationship so I embraced what he said and said bye about a few days later, deleting himself from my phone. About two months later he texted me asking how I was and if we could hang out again, I was reluctant because I didn’t want to waste my time with someone who only wanted sex and who might try to keep texting so I decided to call him and tell him how I felt about us. He asked if we could be friends and I said alright, as long as we weren’t going after each other like we did on the first two dates. Fast forward a couple weeks we hung out a few times and last night he texted me about working on himself and wanting to become better. I can’t help but think that I wasted my time with him, and I’m not planning to wait on him or get heartbroken.

I was with this guy for almost 2 yrs and didn’t saw each other for a year (the reason why we broke up was because of me). Then after, he contacted me saying that he was w/in my area and invited me for dinner. We had dinner, a couple drinks and went to his place for you know what… I told him that I still love him and he told me he still feels the same way about me. That he loves me and he cares about me but is not really in a hurry for a relationship right now. He says, he’s happy to see me and that he wants to keep in touch. I said I’m cool with it but deep inside I want more than what we have right now. I said I’m willing to wait but I’m scared that what if I’m waiting for nothing? Everytime we would have a chat on viber, I would say I love him & he would tell me, “I love you and I care about you” “I’m always here” “I always got your back” which I don’t understand why he needs to add that he cares about me? Or maybe I’m just overthinking? What do you think? Need some help please!!!