Says he needs space/ to focus on himself

I was with this guy for almost 2 yrs and didn’t saw each other for a year (the reason why we broke up was because of me). Then after, he contacted me saying that he was w/in my area and invited me for dinner. We had dinner, a couple drinks and went to his place for you know what… I told him that I still love him and he told me he still feels the same way about me. That he loves me and he cares about me but is not really in a hurry for a relationship right now & wants to focus on his self for now. He says, he’s happy to see me and that he wants to keep in touch. I said I’m cool with it but deep inside I want more than what we have right now. I said I’m willing to wait but I’m scared that what if I’m waiting for nothing? Everytime we would have a chat on viber, I would say I love him & he would tell me, “I love you and I care about you” which I don’t undersand why he needs to add that he cares about me? Or maybe I’m just overthinking? We’re in a casual relationship right now. Nothing less, nothing more. Need some help please!!! What do you think?

It would be better if you would start your own thread instead of adding to this one. But I see this going absolutely no where with this guy. You don’t say exactly why you broke up which would be helpful to know but if you were together for 2 years and broken up for a year and that wasn’t enough time to make him miss you and fix the things that were broken in the relationship and reconcile then it’s not going to happen.

My guess is that he does still care for you and still love you but he’s not IN LOVE with you. He’s had a year to focus on himself outside of your relationship and he still isn’t in a hurry for a relationship and STILL wants to focus on himself. He probably did miss you and now you’re giving him easy sex with no strings attached so he’s thinking why not?

But if you are wanting more and waiting for him to change his mind then you are only hurting yourself. You are agreeing to a casual relationship when you really want a committed one and are setting yourself up to be heartbroken when he finds someone else.

It took over a year for my ex and I to get back together and during that time we had both worked on ourselves and the issues we had in the relationship and were able to get back together and make things work and get married and live our happy ever after. But he hasn’t come back to you wanting a relationship and wanting to make this work. So you need to guard your heart and go no contact. Seeing him and having sex with him will only keep you emotionally tied to him.