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men….
During the lockdown we have been texting quite often.
After things relaxed, we met twice and both times it was fantastic! The second time we became physically very intimate, but he seemed very confused on what he wanted. I decided not to push and of course, he disappeared. A week after our second meeting I texted a random text and he immediately responded implying he wants to see me. I was positive and we texted back and forth a little more and he implied again a next meeting. But, he did not suggested any concrete plan. Since, when we met he was obviously confused about what he wanted, I am determined not to make a concrete suggestion to meet again. I was also determined not to text, but I did :(WTF is his problem? Why would he not initiate, imply he wants to see me immediately after I texted, and not directly suggest a third meeting? I know that if I asked him to meet he will say yes, but I want him to ask!
T from NY
There are several threads already posted that would give you the advice you seek. But I know sometimes women love to be proactive and write something out. It makes us feel we’re doing SOMEthing to try and figure a man out. But I’ve had to learn what all women have to learn to be successful in dating – You’re number one job in dating is to do NOTHING. Except respond positively to men that you like. That’s it. They do the work. They actually WANT to do the work if they like you. Men show you who they are, what they want and 90 percent are pretty up front if you’ve been dating a while, if you ask.
He set up not one, but two dates already. He knows how to do it! If he’s not doing the work it’s because he does not want to. Do not blame being intimate too early, although it does help to wait on that. But it is NO GUARANTEE even if you wait.
Most men will respond positively to a woman reaching out to them. Because it makes them feel good, they get their ego stroked, it feels right at the time, they’re always trying to keep pocket girls for easy sex or companionship. That’s not them being mean! It’s them being able to date and interact with women without getting their feelings all involved and secure physical release with women who are willing to do so without an express commitment of anything else.
Let me lead. Let men initiate. If they don’t they aren’t into you. It’s that simple.
Zoe
He doesnt have a problem. He just dosnt like you
Why cant you understandlil
I had this issue with a guy once. I got the same advice, and the people on here were right, you get to know the difference between genuine interest and non interest or trying for sex.
When someone is into you you just know it. There is no guessing or slow to ask for another date. I think often the issue is that people are juggling multiple people with little free time.
If he was really interested they make it loud and clear.
Tallspicy
It is a red flag when you fool around with a man and he does not contact you within 48 hours. That is an immediate sign to not contact them.
Tallspicy
And now you know why to not contact them, now you are most confused instead of less.
Ss
He is keeping you on a string to pull you back if he wants to. I wouldn’t worry about the sex bit, he probably would have bailed regardless. He already told you he doesn’t know what he wants- guy speak for i don’t want a relationship with you – so I’d do nothing. If he asks and you want to see him again then that’s up to you but know that if you do he is still going to be flaky and still going to not want a relationship with you
Raven
Then, he really doesn’t want a 3rd date with you… Sorry-
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