Sending him a bikini pic or posting it on my story?

Thanks for your advice! I decided against it anyways. We’ve talked every day for a month and facetime once. The reason why we haven’t met more than once is bc our work schedules conflict. So I really don’t think he’s not interested (or at least I hope that’s not the case). I agree with you; it is probably best to wait till we’re in a relationship for the allure of it all.

I guess I was really worried that he’s going to lose interest eventually…?? I’m not even sure at this point. Again thanks!

I feel as though “spice it up” wasn’t a great way to describe it. I want to believe that he is still very much interested. He still responds on time, is not dry, and shows genuine interest. He’ll tell me how much he likes me. I guess I’m worried about the possibility of him losing interest in me, seeing how we’ve hung out once. So my thought process led me to debate whether or not I should post a thirst trap to keep him interested.
Online dating sucks, and it just makes you overthink everything, lol.

You can not sex a guy into a relationship & why would you want to try?

Do you really want a guy who’s only after your p*ssy?

@Maddie lol at thirst trap!

No idea why you are thinking about doing this. By all means stick a nice thirst trap selfie on insta but sending it direct to him is absolutely desperate behaviour particularly when he is showing low interest. You can’t sex a man into a relationship. He will see it for what it is and then pump and dump!

@mama, thanks for your advice! We met once, and in person, we had drinks after work, mainly bc we both work in the city and our jobs really demand so much of us. I decided against it, mainly because that’s not who I am, and I want to earn respect in this relationship. My Instagram does have pictures of me on vacation in swimsuits, but I guess deciding against sending it is most defiantly the best option.

@ Erin, I really agree with your approach; I think it’s way more important not to play games and match his energy rather than paint myself in the wrong light.

@raven, I’m sure if you’re callous, or it’s really just your writing style. However, my intention was not to make him want me just for sex. I obviously did not think it through. I really thought it would be a fun and “different” picture to send and did not really think about the ‘implications’ or the image ill be setting up for myself. I’m glad I asked the forum and had things put into perspective

Why on earth would you send a bikini shot to someone who is “e-tethering” you?

If a man is keeping you on line (tethered), then a confident, strong, secure woman would say “OH HELL NO”, and drop him like a hot skillet! Stand out from the pack. Women who do what you want to do are a dime-a dozen, and why men do this, because women allow it. Don’t be “that woman!”