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Madison
Ok, so there’s a guy that volunteers at my job. He’s really handsome, very nice. He’s been kinda flirty with me, but hasn’t made a move to ask me out yet (it’s still kinda new). Not sure if it’s because we kinda work together or what. Anyway, I’m totally smitten. I took the “Does He Like Me Quiz” on this site and it says “This guy is somewhat interested in you, but he’s on the fence and doesn’t know if he sees himself with you long term…”
Anyway on Saturday night, after a work event, we all went out partying. Everyone was drinking. I drank way too much (he bought me shots) and got super drunk. I ended up drunk dialing him and sending him a couple texts saying stuff like “Are you still out? I’m not ready to call it a night yet!” and “Let’s go dancing!” Nothing super bad, but out of character for myself.
I didn’t even remember calling or texting him until the next morning when I sobered up and saw my phone. I was mortified. I sent an apology text and he responded saying, “No worries!” Did I completely ruin my chances with him?
Second part of my question: Today, after all of us at work were partying on Saturday night everyone was sending each other Facebook friend requests. I got on Facebook as was gonna send him and another guy I work with (totally platonic) friend requests, but I got distracted at work and can’t remember if I ever actually sent the requests or not. I got online after I got home from work to see if I’d sent the requests and I don’t see them. Part of me thinks I never actually hit the “add friend” button, but the other part of me thinks maybe I did and they both denied my request (which to be honest, would surprise me since I get along well with both of these guys). I would like to send them friend requests, but I’m unsure if I should because there is always that possibility that I already sent one, but they denied the request. I totally don’t know what I should do?
EmilyProbably. Nothing you can do about it. Just don’t message him again!
MoukNothing wrong with sending fun and flirty texts. You are a woman. But, no need to apologize the next day. He does not know it is out of character for you to want to go dancing. Did you do something you really feel bad about, or are you just worried about putting yourself out there and want to take it back? Unless you are really sorry, don’t say sorry — Just let it go. Leave some mystery!
MadisonIt’s not out of character for me to want to go dancing. He knows that I love to dance. The getting drunk and drunk dialing/texting is what is out of character. And THAT’S what I’m embarrassed about. And honestly, yeah, I am a little afraid of putting myself out there. I haven’t dated in 4 years since my last relationship ended (ex cheated on me).
redcurleysueI don’t get it. Either you are drunk or distracted when you do things. Learn to focus and be sober when you act.
Assume you sent the requests and drop it. If these guys want to be your friend they will send you a request…they have a brain and keyboard.
You act out too much for your own good. Stop initiating all the time…receive instead.
JackieDon’t send more requests because if you already did you’ll look really foolish to both guys!
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