Sex on the fifth date too soon? going out with him again

It sounds like he’s interested in you, so that’s a good sign. Don’t regret what you did – you made the choice to sleep with him, and that’s okay. Own your decision. If he pressures you to have sex tonight, that means he might be only after sex. However, if he doesn’t, it’s more likely he’s after something meaningful (like a relationship). Did you talk to him about what you both want?

Well at this point it doesn’t really matter if it was too soon because you’ve already done it! Now it’s just water under the bridge. It would have been nice if you had more of a discussion regarding what you both want in a relationship BEFORE you got physical with him, but it’s too late for that now. I would not have any manner of relationship talk this evening. You’re right that it’s too soon. And a lot of guys are looking to see if a girl freaks out after sex and starts talking about the relationship and the future and thinks all the sudden once you’ve gone there that it’s an instant relationship.

Don’t put that pressure on him. Just have fun tonight, if he’s only after sex now you’ll be able to tell soon enough.

I’d say just go and enjoy the date.
What is done is done at this point.
He seems interested in you and his behavior after the sex hasn’t seemed to change at all.
Many women let the sex get in their head a ruin things. Keep your cool and own your choice.
If he is looking for a relationship sex on the first date or the fifth date would not make a difference to him.
Let us know what happens.

Update:

we had out date and it was great. We went to dinner, we shared a bottle of wine and it was all very nice. Even better than before,like I felt more relaxed. He was also being very sweet and searching for my hand, giving me pecks, etc. He walked me home and in the end kissed me very passionately. He didn’t even hinted for sex, after dinner we went for a drink and played board games in the bar and that was it.

In the middle of the date, He asked me on another date this week. We were talking about films, so he said that he could bring the box of popcorn I have left in his house. After that, he said we could go to the movies. We’re going out on Saturday.

He seems very interested. Right now its hard to tell since I can’t really tell what he is after. He could be after a FWB or something else. I guess we will see.

I really wouldn’t mind having sex with him on Saturday but maybe its better to wait until I know we’re in the same page?

Given the fact, that sex didn’t even came out. I think he wouldn’t mind not having sex on saturday. Its hard, though!

aww youre sweet moon… I like reading your story :)

I believe, regardless as to whether he does or dosent “ask” or “hint” towards sex – he wants sex. Hands down. He wants it. Hes had, he wants it again, and you really cant fault him for that.

As for this saturday.. that is a tricky one…
You said that you might want to wait until you know youre on the same page?
Tell me whats on your page? try and remember you cant have expectations for him otherwise your likely to be disappointed. You can however have standards for how you handle yourself.

The guys likes you, clearly, he behaves like prince charming towards you, you’ve had SIX dates with him, and sex ONLY on the fifth date, so what is the issue with sex? Of course go ahead and have sex this Saturday, and enjoy it! You’ve already done it with him, so what are you losing? Don’t talk about relationships, he seems to be the type of a guy who would bring it up himself. If you don’t bring it up, you will also have a chance to bail out easily if YOU decide you don’t want a relationship with him.

Thanks girl for all that great advice! I agree, there is no point. It felt like the right thing at the moment, it was great, I don’t regret it. I think the best thing I can do is to see how things unfold on saturday, if we go for a movie and a drink and thats it, great. If something else, happens. Great. I’m trying not to have any expectations of what is going to happen. I will just be myself and have fun. He is a great guy and I enjoyed meeting him. Whatever happens will happen…

The “what we want talk”, I don’t know, it might be reassuring to know that we both want to get to know each other and that it might head towards a relationship, but its not a guarantee. Anything can happen. Besides, I’m dating other guys(not sex, though) and I assume he is dating other girls(he is very good looking) so I’m not really sure of my expectations towards him either.

And yeah, it is naive to ask if he wants sex. Of course he wants sex, I want it too! haha

thanks for your reply. I don’t fret it. It’s true what you say: there are no guarantees, many things can happen.However, he does seem interested. We shall see what happens…

…it’s going to be an uphill battle should you find yourself in that situation.

likes* wants*

Update: We have been talking everyday and yesterday he asked me if I wanted to go with him to an event there was yesterday in our city. I agreed and we meet there. He was being really affectionate the whole time. We went for a drink afterwards, we started talking and he asked me if I was seeing anyone else, I said I was. He said he wasn’t seeing anyone else and that maybe he had to step up his game. I found this immature. After that, he kept asking me questions about the guys I was dating. I answered with the truth but very briefly.

After that, he was really sweet all night. He kept kissing me and searching for my hand, staring at me and smiling. He said at one point” I just want to kiss you all the time.” He said that this Saturday we could go to the museum. We didn’t had sex, just kisses. They were very sweet and not at all sexual. He would kiss my forehead and push back my hair…judging from the fact we’re going to the museum, I don’t think we’re going to have sex. I’m glad that he is not in a rush, though.

So this, I guess, was the talk? He didn’t said he wanted a relationship but he did got jealous after I told him I was seeing other people. He is very affectionate but yesterday he was being really, really, affectionate, is just confusing. I wish he could just speak clearly. Any advice on how to make him do so?

Sorry but your putting too much emphasis on SEX and its going to spoil what’s really a good thing IMO.

This man really likes you and having all that “serious talk” is a good way to SPOIL a budding relationship! Stop concentrating on SEX…just be in the PRESENT, enjoy the moments without thinking ahead because unless you have a crystal ball neither of you know where it may or may not go.

Relationships aren’t SCRIPTED or PLANNED…they just evolve without the needless thinking, talking, worrying, stressing or wondering. Think of dating as a gift that is slowly unwrapped with each date without trying to GUESS what’s in it because you could very get A LEMON once the mask starts slipping off and his true self is slowly revealed. Just listen, watch and observe—if its meant to be allow it to grow organically