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Marie
I met this guy 4 weeks ago. We have been on a total of 5 dates/hang outs since meeting. He seems to be so sweet and caring and kind.takes me out, pays, tells me I’m beautiful and perfect. There is a lot of sexual tension and our texts can sometimes lead to sexting. So far we have just kissed nothing more. he has told me that there’s no rush for sex and he can wait, however I feel a lot of his texts turn a bit sexual.
Is it too soon to have a bit of dirty texting? Will he categorise me as non relationship material if I responds to his texts sexually (no photos)? I really like this guy and I just want things to work out. His texting and sweet talk has decreased this week and it seems to be just a bit of sexual comments ( before he’d be so sweet and say I’m beautiful, tell me he wants to kiss me and misses me etc)
I have been going along with everything. I think he knows he’s got me I’ve made it obvious. I just don’t want to mess this up. Is it bad that I have been responding to naughty texts? Thanks in advance
Khadija
Yes, I think four weeks in is too soon to be sexting. I mean do you even know what this guy is looking for?
Boog
“I think he knows he’s got me I’ve made it obvious.”
Why does he have you with such little effort?? It is very easy for a man to say charming things –his actions will tell you how he really feels. If he is really only texting you sexual things at this point, I think it is clear that he is only interested in a sexual relationship. I do think that 4 weeks is too soon to be sexting, but frankly, with a guy like that, I don’t think I’d *ever* sext.
Jenny
Sext if you want and you’re comfortable with that. It does sound like he’s interested in sex more than he’s letting on. I personally don’t ever really “sext” unless it’s a FWB thing- bc what else do we have to talk about? Lol. As a matter of fact, a guy I’m considering *again asked me for “sexy pics” because he travels for work. We’ve already slept together and that part of our relationship is heated to say the least BUT I don’t do that kind of stuff. I’m not a naked pics kinda girl. Unless you’re a long-term bf or my husband that’s just out of my comfort level. So I directly said “I’m not a “sexy pics” kinda girl…” He replied “OK, don’t want to take you out of your comfort zone” a/k/a HE RESPECTS ME. Do what you want, but do it because YOU want to. If he can’t understand that, he’s not right for you! Good Luck!
Rose
It’s wrong only if it makes you uncomfortable. If you feel good flirting a little doesn’t hurt but don’t let it go too far or he’ll get the wrong idea from you.
I personally don’t like sexting unless the guy is my boyfriend and we’re trying to spice things up.
At this phase you shouldn’t need to spice things up, the single thought of being with you should make him crazy.
redcurleysue
I don’t really get into sexting…I am after the real thing.
And I wait for the real thing when it is time…when I am comfortable.
I will caution you that no one can guarantee where pictures or texts will end up…so be careful.
Carrie
Becareful! He may start to text you less after he gets what he wants. Say he is too busy, may be true but you will know. Just state your standards and way you want to be treated. Cute flirty texts are appropriate when it does t go over languages and foul boundaries. Should be tasteful and respectful. Good luck
Marie
Thanks everyone. His actions do tell me he wants more but just the whole texting thing can get raunchy. It’s not to explicit sexting, it’s just a bit of sexual talk like eg. U looked sexy tonight, i want u , etc.. Sexy talk. I saw it has building the sexual tension? But I guess 4 weeks is pretty early. Next time he does that I’m gonna avoid texting him.’i hope I haven’t ruined things. Thanks everyone
Mandy
Why don’t you talk with HIM about it? If it’s something real, he shouldn’t be turned off by your willingness to communicate right?
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