Sexy Pics

Completely agree with, Rose. Great post.

This is why I throw it out there.
Need another voice in my head besides my own. Sometimes my brain just gets twisted all up with feelings that I don’t think straight.
Anyway. It isn’t that important that he touches himself to my photos. It was just when he said it I had this feeling come up in me like I didn’t do it for him. And I do love him and he does love me and does sleep with me and he really is a good man and I think that’s why I want to be able to satisfy him.

I’m pretty sure guys watch porn for the variety aspect, doesn’t mean they would dream of making a move on another woman in real life. He can see you naked on a regular basis so the pics don’t mean that much, I’m sure he’d rather see the real thing. When you’re not there he fantasizes, there’s nothing wrong with that if he’s faithful. Everyone has fantasies, if all he’s doing is watching and imagining then you have nothing to worry about.

PS those sexy pics, maybe wait till you’ haven’t seen each other a couple of days, and then send it to him 8 hours before you’re meant to see each other. Then keep teasing him throughout the day with suggestive one liner messages. That should get him all worked up.

The problem was not the amount of porn he’s watching, the question was why he’s not masturbating to her picture. That was the question that was answered.

Nobody told her she shouldn’t feel hurt, she can feel however she wants but also has to understand that’s not something she did. And nowadays watching porn has become “normal” at least in our culture. It’s sad and a problem but reality.

I think you can give any advice you want but questioning other responders advice is childish as we all have different points of view and in the end the OP will take what suits her.

I won’t watch porn and I wouldn’t stay with a man who needed it, because most of the performers have been sexually abused. It’s a seedy business.

Unless porn intereferes with his normal life or his desire for the real thing then he doesn’t have a porn addiction, although he could develop it.

I think you shouldn’t be trying to compete with porn stars but trying to be yourself and if he doesn’t appreciate you and prefers to watch porn than spending time with you then yes, you have a problem.

I don’t see it as he not paying attention to you or not being able to have intercourse. It’s just that you get jealous knowing he watches other people and that’s OK but as long as he doesn’t look to cheat on you for real with a porn star I don’t see why questioning his mental health.

I watch porn at times and of course real women and men can compete with it! I’m sure your man has the sense to see it as just as fake as any other movie and not what real life is like at all.

When I watch I don’t imagine having sex with the men or compare them with my partner. And I’d much rather be enjoying the real thing with my partner! My partner also watches but I know he’d rather be getting off with me too.

When your guy watches porn he’s “in the mood” and is taking private him to himself. If he’d received that photo at that time, maybe he would’ve got hard, who knows! You could have aroused him at a totally inappropriate time!

I really don’t see a problem unless he’s showing signs of addiction or his watching is effecting your sex life.

Porn watching nearly destroyed my parents’ marriage so I totally agree it can have a massive effect on relationships if one partner does something the other isn’t happy with.

If your partner watches porn, you have to feel comfortable with him or her doing it or the relationship is headed for trouble.

I do think it’s like any feel-good inducing activity. Some people are happy having the occasional glass of wine, others become alcoholics. But the tiny minority.

Trying to be someone’s only sexual outlet is unrealistic! I fantasise about things that don’t involve my partner and look at men and find them attractive. It isn’t emotionally cheating, it’s human nature. Men are more visual than women, so while I’m generally happy to fantasise in my head, men are more likely to want a visual outlet.

But girlwhoknows, no one should be ashamed of their thoughts and beliefs. A lot of people hate it and I can understand why.

Obviously people’s tolerance to porn varies widely. Nell, only you decide how much porn you can put up with your bf watching before it starts to take an emotional toll on you which will eventually ruin the relationship. It’s good that he agreed to try to “ease off” for you.

I feel for you because you basically got a double blow to your ego. You were hurt because you thought you might not be “doing it” for him when you found out he was getting off to porn almost daily. Then the second blow came when you excitedly went out of your comfort zone to please him with sexy pictures and he didn’t seem to get super excited and super erect by looking at them as you had hoped

Just remember that you are a real woman (not an unattainable porn star) and he has an emotional attachment to you and has invested time and energy in the relationship. You offer him so much more than just a body on a screen.