She blocked me and cut me off

I still love her but i didn’t treat her well. Not because I didn’t want to, but i just couldn’t. I now know i have to let go of some toxic people in my life. And sort my life out.
I would love us to get back together in the future. But for now we both need to heal. Thankyou all

I’m not getting any counselling, I’m too scared to.
There are alot of issues in my past that I have to deal with .
I hope I can sort these things out because they’re ruining my life.
I miss her, and didn’t realise I loved her till she was gone

Hi Tony,

There is no need to tell someone after a breakup, to stay friends. It is a nice gesture, but really the worst at the same time!Did you honestly think, that afther breaking up with her, you can call her up like every week and ask how she is doing? Or that she would call and ask the same? Noway. Don’t think like this. An honest goodbye from a relationship is enough. Let her be. She told you, she didn’t want to be friends, just accept her choice, as she accepted your breaking up with her.
Don’t look back to the past, just see the future.

You may think, she hurt you by blocking you from whatsupp, but she thinks there is nothing to talk about with you, so accept it. You only feel, that this blocking hurt you, because it wasn’t the way you thought it would be.

Absolutely not!

You are clinging to her like a life preserver. You hurt her yet by reaching out you’re essentially asking her to numb your own pain and its fundamentally wrong to do that to her. Unless you can be an awesome BF and treat her like a queen then don’t contact her.

What are you doing to get your life on track? What steps have you made? What actions have you put in motion? What’s your plan?

Lane i am trying,I am working regularly and trying to be a better person.
Something has happened in my family, and I just want her to be there.
Lena i will write on your thread

You are a smart man to know that you need to make changes. You are a smart man to see you did not treat her right.

That takes courage my friend, to admit that. And you are half way home.

Before you worry about getting her into your life you need to be concerned what you are asking her back into. You know that.

First things first. Write the letter to let her know what happened. STOP. Clean up your life. STOP. Get back in contact then.

I understand jippity but it’s very hard for people to just go to counselling, you have to want to go and believe it will help. I think people only change when they are at their lowest depths. Don’t u think?

Tony

this is my take…a little different than the others…but this is how I would feel as a woman in this situation.

Now..she unblocked you because she wants you to contact her. Her emotions are all over the place.. SHe hates you, loves you, misses you..hopes that you will be forever miserable..but wants to hold you tight. Welcome to the brain of a brokenhearted woman. ;)

What I would do is talk to her face to face. Be honest with her about how you feel…that’s all you have to do

I would contact her right away.. the longer you leave it…the more resentful she will be that you haven’t contacted her..

If you love her, but still don’t want to be with her, …somehow give her the power of thinking SHE made the decision to let YOU go

That way…if you want a friendship in the future…it is more likely she’ll agree..

OH SH*T Why are people responding to old posts?
It’s happening all the time now..

What a waste of time…jeez

Hey everyone- I’ve been blocked numerous times by numerous women that I have been involved with. The thing I’ve learned from this is that you shouldn’t let it bother you. What it boils down to is that you have to take a long deep look at yourself and see that there are reasons why they do this. It makes me feel better about myself knowing what I need to change in order to be in a happy healthy relationship. If nothing changes, nothing changes. I’ve dated the same type of girl over and over again and they have all ended in a similar fashion. One toxic relationship to the next. But understand, if you aren’t right with yourself you’ll keep getting the same results. Believe me when I say I have had my heart shattered a few times but ultimately I realized that it is me who has to change. Does that make sense? I’ve played the game and never stopped playing it and in the end I have found myself alone. But chalk it up, get back out there and find the same type of crazy you are and run wild together. You must let nothing move you, be it good or bad. When the mental cannot be moved, there no longer is good or bad, there just is. When there just is, you have the ability to form and shape. I’ll be back people. I understand the pain you are experiencing. God Bless

Tony,

She’s hurting badly right now.. she tried out being friends…but, I think she took the friendship route just hoping you would change your mind
I know you’re hurting…but guess what, she’s hurting more than you…she’s the dumpee.

She’s angry, shocked, missing you badly, and is in a lot of pain..

For her to block you and your family just yesterday, it’s obvious that you are still very much on her mind, angry as hell, humiliated and still hurting very badly.

It’s quite common with females to heal by blocking out their memories with an ex entirely. She probably doesn’t want to be tempted to lurk on the family profiles..especially yours.. slows down her healing process.

Also, part of her wants to get a reaction out her blocking, and is hoping that you’ll beg for forgiveness and be her bf again.
She’s in a mess…leave her alone!

If you don’t intend on being her bf, then I feel you shouldn’t contact her..respect her boundaries. If you care for her..let her heal.
But yeah…I would send a genuine apology via email because of how you reacted, but say nothing like “sorry, but I reacted that way. because” or “I’m really sorry, but…” Nothing I will miss you..blah blah..no false hope..slows down her healing.

If you want to contact her, just to see how she is a couple of months down the road..go ahead, may not get an answer though. If I were her, no matter how much you seemed to care.. if you were once again clear that you still didn’t have a change of heart..I would say goodbye to you for good.

But, I think it’s best to leave her be after you apologize.

Unrequited love is one of the most painful experiences a person can go through.
She feels that she’s not good enough to be your gf..but she is just good enough to just be your friend.

If you do decide that you do want to give it a try again with a relationship ..contact her ASAP

Best of luck

I am not sure if this post is still active, but it’s worth a try. I am in a situation similar to the original poster Tony. I am a male, and have appreciated the positive advice you have provided him. It is refreshing, as mots other sites tend to get quite negative and no offer much advice except “move on”.

Anyways, I will lay my situation out here and if I should make a new post I would appreciate if one of you kind ladies will help.

I was with my girlfriend off and on, but mostly on for 4 years. I love her very much. I regrettably told her a month and a half ago that I didn’t want to be in the relationship anymore. Similar to Tony, she cut me off from all means of communication. It was not right after, but a few days later. It was only after I attempted to reach out a few times to apologize and remind her how amazing i think she is through a love letter. She ignored it and then “BAM,” I am blocked.

I understand I messed up royally, not a day goes by that I do not at some point beat myself up a bit. After she did the blocking and cutting me off, I have tried both giving space (30 days), and reaching out with an email (since I am blocked everywhere else) where I pointed out 4 things I know she had brought up as issues for her. I then told her the action I have since taken to better myself, and how I have been learning in those areas. I made it clear that her health in the relationship was important to me. i also made it clear that I was aware that I had become a bit stagnant and that this space has helped me mentally reset in a super positive way. I sent that yesterday, I don’t know for sure that she received it or deleted it. I cannot control that.

So wonderful helpful ladies can you offer anything I can control that may help me turn the tide and get her back on my side. I am feeling lost and confused about what else I can honestly do. I have thought about trying to go there and taking a chance to attempt to talk to her face to face, however, I do not want to look like a stalker. I live in Virginia, and she is in Texas. Please help.