She slept with someone else while we were dating

Were you exclusive at the time? If not then she had the right to do as she wanted……if you were exclusive then she cheated and is not worth your time, find a more honest GF.

No we hadn’t slept together when she went off the radar for a couple of weeks. We weren’t exclusive I guess and I found out by seeing a pic of her on social media with this guy.

I think you should give her a pass on this one. You weren’t exclusive at the time and you weren’t intimate. It was just casual dating at the time. You weren’t in an established relationship like you are now. When I met my BF of almost 4 years now, he was dating someone else for about 2 weeks. He was up front about it and told me I could do the same. So we casually dated but realized within about 3 weeks we were awesome together so we both stopped dating others and became exclusive. You seemed to never have a conversation like this so I would not dwell on it. When you 1st start dating someone it’s not exclusive until you both agree to it. HOWEVER, I would have a conversation with her and let her know it bothers you but now that you are exclusive and in an established relationship you will not tolerate infidelity. Let her know where you stand and make sure she agrees with you. Once this is established if you both love each other you should be fine. Don’t let something like this ruin what you have and what could be the one. If she had done it last month I’d say run but this isn’t her cheating. This was just her casually dating until she found the man she wanted to be exclusive with. She obviously chose you! Congrats! Be happy about that and move forward.

I think your title is inaccurate. You weren’t “dating” when she slept with someone else. You had only gone on 2 dates and hadn’t discussed being exclusive or not dating other people. She spent a couple weeks deciding whether or not she liked this other guy and in the end she picked you and here you are 10 months later. I know it hurts to think she was with another guy after you met her, but if she’s been faithful since then and you trust her then this is definitely something you can get over and work toward a future together. I assume you wouldn’t know she went on several dates with this guy and slept with him unless you asked her about the picture and she was honest with you. If your relationship was fine up to this point it should be fine again. You love her and I would treat this just like any other guy she slept with before you two start dating. They are in the past.

My advice to you is that,just stop that relationship, is it mandatory that you need to sleep with her to show that you are in a relationship? certainly not.
Even if you continued with that relationship,what proof do you have that she won’t sleep with someone else. she has just shown you her true colours of what she can do When you aren’t available.
Learn from it and Change your Direction.

As alia said, this is American style dating where you treat sex like a commodity, have one night stands, sleep with people you barely know after a date or two, have high divorce rates then suddenly become prudish and upset when you realize the person you partnered with has been with a lot of people before and during you. Stop pretending like you are the innocent, hurt party here and you haven’t done similar stuff to other ladies or ghosted women after one night stands. And if you haven’t then maybe you and your current girlfriend should part ways but I strongly suspect you are similarly matched in your ‘morals’. Get over it dude and stop looking for something to be upset about when you aren’t a paragon of virtue yourself. You weren’t exclusive.

How if I clearly mentioned that she was not seeing anyone else during the time when we were going out, but later after being in a relationship after 8 months found out she was in a physical relationship with a guy for 3 whole months when we were dating.

Basically after I send her back home, she went with him n slept with him

According to her everything was forced, but looking at the texts, the pictures, it doesn’t look that way

She swapped bodily fluids with this guy she barely knows, risked a possible pregnancy and STDs, and probably had her mouth on his genitals. Of COURSE it’s a big deal.

I don’t blame you for being completely turned off. If you truly can’t move past it, it’s best to start fresh with someone else.

This is fine on your gfs part as it was Before you became exclusive that she was out with someone else. My main question is why are you stalking your gf on social media and pulling her apart ? Dont you trust her ? Are you abusive and controlling ?

1. Send her home meaning, after taking her out on a date, basically I’ll fetch her from her place go out, talk , laugh n all, after that send her back to her place. And at that point of time she really was going through a break up. The problem is she wasnt fooling around with her ex, it was a different guy

2. Abusive… lol… I never even yell or shout at her the day I found the texts, just happened I woke up that time found her phone buzzing and saw those texts. According to her she wanted me to see those texts

3. The day I told her that I liked her n all, she told me she wanted to know me more, n I told okay let’s start going out n exclusively asked her if she was seeing anyone else, she denied seeing anyone else that time. But after 8 months found she was actually sleeping with another guy at that point of time n claimed everything was by force, if she didnt commit to what that guy wanted he would threaten her with a knife.

What ever you have to think to make it right…

Your assuming she slept with him. I thnk you shld just communicate your thoughts with her.maybe things ended btween them on a gud and amicable note.and it was just a casual and friendly dinner? Talk to her.