Should I be upset?

yes, off topic. best of luck to both you Sisi and OP.

But to add something constructive. Tiffany its really easy to tell your guy you like him to do something. Just tell him

Kim THANK YOU! I’m not even gonna bother reading anybody elses’ Comments on this. I realized asking a question on here was a big mistake!

Kim thank you so much. Everybody is bashing me lol!!

Tiffany,
Maybe you’ll read just one more… this one haha.
You’re welcome! I was so tired of the drama getting shoved down your throat! You are doing what is good for you. That’s how it should be. People love to push and say it’s for your own good. They aren’t anywhere to be found to pick up the pieces if you go against what you feel is right for you and listen to them and everything falls apart. Oh hell no… they have moved on to their next power trip.

We all get anxious from time to time. That’s not a reason to give in to it and scrap everything. You were smart enough to realize this. You have the tools to be successful in a relationship. I’m glad you didn’t trade your working tools for the broken tools some people tried to pawn off on you!

Kim,

Thanks girl! Yeah everybody kinda made it sound like they just knew me and my relationship… I went and said should I be upset? I was kind of looking for advice and maybe a pick me up…. from now on I will not be asking more questions on here lol! It’s almost like everybody replies to make themselves feel better? Kinda odd…. but I would like to stop this topic please guys! It’s been a looooong time and I will more than likely see him this weekend! Lol

Because:
1 they are a year in and established some routines and quietness
2 in every other case women suggest a woman to calm down and let the guy come to her (look at the basket case post ‘should i call him’)
3 it has been clearly established that the guy is a bad texter meaning he probably doesnt like to chit chat over text
4 it has been clearly established that the guy is busy and doing a heavy physical program
5 it has been established in general that you cant do your guy a bigger favour than to give him mancave time without bitching about it. Doing that Naturally works even better
6 most guys dont like short leashes. Many women dont either
7 Tiffany doesnt sound unbalanced, doormatty but like a girl/woman with a good head on her shoulders. Unlike many other posters who are so desperate to find love they put up with anything

And yet for some ofd reason Tiffany gets scolded for Being with a lousy bf. And again: she didnt ask anyone to evaluate her relationship. And thats why i found many responses here to bizarre

Hi again everyone I wanted to do a quick update… he texted me last night apologizing that he’s been so distant the academy has his attention right now. He’s going to see me this weekend but he explained what his days are like and I couldn’t even begin to imagine.

So thank you everyone!

Yes I didn’t see him for two weeks? And…. your point is? Sometimes I can’t see him for 2/3 weeks because I have midterms or finals for school that I need to focus on. But all in all he knew he was being distant which is why I got anxious and started this topic…

Not sure what you’re trying to get at here Sisi!!

Oh gotcha. To each their own Sisi! I don’t mind not communicating everyday. I was just anxious but everything is good now…. he apologized about ignoring me

Kim
Your friend, like all these forums preys in peoples emotions. I don’t put much stock into being written about in publications. People actually HIRE publicists to give them cred. Or they have contacts who are willing to showcase them. I can name tons of people who have been noted for their expertise that are not good programs or services. If you find this forum so toxic I don’t know why you hang around except you like the others you criticize like to read and write bad advice and witness human suffering. I have been in a few relationships where the man always put me on hold. It was so unsettling. Always wondering when I would see him and jump like Pavlov’s dog at the call or text. oP says she is ok with this but she was anxious enough about this great stable relationship to seek out a forum and ask for advice over one missed text message. Women do a great job of rationalizing men’s actions to fit what makes them comfortable in their head. After a full year together there should be no anxiety about calling your boyfriend to see what’s up and if you are going to see each other. She is afraid of double texting for Christ’s sake! Maybe it’s generational but younger people have no clue how to communicate with each other and think a text is the end all be all. I have been with extremely busy men who travel that never failed to make contact at least once a day to foster the relationship. It’s called caring and looking out for your partner. If OP wants to fake her real feelings that’s on her. Most questions posted here are not really about the reason thr woman posts. His lack of response made her feel neglected and disrespected. And she showed him by not saying something about it that he can get away with this again because there is such a thing as being too easy. I have to agree gaming and Facebook may be good to reduce stress but if that’s a priority over her this won’t change in the future. This pattern will become old over time. I’m not saying he’s using her, but he sure as heck isn’t viewing her as highimportance in his life and that may be the state of the relationship. It’s dating and not a real relationship where you integrate in each other lives.

Hello, you made valid points about being put on hold. That doesn’t mean those points apply in everyone’s situation.

There should be no anxiety? Anxiety can happen after 20 years together. It’s rather interesting to put this out. Where do you think a lot of texting or calling anxiety comes from? Many people who like to say there shouldn’t be any anxiety are the same ones who push all the “rules” about don’t text, don’t contact him, if he doesn’t contact you… forget it, don’t, don’t, don’t! Someone’s first inclination may be to pick up the phone and communicate, until all the “don’t you dare or you’ll ruin everything because you don’t value yourself” echoes come rushing in. That’s enough to make anyone question themselves. After they have followed this supposedly golden advice, they get told they are bad communicators who don’t value themselves.
Damned if you do, damned if you don’t huh?
There’s a time and place for applying different actions. The problem is when cliché advice get slapped on at any juncture.

I don’t think Forbes operates on hired publicists giving credit but then again, what do I know? Well, I only know what a PsyD has taught me.

Thanks Kim! I’m working towards my PsyD as well!!!