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  • September 1, 2015 at 9:53 am #454722 Reply
    Ashley

    no no no no. and no. you need to stop with this guy. you are looking for any excuse to see hope in this situation & after everything that happened, it’s ridiculous to be honest with you. you are still chasing him in your head

    September 1, 2015 at 11:57 am #454763 Reply
    Khadija

    Hello Again Kelly G,
    Boy has this been going on for a while.
    I’m glad you moved out but, it’s unfortunate about your roommate. Looks like you may need to find a new one.

    In regards to this ex you really are using him as a crutch. I think it’s time you go no contact and do your own thing. I mean why are you sticking around? Are you really happy being around this guy?

    There is no reason why you should still be sticking around.If he is sleeping with this ex I’m willing to bet he was when he was with you. It’s time for you to be friends with someone else.

    Get rid of this guy and move on with your life.

    September 1, 2015 at 1:11 pm #454778 Reply
    Lana

    I’m going to say how it is, because you need to hear the truth.

    This man will never commit to you. He will never marry you. And he will never truly love you.

    If you go back, you are crazy, and have incredibly low self esteem (which I’m pretty sure everyone on this thread can already establish)

    Stop being blind. Stop being a drama queen. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. You are in your 20s and you are wasting your life thinking about a man who honestly doesn’t give two shits about you. You might think he misses you, but he doesn’t. He will never be the man you want him to be. Just stop and move on. Have some dignity.

    September 1, 2015 at 2:24 pm #454801 Reply
    Randall

    You really need to get yourself together before you try with him again. There is nothing more of a turn-off to a guy than a needy girl, and you sound terribly needy right now. Work on your career; find some better friends. Definitely get away from the drug addict roommate. Build your confidence and you’ll attract great guys. Maybe this guy will even come back. He seems the type who can’t quite detach, either from you or the previous ex. I really feel sorry for his next gf, who will be competing with twice as many exes as you had to.

    September 1, 2015 at 2:57 pm #454813 Reply
    Newbie

    Hi Kelly g,
    My heart goes out to you. Looks like life threw some rocks at you, and you are trying very hard to recover from it and become a better person. Be proud of that and stick to that. Somehow i think you benefit most from building up good friendships, a career and become a more confident person. You can do it, you are still young.

    If this guy has been a good friend, that’s cool. Stay friends, but don’t go back on the rollercoaster. Those feelings you have for him, will disappear in time. Good luck and lots of love.

    September 1, 2015 at 3:42 pm #454826 Reply
    Erika

    Kelly, I am very sorry it all happened. Ending a relationship is hard and makes feel so miserable, although it hurts, you will move on when you stop hanging out with him. It will hurt a lot, but we all passed through this moment and I say that when you least notice, you will be all free of this feeling.
    Good luck, you will make it :)

    September 1, 2015 at 5:21 pm #454851 Reply
    Kelly g

    I’ve dated and slept with 5 guys since we broke up, I know he only slept with ex and she’s now pushing him for more, wanting to know where they stand. Pretty much bothering him and he said when he went out of town this week for work, he missed me not her.

    I went to his house this morning because he had the day off, we slept together and he was very sweet and loving.
    Those words he said before about not being attracted to me scare me.
    I guess attraction can come back?

    September 1, 2015 at 5:36 pm #454857 Reply
    Gemini615

    Kelly have you learned nothing at all? Re-read your thread and all the advise you were given. You were finally making progress by moving out and moving on and now you are letting him suck you back in?! WHY?

    Sorry but you need to GET A GRIP. If you want to keep making the same mistakes over and over with the same man then don’t be surprised and in tears later when it doesn’t work out. You know how things will end up with him. Why are you doing this to yourself again? Do you enjoy the drama and pain?

    This honestly saddens me that you don’t love yourself enough to want better. That is the biggest tragedy of this whole thing.

    September 1, 2015 at 6:57 pm #454880 Reply
    Anon v

    I would never, ever, EVER let a man treat me the way this man has treated both you and his ex.

    Sorry to be blunt but what the hell is wrong with you. You are so so so blind and justifying shitty behaviour for a lay with a guy who doesn’t care about you at all. AT ALL. I would rather stay single then let this man play hot and cold with me, your a woman not a tap.

    Value yourself and stop acting like a little girl.

    September 1, 2015 at 10:37 pm #454926 Reply
    Erika

    Kelly :(
    Sweety, i know you are not moving on because you still love and want him. But he is treating you and his ex in a awful way.
    I bet she is saying: “my ex bf broke up with me after 6 years of relationship and he got a girlfriend but he says sweet things to me and seems like he is not all over her.”
    And then she will say: “he broke up with her and we slept together. I don’t know what to think”

    So, I am sure it’s pretty much what she’s thinking and read it again, it’s the same problem as you are having. He is getting you both when he wants.

    Now, it’s up to you to end it and love yourself better. It’s NOT easy, it’s very hard and you will cry and miss him a lot. But in the end, you didn’t waste more time on him.

    This kind of guy knows exactly what to say to keep the girl around, but it’s not worth it.
    There ARE guys out there, trust me. You don’t see now because you are blind, but as soon as you step up for yourself, you will start to see the light.
    And I hope his ex girlfriend do the same because he has been playing with her and her feelings for almost a decade.
    Yeah..

    September 2, 2015 at 12:22 pm #455096 Reply
    Newbie

    Hi Kelly,
    I think you need to consider seeking counselling, solid therapy. You show signs of classic borderline syndrome or maybe bi polar disorder. Sleeping with 5 guys in a few months is really a lot in my opinion and matches borderline: low standard for boundaries, give away sex easily. It could also be a reason you get easily addicted to drugs. Look it up. If my intuition is right, you need a good therapist and maybe medication. He/she could really help you further. I’m not a person to say that fast, but i have know girls like you, that showed similar behaviour patterns.

    September 2, 2015 at 12:29 pm #455100 Reply
    Ashley

    wow kelly I’m sorry but you are acting pathetic right now. I’m not trying to be mean but nothing is getting through to you! you let a guy have sex with you who said he isn’t attracted to you? you need to have dignity & self respect. a guy will have sex with basically anyone. not exactly a big compliment that he had sex with you. that has nothing to do with anything. when you don’t value yourself, no one else will either. you need to seek professional help

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