Should I Block His Number?

So this forum has changed my life in terms of understanding men, what to be mindful of when dating and empowering myself as a woman. I even bought the book ‘He’s Just Not that Into You’.

And yet… Here I go writing a question in my heart I think I know the answer to…

I met this younger guy (14 yrs younger. I’m 40 he’s 26) in January on Match and we emailed for six weeks. (This is back before I knew they should be initiating face to face contact asap. I no longer do that! Now I expect a meet up within a week or Im done.) Anyway, he asked my number and texted me two days later. He is shy and kind of a tech nerd which is a total turn on for me. I figured there was no way we would have a long term relationship but I thought a fling would be nice. (Just got divorced 4 months prior but had been divorced in my heart for years)

Within a week we met up (his invite) had drinks and ended up shutting the bar down talking for over 7 hours. End of the night we kissed outside my car for like 20 min. I was shocked that I felt such a connection to someone so much younger than me. He texted me when he got home and said he couldn’t wait to see me again, though he didn’t ask me out again for another week. He did text every couple of days. So two weeks to the day we go out on another date and it was even better than the first. We talked, held hands and shut that bar down (5 hrs) as well then made out in his car for three hours.

I told him I wasn’t looking for anything serious he said he was focusing on his career right now so seemed we were on the same page. The third date we had amazing (for me) sex. Stayed up all night till 5am talking. Sex in the morning. He had invited me to stay the whole night at his place as well as pick me up and drop me home.

Here’s where the problems come. On that third date he told me he had told his mom and sister about me (they are two of his best friends) but that he didn’t tell them how old I was. When I asked if it would concern them that I was older he said “I just don’t want your age to be the first thing they think of when I talk about you”. I was frankly confused of why he would be talking about me to them anyway… And he also said he told his best friend ‘all about me’. Then he told me a story about a couple his parents know where the woman is 17 yrs older and they’ve been married 30 yrs. I have to admit all those words played with my head.

And I don’t know why I didn’t question him on why he was telling me all these things that night except I was just trying to have a good time not read into words and I thought I would have other opportunities. But no.. He has not asked me out again since that third date. We had only been getting to know each other three months when I slept with him but I thought at best it could be a FWB thing so wasn’t overly worried.

Now it has been seven weeks since that amazing (for me) night and the first two weeks he would randomly text, ask where I was, what I was up to, flirt a little then drop off. He even texted me for over an hour on St Patricks day when he was downtown with all his friends (and loads of cute girls around). Then a month went by where he didn’t contact me at all. Now this week, he texts out of the blue asked how I’ve been doing. I wish I hadn’t replied but four days later I was very short and said hoped he was well and that I am fabulous (which I have been) He wrote back well that’s great, then told me his job is going well. Then nothing else. That was yesterday at 6pm. WTF?

I guess I def developed a crush on this guy and can’t believe I’m still sad about his NC and disappointed in myself. Wondering if I should block his number and why the hell he won’t just stop randomly texting me. I feel like writing him back and saying leave me alone.

Please don’t yell at me on here. I have not acted this way with any other men so far while dating and have had great sex since him. I just can’t seem to shake this one;(