Should I block or delete him?

You just posted, ‘Why I can’t let go of a idea of this guy?’

Leave him alone…

And Yes delete him

Now I read your other message I can see the full picture.

You keep writing every few weeks, to a guy who hasn’t replied back. he isn’t doing anything to encourage this, you’re doing this to yourself. He clearly no longer feels the chemistry you think you did – but it’s been so long that you’re obsessed with an image of him. You don’t even know this man any more. He may well have a girlfriend by now – and even if he didn’t, he’s clearly not interested in you any more.

Delete everythig, and block him on all social media. Lose his number. Get professional help – it’s not normal to fixate on a person this much and be unable to accept that they have moved on after a year of them blanking you. If it’s right that this ‘chemistry’ was basically a few dates, then this is really a disproportionate response. We’ve all had chemistry with people it hasn’t worked out with (I’m like an expert in finding guys who just got a girlfriend :/) but you have to move on. Look after yourself and do other stuff.

Its always bets to do BOTH if its clear as day a guy isn’t interested in pursuing anything with you.

I learned this lesson when I was a teenager, whereas I liked a guy who was showing me a lot of interest, and then suddenly stopped. I was confused I would try calling him, and wait by the phone for his call until by dad sat me down and explained to me that a man who is showing a lot of interest will be the one calling me and wanting to see me, if they don’t, then you need to stop chasing them. He was right! When a guy is really interested I had to do NOTHING but sit back and just show up when they asked me out, and when they stopped, it was my cue to stop bugging or pestering him because there would be another interested guy who would take their place, often within in a short period of time. I was able to connect the dots, and understand how interest can wane when I stopped liking a guy back, and it didn’t feel good when they were the one’s who kept calling or trying to keep me interested when I wanted nothing to do with them.

Trust me, it really sucks for the party who’s not interested to be pestered, bothered or worse case, stalked, which has happened to me, when those feelings aren’t reciprocated! This is why its BEST to remove ANY and ALL evidence of a guy when its clear they are no longer interested so to help you not only get over them faster but so you don’t *get stuck* in a one-sided crush, unrequited love, or limerence situation for too long as it could lead to long term emotional, mental or health problems.

Clinging onto men who clearly have and are showing no interest in pursuing anything romantic with you, isn’t worth the mental or emotional energy one spends spinning or twisting their brain into a knot. By removing them from your life the moment they stop showing interest, will help your mind to get over them faster so you can be emotionally available and open for the *right man* to enter your life. If these men are blocking you from doing this, then YOU need too delete and block all traces of them, so you’re not only tempted to reach out but so YOU can start the process of re-training your brain to stop thinking of them…like they say “out of sight, out of mind”—this is the best and fastest approach that’s worked for me!

I didn’t accuse you of being BOS. I said you sound like her. She was finally bounced out of here because she kept posting over and over and over about a lot of irrational things. She couldn’t stop and she was finally asked to leave.

You’re talking out of both sides of your mouth. On one hand you know you’re acting like a stalker and you can understand how the guys wouldn’t like it and then you talk like stalker.

You are hooked on this situation and if you keep posting here and aren’t getting any better after a year, I repeat that you need to seek professional counseling and using this site will only make you worse not better. We’ve seen how that goes here.

My two cents. I won’t post on your threads again. Obsessing like this over men won’t lead to any kind of healthy relationship or happiness for you. I hope you find someone to help you work through this.

I by no means want to offend you but the way you write, the impulse behaviour, sleeping with guys and then being all over the place, having serious issues with self esteem (i remember your old posts where you were so worried what others would think of you) are all signs of borderline. Im not a doctor and this is the internet, but if you never had any type of counseling and you keep taking sort of self destructive paths, you may want to look into it. I have known a few borderline diagnosed persons and after that became clear, they got help.
Its not that i think youre some sort of basket case but because i think youre young, have a bubbly personality but somehow cant recognize whats good for you and whats not maybe because of upbringing or some chemical unbalance in your body. If this all makes zero sense to you, thats fine too. Good luck