Should I Bring It Up?

Anon, I disagree its this low. Women have become another consumer good in the shop window, as men have now been abdicated by society to grow up, whereas many are also being raised by “single moms” who do everything for them, so they see no benefit in growing up when they can easily hit a bar and bring a lady home even when still living with mommy at the age of 30! Lots of these posts where the lady comes here trying to get him to commit to her, like the movie “failure to launch” with no happy ending.

Men have been taught by society they don’t have to be in a relationship to get easy access to sex. I recently talked to a single guy, age 29, and asked him “isn’t it exhausting constantly having to find a woman to have sex with?” He replied, “its actually pretty easy.” He’s seeing two ladies right now and has zero desire to be in a relationship with either of them. Its the ‘male mentality’ today where they see absolutely nothing wrong with it, know when the lady want’s more, which is when he sends her packing (fades out, bounces, goes poof). They’ve been trained and conditioned by society to engage in this behavior, to the point, its no different than them washing their car, grabbing something to eat, or meeting a lady for sex—its become a regular routine for single men. BTW, he was only a few courses short from attaining his Biology degree, then switched to Accounting, while bartending part-time—just another man-boy who doesn’t want to, nor needs to, grow up.

Of course good looking men (6/7 – 10 range) are going to have it much easier than non good looking men (6/5 and under); however, if they have a lot of charisma, a good career/job, they too can score if they learn ‘the shopping game’ well enough. My ex husband, aged 56 does this himself, since our divorce a decade ago, where my youngest son calls him a “man whore!” A couple ladies hanged on for a year or so only to find out he had no intention of ever committing to her. He told me this a month ago when I asked what happened to him and his last GF while discussing our eldest son’s upcoming wedding, as it appeared to me they were very “committed” and thought he would marry her. This is how men can so easily enjoy the *girlfriend experience* without having any intention of taking it past that stage. Sadly, it took that lady over a year to find this out :o(

All I’m going to say is I am sooooooo glad I dated in the 80’s when men were still taught by society to grow up and did so primarily out of high school v. today, where they are just ambling through life with no plans or goals. I truly feel for the young women who are out there truly looking for a relationship, only to find tons of these duds.

@honeypie Well the reason he said it is because I said something along the lines of “I really had fun”….and so he said he did to, then said if that means I want to have more fun. Then that’s when I said “I think that’s a conversation we should have in person lol” . So really I brought it up, and he didn’t keep pressing on the issue, we quickly changed the subject. We have met twice already since then and have another date planned.

Good response, although his question is an insult.

Just clarifying Amanda- you’ve been out twice again since he sent that text? And have you had sex on those occasions?

Yes, saying you had fun is offering yourself.

Lane,
I’m not surprised a 29 year old can get laid with zero effort, but that 54 year old is probably paying for a lot of drinks and dinners to get laid. Or is stringing women along with “almost relationships”. Lots of men stay really vague…. a hot guy will be upfront about looking for casual. Marginal ones are “open to see where things go”. Also, hook ups are pretty shallow. I dont care about a guys job if I am just looking for sex.

I think it’s always been pretty easy for the top 10% of men to get laid (groupies….). Its always easy for women to get laid.

As for this guy, his text would have been a turn off to me…. and a signal that a conversation needed to be had about where this is going. That’s kinda the text you get from a casual guy.