Should I contact him or forget him?

I got a text this morning with a lame ass “Hey”. After a week of silence, THAT’S what he comes to me with? I’ve let him eat static, aka. silence, for 7 hours. He’s going to have to try a lot harder than that.

Unbelievable.
Actually, no….not really.

Phoebe,
I agree I would not have responded quickly after a week, but also do not think it is good for you to let it get to you.
What is the goal of letting him stew? Do you want another chance at a relationship or are you content to let him go? I am not a big fan of tit for tat games and would rather know where you guys stand. I might have let it go 24 hours and then responded to him with a similarly cool “hey.”

I was going to get back to him tonight.

The thing is, Celeste, I have had to do all the work in this “relationship” with him, even though he’s the one who instigated it. As well as the exclusivity talk. He has been “too busy” to see me for months, and if I don’t contact him, we don’t talk. He has always been a bad initiator as far as that goes, and I don’t need to hear from him every day, as I’m busy with work and my kids, but I’ve let him know that when for some reason more than 4 days goes by, and HE doesn’t hear from ME, it would mean a lot to me to just drop me a line or something to touchbase.

We have seen each other 3 times in the last 6 months. Yes, you read that correctly. He did have some personal issues going on with work, grad school, and his ex-gf with whom he has an infant with…and he tends to pull back when dealing with things. So I left him alone, and we would text here and there, and I even managed to get him to call me a couple of times. I gave him alllll the space in the world, but still let him understand that I was into him, etc. So we saw each other ONCE in March, ONCE in April, and ONCE in May.

After grad school ended in May, he told me that we would have more time to spend together, and actually get this back on track. Ummmm….hasn’t happened.

So now I’m to the point where I have made myself SO emotionally distant when we’re in these vacuums, that I feel like I’m fighting an uphill battle in rollerskates.

It’s frustration reaching epic levels, and I know myself…..I tend to lash out with bitter sarcasm when I get angry, which is something I have controlled very well over the last two years with therapy to deal with my own issues…..and that’s why I’ve held off replying. It annoys me that he can “disappear”, and think that it’s okay to throw me a little crumb of attention now and then, and expect me to jump at it.

I don’t need a man to complete me….been divorced taking care of three kids on my own for 6 years. And to be truthful, I might as well have been a single parent while I was married too. :-/ But to be #11 on a list of importance from 1 to 5…..no.

Sorry. Bit of a rant. lol Been an emotional week. My youngest ‘graduated’ from elementary school yesterday, and my oldest graduated from high school. And she finally got her license today, as she passed her road test….and starts her college math course on MOnday….and I’m STILL trying to get my hands on a car for her, b/c we only have mine. My middle kid has been driving me nuts, and summer vacation hasn’t even started. My brain is totally fried.

Oh trust me…I don’t consider him to be my boyfriend.

Thinking that’s a big 10-4.
Although technically, there’s no “relationship” to dump him from. lol

Hi everyone:
I have a weir situation in which I went out with a guy to have a few drinks (I have known the guy for a while already) we went out and had a good time and then we ended up at his apartment. We made out and had a good time. At the next day he texted me saying good morning… We exchanged a couple of texts and then I didn’t heard about him again. I text him a couple of days later and no reply. Today I went into my Facebook and searched for him and now we are not Facebook friends anymore… My heart broke into many little pieces.
Why people do things like this? I think that I least I deserve an explanation. I am extremely confused and feel used :(

Phoebe,
I also dated someone for a few months, resisted being exclusive, then decided to see how it goes. He was wonderful except very unreliable. He would make plans for a Saturday then not call or text AT ALL. I immediately called him on his inconsiderate behavior, he apologized. We continued dating but my antennae were up. He pulled a similar stunt of promising to come over and make me dinner then never calling/texting, NOTHING! I called him that night and broke it off saying he has issues to resolve, good luck and good bye. I was ready to rip his clothes off if he had come over to make me dinner. I was so close but not blind to how sad and hurt he made me feel. So, moving on. Best of luck!