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Rose
Do yourself a favor and delete him. You don’t need someone like him, you need someone that actually cares about you.
If you delete him who cares what he thinks? It will only show him you have moved on and that’s good because you regain control of your life.
NurseJ
I swear we might have been seeing the same guy! He went to a festival an slept around and everything. And I also questioned if drugs were involved. We are not exclusive, but man I felt we were developing something special. Crazy! Now he is MIA for 2 weeks. It’s actually very interesting to think another girl has dealt with this same type of thing. How were you after deleting him from FB? I’m right at that level right now. If someone can go 2 weeks without talking to you-what kind of friend is that?
Iris
Hi MD, I read your post from July 20th. I hope that when you read mine, you had succeed in moving on and be the wonderful girl you are. Funny but we both had the person we love the most going MIA. He stopped texting me when I told him I was sick and my grandfather had pass away and couldn’t come over! So on July 25, 2015 he completely disappeared on me. I never attempted to reach out to him because for a year I tried to reach up to him and he only used me as a bridge to get himself better after his break up and as a booty call. He new he was my first and that I loved him. So he took advantage of my naivite and made me believe I was in a relationship until I caught up with his game and stopped going. So it took me several month to delete him from my PSN account online. But I did because
Of self respect and the fact that it was ovious he never wanted me and keep trying was just making me physically and mentally sick. So no one is worth that much sacrifice when they don’t care! You waste time and time is what we don’t have and can’t replace! So take the time to heal and enjoy life there will be someone that will truly appreciates you for who you are, beginning with yourself! Wish you all the best and things like this take time no one can judge how long it takes for you to heal!Senorita
You say hes a decent person, the thing is some of these guys can be decent people but not in relationships. Relationships bring out all different emotions and feelings within people.
You first have to forgive him and forgive yourself, then u can move on, you’re not right for each other and u know that.
If u are in doubt which we all know we have sometimes, just think if its meant to be God wouldn’t be taking him away from u, he would make sure it worked for u in the end.
This guy is not the right one he’s a lesson that you had to learn in life.Maria
No “decent” person would go MIA on a friend or on anyone for that matter, given that there was a relationship. it is more than disrespectful, it is abusive.
My ex would do “silent treatment” on me. Ignore my messages unless I ask to see him. Then he’d want to see me on a 15-min notice and have intimacy, so a booty call, somewhat in reverse, but not quite if you think about. He would stop contacting me on his own. But always “invite” me to contact him. He would not be interested in me or my life, not having any meaningful conversations, but hours of intimacy. We were friends too, before we became romantically involved, and this is why it was so effing hurtful. Later he started saying mean things, so progressing from bad to horrible. He would not provide me any explanation to any of my questions, so completely dismissing me as a person, and staying in contact merely with my body pretty much….After each intimacy he would say something insulting, I cried for days afterwards. After we finally broke up I sobbed for weeks.
These things are all an emotional abuse, please recognize it for what it is and GET OUT. No decent person would inflict anything like that to another.
Suzanne
Hi
I met an great guy in my class. We have talk and then chatting.. basically I like him..so he use give me signs in class..so one day I saw a photo of a girl with him and delete him..but end up talking back to him in class.anyways to make things short I ask him out many times.he always busy..now his messages r like never..I want to delete him and move on..I can’t force someone to love me..what u thinkEmma
No Suzanne you can’t force anyone.
Stop asking guys out. You are emasculating them and making yourself easy, no value girl.
You don’t have to delete him but you need to stop contacting and pestering him. If you saw a photo of him with a girl you could have asked him if this was his GF or not. But regardless do not chase men, be a challenge.
Kosm
Delete him… from fb and your life.
No guy who treats you this way will turn around and suddenly change. You deserve respect. You deserve to not be lied to. Don’t waste your time and precious youth on someone who treats you this way. You’re better than this.
I had a guy in my life who would be in my life, claim he cared so much and then suddenly vanish, only to reappear with more lies. I always fell for it, hoping he would change. Guess what? He’s married now. I lost 4 years of my life to this loser. Don’t make the mistake I made.Angie
I have had a similar situation. Don’t settle.
Maggie
I met a guy through Facebook, we texted for a while and then decided to meet for coffee. We hit it off great, we stayed at the coffee place until closing time. When I went back home and he sent me a text saying how much he loved my company, loved the way I looked and complimented my smile and giggles. He was on top of the world for meeting his perfect match. We texted until 4am after our first date, it was amazing.
He suggested we meet again for coffee, and stated that he missed me too much to wait until the weekend. He came to pick me up two days later and it just wasn’t the same.
He started asking me questions in a sarcastic tome, if I was a shopaholic, why I buy so much clothes. I was wearing a nice pair of tights that evening, (I’m in excellent shape so I’m proud to show off my shape), he jokingly asked if my tights were a size too small. I was stunned, was this the same guy? He continued to be snarly asking why my siblings were not married, made a comment that my skin was too pale and so on. Also said he didn’t care what I thought of him when I asked why he was so cocky.
I wanted the evening to end and just disappear from his presence. As the coffee date was coming to an end, I told him it was the last time he was seeing me. He was surprised and taken a back. He explained that he was only joking and that he really likes me. I stood by my decision said goodbye. He drove me home, as I left he his car he did not try to stop me, nor did he apologize. He sent me a text wishing me good night. I in return, I replied back that he had to have the last word yet again. After that, we didn’t communicate again. He would go on messenger and wait for hours to see if I would make the first move, I did not. Two weeks later, he posted on Facebook and I made the first move to “like” his post. He ignored me completely. He went on to messenger, waited to see if I would text him. I was fed up at this point and deleted him from Facebook and messenger. We still have each other on Instagram but we don’t communicate.
We both developed feelings for each other, we were texting day and night, taking it slow. We seemed to have so many things in common. I adored his company and he adored mine, until that last date.
I don’t want to contact him again, I’ll look stupid and needy if I do after deleting him.I do miss him. I would appreciate your thoughts and suggestions.
Raven
Maggie, You had 2 dates?
Maggie
Only two, yes. I think the mistake I made was spending all those days/hours texting. I know two days is not enough to amount to anything but I do miss him just the same.
Angie
This is my story. I met him in another country at a club (i know…club red flag) we had this instant connection – very strong as he later said. He didn’t want to let me go without taking my number so i gave him my facebook contact. I left to go to my country the next day…I felt like I fell in love at first sight. There was no contact from him until a month later and I obviously didn’t contact him. He then one day send me a message on fb and it started…we were really into each other, heart emojis etc he wanted to visit me in my country but then he started to text less and be more distant..i started asking questions but he seemed quiet no giving me answers – this contact with him was only for a month. he gave short answers like that he’s single etc. but short and not really explaining what’s happening..I felt i was maybe too needy and also stopped messaging so then he asked me if i am mad at him, I replied no…just giving you breathing space …he sent me a kiss emoji with a heart and that was it…I thought he was glad I am giving him space but i was confused and having him on fb was making me really obsess with him as to what does he really want etc. so I decided to unfriend him on facebook…it’s a week now and haven’t heard from him…i feel relief but at the same time as if i lost something…I was going crazy because of him and felt like he was just ignoring me towards the end. Anyways…still thinking about him…will he come back?
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