Should I go on a first date with him

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January 4, 2022 at 4:27 pm #930471 Reply

Pita

one of my OLD guys wanted to ask me out to dinner. We were lightly flirting. All was going well, then he asked me if we had set a date for dinner yet. I replied, “no. did you want to set something up now? I dont come home until next week”

and his response was “if its not on the calendar, it’s not happening.”
I responded with an “ouch lol”

What do y’all think? Should I try for a first date, or does he sound too aggressive? I personally got a gut instinct that he sounds crazy, but a couple friends said to give him the benefit of the doubt.

Thank you!

January 4, 2022 at 6:33 pm #930475 Reply

Raven

He sounds like a doofus… HE didn’t follow up with you?

January 4, 2022 at 8:20 pm #930478 Reply

Maddie

Don’t ignore the gut instinct, especially for people over OLD!!! Listen to it. Why does this guy deserve the benefit of the doubt when you haven’t even met and he’s been weird about setting up a time?

January 4, 2022 at 9:49 pm #930480 Reply

Pita

Lol thanks ladies.

Yeah, the last resounds was from me…. “ouch lol”

I guess he’s either embarrassed or confused or whatever, but it’s not worth initiating anything. Y’all are right. He also needs to learn a lesson, and that is, you don’t ever entice a woman to dinner by telling her “if our date is not put on the calendar, its not happening”

I mean, who says that! What an idiot

January 5, 2022 at 7:57 pm #930510 Reply

Trixie

He was meaning “yes”. To get in on the calendar

January 8, 2022 at 5:39 pm #930594 Reply

Pita

I understand that Trixie, but the way he made that come across was disgusting in my opinion.
He could have said…Yes.

I guess i have standards.
And now that it’s been a few days since I’ve deleted him, i can absolutely confirm i would never want to go out on a date with a man who tells me…”if it’s not on the calendar, it ain’t happening. ” that’s also tacky grammar.

Seriously, if men are reading this, please don’t EVER respond with that when a woman asks you if you would like to schedule the date now, after he initiates the question.
But, to each their own. He would be better matched with a woman who doesn’t mind that language.

January 10, 2022 at 1:35 pm #930626 Reply

mama

I don’t know why that line is creating such a negative reaction — it seems clumsy, yes, but that’s about it. Not intending to offend, but I feel your response could be construed as a bit clumsy as well.

Who knows. But the fact that you guys are not in sync with communication to such a degree before even meeting is enough to not pursue it anymore.
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