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Laura
I’ve been with my partner for over a year now. We had a conversation the other day of how his best mate had added his ex on social media and he couldnt understand it. I thought it was a bit weird but I just told him to leave em to it. Then today the same mate has tried to ad me so I told my boyfriend and he asked what did I do and I told him I’ve ignored it and told him and he told me to block him so I did. Then he started going all quiet on me saying that hes trying to ad me because I get on well with him and I’m too friendly and it was like hes accusing me of chatting to him behind his back or something and was really funny with me. Then he told me hes deleting his social media and he has. All the times I found out his was chatting to women on facebook behind my back and ge never done it but has now his mate tried to add me. I have honestly had nothing to do with this guy I blocked him straight away but my boyfriend maming me feel I’m in the wrong. I wish I hadn’t said anything now but I’m an honest person just feel a bit crappy now and im feeling like im trying to talk to him like im in the wrong. Do you think I shouldnt have said anything?
Dangerouse
It will be ok. Once you both graduate from high school, social media will seem less important.
kaye
Your post is all over the place and very hard to understand! Did his best friend add your boyfriend’s ex or his own ex? I’m not clear what’s going on but it sounds like he’s upset with you and deleting his social media just because his best friend tried to add you? Isn’t that what social media is all about? And what is this about his chatting with other women on FB behind your back? If you’re been together over a year what happened with that? You haven’t done anything wrong and have nothing to apologize for. To me it sounds like he’s got something to hide and maybe he’s afraid his friend is going to tell you something you may not want to hear.
Laura
My boyfriends best friend added my boyfriends ex and I did the homest thing and tell my boyfriend he tried to add me today but it feels like hes upset with me over it and has deleted his profile because of it. I found out last year my boyfriend was chatting to another woman on social media behind my back and he never would delete his account then but after his mate is trying to add me he wants to fo it I think it’s weird.
ANM StaffKeymasterMod update: Hi Laura –
I’ve noticed that you’ve reached-out to the community on other occasions, and I hope your interactions with this community have helped you.
When you had started participating with this community, things were different around here. Recently, we’ve started tightening-up some of our community guidelines, and that’s why I’m speaking to you now.
One of the things we’re asking from our community participants is to choose a consistent pseudonym. This will help our community draw-together threads and topics posted by an individual, which is a good thing. Helping the community draw-together your history when asking for advice shows respect for the community’s time and effort spent in replying with their advice.
My posting here isn’t meant as a call-out, or to cause embarrassment. We have many community members which visit here once or twice a month for years, participating in good faith, and they were just accustomed to using a new name for every topic. That’s in the past; we’re nudging things in this new direction moving forward, and I’ve been leaving similar messages for other community members as I happen to see them. In fact, I left a very similar message with a different community member just the other day – it was common for some of our frequent visitors to change names.
Please keep this in mind next time you start a thread. (And, it’s fine if you settle on a new consistent name other than Laura next time, as long as you make it clear you’ve posted before.)
Thanks!
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