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Alice
Hey guys, I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. He’s got something big going on and it’s been stressing him out and he doesn’t like to bring it up at all.
I brought it up today and it made him distant and have a couldn’t be bothered attitude. I can tell he’s terrified about it and he tries hard to block it out by watching tv or being on his PlayStation.
Anyway, I brought it up today because I know that thing is approaching and I wanted to know the plans for it and if I should be apart of it. He wasn’t feeling it and abruptly ended our phone call.
Should I call him or should I wait till he reaches out? Thanks.
cupcake
What’s “the big thing” that is approaching? Difficult to give advise without knowing that.
Raven
Yes, what is the event?
Alice
It’s a hearing for drunk and disorderly. It happened just before we met and he told me about it on our fifth date. He told me his parents were really angry at all that night and since then he’s been teetotal.
I don’t drink at all so not drinking doesn’t bother me. I can tell he regrets it and is somewhat scared. A few times now when someone was drinking/drunk/loud in like an party event or something, he will leave and text me to go to a coffee shop, If I’m busy he’ll phone me in the car for hours.
I’m not sure how to go about it. He doesnt like talking about it, and he doesn’t want me there with him.
AngieBaby
You’ve known him 18 months and it happened before you met, and this is just now going to court?? That doesn’t make sense. The court system can be slow, but holy cannoli that’s slow. Have you seen any other issues with him drinking while you’ve been together? What exactly happened, has he told you?
You should back off and leave him alone, he needs to go to court alone, but you do really need to know exactly what happened and what the court decides. The whole truth.
And how old are you two?
Newbie
He clearly doesnt want to talk about it. So why do you want to talk about it? For yourself? You already asked his plans, he shut it down.
Let him come to you. If he is sorry, i can imagine its embarrashing to talk about it. And even then, whats there to say? He dreads the outcome and tries to forget it.
If you trust him, he is sorry etc, then let him be.
If you feel you dont know enough details about what happened and you do have trust issues. Thats a different thing and outside the scope of your questionElizabeth may
Hi everyone, Im new to this so I don’t know where to publish my own personal question and I’m sorry that I’m off topic. Hope all goes well with you. However:
Will an ex bf come back after not trusting him?
My ex and I were together for about a year and connected quite easily after talking. Our connection was organic and real, nothing got in between of it. We loved each other, and did everything. However, eventually I became a bit jealous about him (following lots of girls). I told him I was fine with the whole concept of “following girls” as I followed boys to however the extent of it was what bothered me. It was quite often that he did this and I just did not like it one bit. I gave my all to him and felt as if I did not deserve that. I would Always bug him about it and he would always tell me it was getting old. Yet I still continued. One day, enough was enough and he decided to ended things. The break up was great! I cried, however, I accepted his decision and we called and he even told me how good of a person I was and that he didn’t not want to do this I just did not trust him. He even mentioned that maybe in the future we could revisit our relationship. A month later he told his close friend that he missed me and I was always wondering why he did not come back. I eventually confronted him about it, and all I got were mixed signals. A girl got in the way a few months after the break up and I was jealous, he believed the girl buy ended up believing me when I told him what really happened. I just want to know… is there a chance he’ll come back? -
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