Should I let him initiate all contact?

Are you Rose with the guy with the can’t get his penis up problem ??? Or another Rose ??

Either way…let him initiate.

Too funny Harley! This is the Rose you are referring to but no, she is a different Rose. LOL!!! I have left my guy alone and don’t text him. He text me last night – Rose. That’s it. I didn’t respond. I am trying girl.

To this Rose, yes, let him initiate contact to show his interest. If I learned anything on here, it was don’t pursue him, let him pursue you. I stopped texting this guy I was seeing (it’s only been 2 days) and I can already see it is getting to him. But as Harley said, he has bigger issues that I cannot help him with. He needs the V pill to get there. So whether he’s interested or not, that’s a whole issue in itself that has me disinterested!

Hope all goes well for you dear.

This gets too confusing when you all have the same names !

I do not suggest playing it cool, but I also do not suggest contacting him. I usually wait until date 4 or if I have something unusual to discuss….

For example, this last week, I went on date 2 with awesome guy. Date was amazing, and he texted the next day to tell me he had fun. I was out of town this past weekend for a big music event, and I texted him on Sunday telling him all the fun things I was up to. This was rare and vulnerable for me. But, I thought it was ok because A. I was time bound B. I was at an unusual out of town event C. I made no mention to the future

When you hear from him, be excited about it, no need to play it cool! Be warm and playful!

If I were you, I would reach out and just ask how was his week so far and let him take it from there. If he answers in one word answers then I would stop msging him …

Rose,

I think at this point you might be over thinking this whole situation a little bit. If you would like to text him then go ahead and do it! Guys don’t enjoy game playing, and he might respect the fact that you’re not making him do all of the work. If he doesn’t reply, he doesn’t deserve you anyway. Either way it will kill the suspense a little bit.

Good luck!

Meg
http://www.Flirtygirls.org

UPDATE:

So on Thursday morning I decided to contact him… I thought it was odd I hadn’t heard from him in 3 days, when up until Sunday we had been messaging every day. And on Sunday morning when I left his house he didn’t want me to leave, and he seemed VERY into me..
We had also kind of been taking it in turns to text, although I did let him initiate more than me.. So I figured maybe he was just waiting for me to message him (I did after all tell him I wasn’t going to sleep with him saturday night, so maybe he thought I wasn’t interested in him??)

Anyway, he replied to my message straight away. Told me he had got back very early that morning from a random road trip with friends. They randomly decided to go on Monday. So it explains the silence for 3 days! (I wonder if I had held off a little longer, maybe he would have text me on Thursday later on in the day?)

He then proceeded to send me a bunch of photos from his trip, which I thought was sweet of him, and so I told they were great photos and told him I was going on a road trip myself this weekend.
He then asked when I was back, and I told him I would be back Sunday. I then asked him if he had been to the city I was visiting (just to make conversation) and what he was up to at the weekend.
He told me he was working saturday but was off on Sunday. And he said he thinks he has been to the city I was going to but wasn’t sure..

So I told him its really beautiful, really arty, has lots of street art, and a river….

Thinking he was going to reply saying yea its beautiful, or at least say hey lets do something Sunday when you return. But nothing, he left me hanging!

I thought about adding, do you want to meet Sunday.. but I still feel he should be the one asking me at this stage. Especially because I didn’t hear from him in 3 days, after we had spent the night again (no sex though)

Now I feel really lame that the conversation ended like that, with my super lame last statement!

Anyway that was Thursday, and I didn’t hear from him on Friday or today Saturday!

I am so confused! He seemed sooo into me, messaging me every day.. I’m trying to figure out what went wrong.

I’ve had a lot of bad luck with men this year, and he’s the first guy I’ve liked in a long time and I thought he liked me too…

Do you think he’s done with this, or is there a chance he will still contact? Even if he does, I don’t know whether to reply as I feel I deserve better than this.

3 or 4 dates is still very early… He can have a change of mind, or maybe just busy with other things. But if you start chasing him, he will most likely lose his interest in you…

So sit tight, do nothing … Lesson that I Learned the hard way

I don’t need constant contact, but as his contact has changed then its making me think hes no longer interested. As i said, up until sunday we we were talking every day, plus he was asking to see me constantly. He hasnt asked to see me this week, or if hes really busy he hasnt made plans for next week
Don’t you think its strange he’s suddenley changed, or am i reading too much into it??

Yes maybe you are right, maybe I am over-analysing… But all I know is that one moment he was texting me all the time, asking to see me… and now he hasn’t initiated contact or asked to see me in a week.
Its the first I really like a guy in a looong time, so I did get excited, and yes I’m disappointed that this seems to have just ended and I have no idea why

UPDATE:

So I never heard from this guy again, I text him almost 2 weeks ago, just incase he thought I wasn’t interested. He responded straight away, and we chatted briefly but then nothing was mentioned about meeting up…He told me he’s been really busy with a project he’s working on and work, so I said to him thats too bad as I was going to ask to meet this week. But he didn’t suggest to meet the following week.

I just don’t understand what happened and I wish I could ask him. Can I do that?
He seemed soooo into me, we had great chemistry, had so much in common… I haven’t liked a guy this much in a long time. We had so much fun, and he was very affectionate, held my hand, put his arm around me, kissed me after the first date, was a gentleman in terms of holding doors open etc…Was texting me everyday, telling me had to see me etc…

I don’t know how someone can go from that to nothing in the space of 3 days?!

I’ve tried moving on, and dated 3 new guys in the past 2 weeks I haven’t heard from him.
But none of these guys match up, they seem like great guys but I don’t feel any chemistry, nothing.

Can I reach out to first guy again and ask what happened? I know it a crazy idea, but its just so strange and I’m beginning to wonder if I did somehting wrong?!

Maybe this is because I”m GenX… but why are you running all your relationships in text and expecting them to work out??

I rarely directly ask a man out. I say, I”m doing blank or going to blank… you should come. Or I say well if you’re interested in doing blank, let me know. In scenario 1 it’s clear I’m doing it anyway (and it’s a statement not a question – don’t say do you want to come?) and in scenario 2 it puts the ball in his court to do the inviting.