should I remind him my birthday is coming or wait for him to forget

I think generally guys don’t view birthdays and holidays as important as women do.

If you know he doesn’t place an emphasis on birthdays and you know you’ll be upset if he forgets, go ahead and give him a heads up.

I don’t think I’d say, “its very important you do something special for my birthday” but maybe something a little more subtle like, “I’m excited! My birthday is in “X” weeks.”

If he’s a good boyfriend he’ll do something nice.

just tell him you want to do something special together for your birthday. he will do something for you. or you can plan a special birthday date together.

don’t make yourself upset or mad. be happy and enjoy your birthday.

My bf and I will have our first valentine’s day this weekend. He is nerdy. doesn’t know how to plan. i am his first girlfriend. Then i took control. I planed something fun, and he told me he would be very happy to do that with me.

WIN WIN! :)

First of all… We share the same name lol! (Not sure if that’s your nickname or what tho).

I’m a dating an unromantic guy who’s been super busy since November. My birthday was coming soon and I expected him to forget about it. So I just pop him a message, told him my birthday is next week babe! Are you gonna spend the day with me?

He apologized profusely and said he forgot about it and had a lot in his mind, which is true, I knew what he was going through with his work. I told him it’s okay and knew he would have forgotten since he’s so overwhelmed at that moment. He did take the time to make up and celebrate the day with me :)

So, just let him know!

Xx
Chrissy

Tell him! If you know you’ll be upset about anything, avoid that as much as you can and just be honest. Genuine honest is always better than a fight.

Hi Crissy.

I’m sorry but Birthdays are big events for your PARENTS so to expect your BF to be all excited about the day you were born is ridiculous.

Men are different than us, if you want to date a woman then date one, but if you want to date a man then expect they won’t want to do all those womanly things or be emotional about stuff like this, sports yes, holidays no. Honestly, my ex husband and I of 20+ years only celebrated our anniversary because that was a “special day” for both of us, the rest don’t really matter in the grand scheme of things.

It was my birthday yesterday and my partner of 6 years forgot. It came up in conversation on Thursday when my friend came round to visit so he knew my birthday was just 3 days away then. I didn’t say anything yesterday to him and I was ok about it but today I’ve woken up upset and angry. This morning he was telling me how forgetful I am(don’t forget anything important) and well I had to say something. So I said to him he needs to have a think about what he’s forgotten about. so after some time he goes and checks the date and comes in and says happy birthday. I’m more angry at this point that he thought it was today, to which he denies saying he was saying it for yesterday. Really don’t feel like talking to him at all for some time. I would never forget his birthday. He has apologised and said he would be upset if I forgot his birthday but stil an apology doesn’t make up for it. If it was me I wouldn’t tell him, he should already know when your birthday is absolutely if he’s particularly forgetful Then every1 had calender alert son their phones these days so there’s no excuse in my opinion. Really hope he doesn’t forget your birthday. Hope u have a nice birthday xx

I agree with Rachel. In my experience they don’t forget anything.

If you are angry then don’t pretend you are not. You have a good reason to be upset, it is your bd and it is important to you, so do tell him. If bds are not important to him, he will learn to appreciate that it is important to you.

If you don’t tell him and he forgets, then next year when it is HIS birthday, do NOT do anything for him, do not even say happy BD. Some people need to experience things to understand what it feels like.

No panties got wound up over mine as they never had to! Set some standards and don’t accept stupid excuses, that’s all I’m saying. If a guy can’t even remember your birthday, it shows how important you are. I’ve never had to remind a guy yet, but he’d get short shrift if he did forget!!! Mind you, I was married a long time, so maybe things have changed!

I forget friends sometimes but never my ex husbands or my now fiance, I can’t see how that happens!!! Like I said above, my husband forgot a couple.of wedding anniversaries but that didn’t bother me , but he would have had no excuse about a birthday. Don’t ask me what the difference is as I can’t say, i just think it would become ingrained!

I have no idea if my bf will forget my birthday or not, but he doesnt have to remember because in the week leading up to it there is always a reason to mention it. For example because youre inviting some friends etc. I forgot his btw. I could tell he was waiting for me to do something and it hit me suddenly. But anyway it serves no purpose to deliberately not mention it, so he can forget it and you can get mad. Thats silly

It was at the top so I responded! Sorry for not noticing!

Do you want to have a Nice birthday, or do you want to be right and hold it over his head?

I completely understand why you’d want to wait it out and see. But if you’re thinking about it that much ahead of time it’s sort of a test and a passive aggressive thing to do.

So I’d just very leisurely let it slip that you’re going to meet a friend of family member ‘for your birthday’ soon.

I know you want him to Remember but I think it’s better for everyone if you give him the reminder so you don’t have to face the possibility of a confrontatie.

No one likes friction, especially in a birthday.