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Darling
Hey there girls, so my boyfriend happens to be insecure as far as I can see, I feel as if he does not like me to get dressed up or wear makeup and look sexy.
There is something about how he behaves when I look put together that informs me that he doesn’t like it.
The funny part is that when I am simple at home, no earrings, necklace just plain It seem like he feels powerful about this!
I don’t know if he has self esteem issues or if he wishes I was something or someone else?!
I also have a new car of the year pretty nice/modern, the other day we went out I let him drive it, my self esteem is pretty good, we went down to best buy to purchase a laptop and I was playing with the tablet cameras, with the professional cameras posing and goofing around and lot’s of people where around and I could tell he looked awkward about ME being to secure posing and trying out the cameras.
I basically feel as if he wanted me to go down a notch or two I hate when some men do this, I don’t get why?!!!
Nevertheless he always admires other women’s looks.and verbally says how beautiful/sexy they look and blah blah lol.
Raven
So why on Earth, is he you BF / are you dating him?!
Peggy
Yeah. what Raven said. You two are not compatible. A guy who suited you and felt you were his type, would be complimenting you and enjoying your goofy posing.
Erin
Looks like he’s not a good match for you, he is insecure, has low self esteem and will end up acting out with mood swings and trying to control you I’ve dated that type before, more trouble than they’re worth.
tammy
i think you guys are not a good fit. he is an introvert and prefers to be low key. and also wants his partner to be low key. he prefers simple natural women and not glamorous women. this seems to be a recipe for disaster.
Maddie
Never let a man put you down using the comparison trap. It’s one thing in an otherwise secure relationship for a guy to make a rare comment here or there about other women being attractive (without comparing them to you), it’s quite another if he’s “always” doing it while taking issue with how you dress and present yourself. If a guy is always comparing you to others (positive OR negative comparisons), it’s a big red flag that he doesn’t respect you properly and is more interested in how you reflect on him than he is interested in you just for who you are.
If your gut feels bad about this situation, trust yourself. Insecure men don’t generally make good long-term partners, either, unless they’re already seriously working on themselves before you get together.
Maddie
To answer your subject line question, yes, you should tell him it bothers you when this happens. His response will tell you more about your compatibility.
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