Should I tell the truth?

If you really want to date him, I’d get another side gig.. You’re right, I’m sure he wouldn’t be okay with it.

This isn’t something that you should lie to a partner about. No judgement on the escorting at all, but if you are having sex with other people you are putting him at risk and he deserves to know. Not to mention, it’s cheating if you have agreed to be sexually exclusive.

So the way I see it, you either be honest with him about it, or get another side gig. If you know he won’t be okay with it (and I’m sure the majority of men would not), and you want to be with him, then stop doing it. If you’ve only had to do it once in the past few months, you aren’t getting that much money from it anyway. I don’t know how much you charge, but let’s say you charge $1000. That’s $1000 in the past 4 months, or $250/month. You can easily find some side gig that will pay you that amount, that you won’t have to be ashamed to tell your boyfriend about.

The fact that you’re asking shows that you care about his feelings and are a good person. How do you feel about being an occasional escort? It’s a new relationship I don’t think he needs to know. He could be sleeping with other women and isn’t necessarily obliged to tell you..Estheticians can make good money right? Is this your passion? If so maybe you can pour your heart into your business..advertise etc. Have your clients tell other people about you. Offer monthly discounts or have a party at the salon or someone’s house to advertise yourself. Surely you are worth more than being an escort. Absolutely no judgment hun but it is worrisome in terms of your safety etc..I don’t think any amount of money is worth your life or self respect etc..all the best

I’m in agreement with Warasen, don’t say nothing but don’t engage in this activity when in a relationship. When your single you are free to see or have sex with anyone you want, whether you are paid with cash, a drink or a nice dinner, as I don’t see the difference honestly, especially in today’s easy sex environment. However, I would not accept this ‘exclusive agreement’ thing either. Its either “GF” with the goal of seeing if there’s a future, or nothing.

I would clarify what he means by ‘exclusive’ because not all men see it the same way so its a slippery slope when using that word v. one you know the meaning of, such as Girlfriend, fiance’, or wife. Get clarification first, then decide if you should give the side job up or not.

What are your feelings for this guy? If you feel like he could be the man you are looking for, then im not sure if holding off on exclusivity would help you. In his mind he will probably think you still want to sleep around while its another reason thats holding you back. I think it does boils down to if you want to stay an escort when money issues are getting urgent.
I think i would rather lie for a while honestly if you really see potential in this man.
Meanwhile if you have a job where your income is so unsure, that you dont even know if you can make ends meet (or ends meat? Lol) then you have the wrong job long term. Of course thats grandma talking here but i say it because i dont want you to lose a guy because you had to find a way to pay the bills

One thing no one’s mentioned… escorting or whatever you want to to dress it up as is ILLEGAL. My brother’s a vice cop and they conduct sting operations all the time. You don’t want a criminal record for prostitution for the rest of your life, do you?? Find another “side gig” for crying out loud.

I would not lie or hide the fact you are escorting. If you do and this progresses to something more serious, he will be furious you kept such a significant piece of info from him.

Granted it may turn some off but a guy who really wants to love you wont be ok with other men inside you. Unless he sees you as something more casual, in that case I suppose he wouldn’t care.

Some men, either way though may be concerned about your genital health and passing something undesirable to them.