Should i text him or ignore?

Seriously… He stood you up.
Why would you ever reconsider him?

Hi Marie, mama and Raven are right. Forget this guy. Things definitely come up but breaking a date because a friend called him and needed to talk? Sorry but I’m not buying that.. he’s stringing you along. Cut the cord.

If we have a meet or talk time scheduled and you don’t show up, you’d better contact me with profuse apologies and a damn good reason why or I’m permanently done with you. In this day and age there is absolutely no excuse for not shooting a text or email or – gasp – calling beforehand to say you can’t make it, unless you’re in a coma or stranded in a mountain pass with no signal. I’m also intolerant of last minute cancellations for BS excuses.

I’ve had a few guys I’ve met online set a time and day but no place. They get one text either the day before or that morning asking for the place and then I’m done with them if they don’t answer. And it’s a strike against them if I have to ask in the first place.

In the cases of those that don’t answer, most don’t ever answer but I’ve had a few come back later with lame excuses or even act like nothing happened and I just block them. Their behavior is too far below the radar for me to even bother to say anything else to them. They’ll just argue back and blame you or throw some other time wasting nonsense at you.

I’m valuable and my time is valuable and I expect both to be respected. I take a hard line with people who show right up front they’re flakes – they are eliminated, because I firmly believe if it happens once, shame on you, if it happens twice, shame on me.

Block and don’t look back – and next time someone no shows and gives a weak excuse, just block and be grateful they showed up front they aren’t worthy.

I’ve had this happen to me plenty, and I made a long standing rule that if someone stands me up before we even meet, they don’t get a second chance. (Standing up is different than giving me an advanced heads up that they are sick or something is happening at work and they may need to postpone our meeting this one time, then in earnest rescheduling with a new day and time as soon as they need to cancel.) I once gave someone a do-over first date because his excuse for being a no show sounded just good enough. We had a fun date, and then he did the **same exact thing again** for the second date, and we never talked again. I’ve also had other online guys act flaky and inconsistent in this way because they had drinking problems.

Remember that the beginning of dating is when they should be trying their hardest to make the best impression. Low effort, flakiness, and standing you up means they’re not worth your time and it won’t get better. It may even get worse! I am with the other posters in, you shouldn’t even bother with him.

Lol is his name Jaymes? Sounds a lot like this douche canoe I knew. Fortunately I saw through his crap and blocked him. He’s playing you. Never meet someone flaky or one who shows up late.