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Leah
This guy I have been talkin to for about 3 month has his bday today…
I met him at a time where I was traveling a lot so we have met in a total of 5 times but he always kept in touch while
I was away. Recently he pulled back which I can understand and to be honest I didn’t see myself with him either but I really don’t like when people you have and talking for a while pull the slow fade away, it’s disrespectful.I made a point to say that communication has changed and it’s ok to be honest but he turned it around me and thought we were both busy lol….
Anyways I don’t have hard feelings I am just a bit annoyed… it’s his bday today and don’t know if i should send a text of
Leave it at that.My main concern is that for whatever reasons I feel guilty if I don’t wish him happy bday.. maybe it’s the people pleaser in me…
Raven
Send him a Happy Birthday if you want…
Don’t do it for any ulterior motive & don’t expect a response…
Do you think he would send you a Happy Birthday text?
vanessa
Don’t. He won’t care.
Khadija
Just send the text. I don’t see how it will help or hurt the situation here.
Prairiegirl
I was ready to advise you to wish him a happy birthday , until you mentioned the slow fade.
Don’t bother with the birthday wishes. It sounds like there is a disconnect on his end. He’s disrespected you. Just let him alone and see if he comes to you, but don’t wait too long
I was a people pleaser once. Don’t feel guilty!
Emma
If you feel disrespected by him than don’t send this text. Don’t try to be nicer than you feel. LOL But in general I don’t see how a short happy bd text would make any difference in this situation.
Phillygirl
The reason the HB text is a bad idea, is because it’s so obvious it’s an attempt to get him to react.
It screams desperation when a guy is already fading on you.
You have to learn not to be a people pleaser to anyone who doesn’t care about your feelings too.
Making someone a priority of any kind is something that is earned, not given carelessly. In other words, you don’t have solid boundaries, and you are seeking his attention to validate yourself. I would stay silent and move on.
If a man acts like he’s losing interest, I don’t chase him. I let him go so the people who deserve my attention have it.
Kathy
What Philly said… AND a guy would NEVER do this if he didn’t care. This guy will think you care for him if you do this. Not what you want a guy who is fading to think!
Leah
Thank you girls!
I think although it doesn’t make the situation better or worse, I think phygirl has a good point about boundaries. If I were to wish him a happy bday it would just make me look like I am accepting the current situation and his behavior, which is accepting the neglect.
It’s not like he was my bf or anything. I won’t text and I think I have a good clarity now! Thnx!!
L
its not ‘neglect’ it’s lack of interest. Men AND Women can decide if they have interest in someone.
Prairiegirl
L makes a very good point. He wasn’t neglecting you. If you were in an exclusive, established relationship and he started detaching and ignoring you ,THAT would be neglect. He never did seem to have enough interest in you.
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