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Maria
A friend introduced me to a guy she knows.
I was away at the time and was using a overseas phone.
He sent his number and I texted him. He called and we started talking. He was more eager to call than I. I was being careful not to be too needy or else.
we were talking for a few days and he started to text less and call only once a day instead of twice as he was doing.
On a Monday he called and had to go attend to so something and said he would call me back soon. I did not hear from him.
and I texted saying I was going to bed and we would talk next day. this was around 9:00 PM my time. Next day he called and I was busy and got home late and tired. Next morning, (Wednesday) I sent a good morning text. NO response.
I waited. On Thursday I sent a text and A voice text. No response. My phone did not work there all the time. sometimes there were no connection at all. On Saturday when I returned to the USA I realized he had blocked my number.
I texted from regular usa number and said I had contacted him. he said he had not gotten any thing, but his phone was acting up and he needed to get a new one.
He called me that evening and we talked and he sent me a new pic of him. he kept asking for a pic of me in one of the pretty beaches over there. I had not gone to the beach while there. I was visiting family and an ill family member.
I end up sending a very decent pic of me on my friends boat. I wearing a bikini. He kept saying don’t be shy about sending me a picture from you at the beach.
before we hang up we agreed I would call before I went to bed to say good night.
I called and he did not pick up.
I tried twice.
Next evening I called and he did not pick up.
Following morning I sent a good morning text and also a text asking if I said or did anything that bothered him, if so to feel free to tell me so I could fix it.
No response. It has been six days.
I have no clue why he blocked me than talks to me nicely for 45 minutes and ignores me again after.
what are your thoughts? Please advice.Raven
A better question for you:
Why do you continue to contact a guy who is ‘telling’ you, he is not interested?!Lane
Wow, you are waaaaay toooo intense! I’m not sure how old or experienced you are in dating so I’m going to take a long shot and say you’ve had little to no experience based on what you wrote here.
First, it is not your job remind a man you exist, its the man’s job to keep reminding you, he exists.
Second, if a man stops responding, you stop responding. Unless he was in a coma at the hospital and it can be validated and verified IF he pops back in I still wouldn’t engage unless there was an actual plan to meet each other, not chit chat.
Third, when a man uses the phone excuse, its a lie! I’m not saying phones can’t break, get wiggy especially after an update or be stolen but trust me, if a man was super into you he would do everything in his power to get to you even if its from someone else’s phone. As an example, the satellite on my partner’s ship stopped working for a few days so he had no way to communicate with me when he was out in the middle of the sea. When the satellite finally worked I had over 20 texts from him that he had sent over those few days, so I call it a load of you know what.
Lastly, stop chasing men! When you chase a man who clearly doesn’t want to be caught by you, it freaks them out! Its like a bear coming at them and they intuitively want to run away from it. It scares the bejeezers out of people when you keep contacting people who don’t want to stay in contact with you. You were borderline “stalker” so in the future, if after one or two texts max; they don’t respond, then you remove them from your phone and life. Easy Peasy.
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Um, why are you chasing this man??!! He is a stranger who is acting really flaky. You should not be initiating anything at all. Nothing, Nada, zilch!
This guy didn’t block you by accident and you probably caught him at a time when he was bored so he responded. All the effort you have gone to to stay in touch with him makes you look quite desperate. You have no idea whether he is interested in you (i mean it should be obvious that he isn’t) because you are chasing him so hard he doesn’t have to show you any real interest. You are overly invested in a man you don’t know. Pull all the way back and just relax. I think he has shown you he is a flake but if you really want to know do nothing and see what he does….
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