sleeping at his without sex, what do i say if he tries?

Khadijah brought up an under-appreciated consideration.

Sleeping over is pretty intimate stuff by itself. Think about it.

Most of the people you share a bed with are important for some reason or another. Significant others, relatives, BFFs. Safe people you already trust. They’ve seen you without makeup. They know you drool in your sleep. They know your breath stinks and you’re cranky in the morning.

Little stuff, everybody does it, but at this stage the door’s still open. It’s best to keep a little mystery alive while you figure each other out. That’s why I only do sleepovers once things get exclusive.

If you want to go slow explain your cut-off point upfront. He’ll be patient if he’s worth it.

Update: I didn’t stay the night at his but was very sweet to him and we had a nice time. He didn’t seem to mind but he has been very distant since Friday when I last saw him. I texted him yesterday something funny and he responded asking how my day was, I answered and he never replied. I’m guessing he’s lost interest right? I won’t contact him again btw, I’ll let him come to me…

I don’t think you should be worried about “offending” him.

Just say, “as much as I am attracted to you, I’m not ready to take that step yet”.

That way he knows you really like him but want to wait.